https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 10:33:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1890354 Mon, 06 Oct 2014 12:54:06 +0000 BadgerMom 1890354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hellobeeboston: I felt the same way, like everyone else said, once he's hear you can't even imagine anything different.</p> <p>I don't like the traditional "boy" clothes either. It's like they take something that otherwise would be a cute print/color and slap a dump truck on the front of it...</p> <p>I've had the best luck at Baby Gap, Old Navy, and H&amp;M and like Stargal said, don't be afraid of the girl's section. We totally buy our jeans there too. They're so much softer! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1890341 Mon, 06 Oct 2014 12:45:54 +0000 stargal 1890341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SerenaSF: old navy and target have some cute stuff. I really particular with how I dress my son. Don't be afraid to look in the girl section for gender neutral stuff. (I buy girl jeans for my son BC boy jeans are so baggy and huge on him) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1890320 Mon, 06 Oct 2014 12:38:36 +0000 bushelandapeck 1890320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely felt dissapointed when I found out LO #1 was a boy...and I immediately felt guilty for feeling that way. I have a sister and she had 3 girls at the time, so I had just assumed I would have a girl as well. Now that he's here, DS is the sweetest, most loving "mamas boy" there is, and his snuggles and "I love you's" to me are just the best. I can't imagine anything else. It's also been fun to learn about the cars, trucks, trains and things that he's naturally draw to, as those were things I had no knowledge of before! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1890314 Mon, 06 Oct 2014 12:35:09 +0000 hellobeeboston 1890314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SerenaSF: Zara and h&amp;m have the cutest boy stuff!!!</p> <p>Having a boy is the greatest!!!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1890305 Mon, 06 Oct 2014 12:32:36 +0000 SerenaSF 1890305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you everyone for the advice/thoughts. Helps to know I'm not the only one that has felt this way before!</p> <p>Like many of you, I can't stand the stereotypical boy attire… camo, ships, trucks, etc. Any links to CUTE and stylish little boy stuff that can make me excited? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1889298 Sun, 05 Oct 2014 15:39:19 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 1889298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: This is part of my struggle. As soon as people found out we were expecting a boy, the super stereotypical clothing started showing up, and I hate it ALL. SO much navy blue and boats/ships/anchors/camo....ugh! I'm going very gender-neutral on clothing, and have no problem returning gifts that aren't my style;-).<br /> @SerenaSF: I had my fair share of tears and anxieties for the same reasons. Now that we're pretty close to his arrival, I'm excited to meet the person he is! If I'm honest, I do hope one day he'll have a little sister (and there's nothing wrong with hoping for that!), but that's also because I have a big brother and we have such a special relationship. When I focus on him as MY child (versus only thinking of other boys I've known a la my neighbor's two rowdy sons that are ill-behaved and rude), I realize it's my choice to raise him right and make him a well behaved little love. Best of luck as you work through these feelings-it sincerely took me a LONG time, and that's totally okay if you need a while to process this! </p> <p>ETA: I love listening to Preggie Pals podcasts, and they talked about this topic which was nice to listen to. Hope you can get something out of it! <a href="http://www.preggiepals.com/dealing-with-gender-disappointment/" rel="nofollow">http://www.preggiepals.com/dealing-with-gender-disappointment/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1889273 Sun, 05 Oct 2014 14:51:11 +0000 jedeve 1889273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have two boys! I was kind of disappointed that #2 was a boy mainly because I wanted to buy cute dresses. But now if we have a third I kind of want a boy again!</p> <p>It helps me to picture what I am excited about with little boys. Some things I love: (not exclusive to boys of course, just things I associate with them/mine)</p> <p>Overalls<br /> Baseball hats<br /> The age when they get really obsessed with dinosaurs or bugs and can name them all<br /> Dressing them in matching flannel shirts with daddy<br /> Bow ties<br /> Teaching them how to be a gentleman. I feel like there is so much awareness now of how important it is to have men respect women in order to stop violence against women, and I am excited to get to teach my boys about equality.<br /> When DH will take them fly fishing and I get the afternoon to myself (one day!!)<br /> Calling them all "my boys"<br /> Jumping in big piles of leaves<br /> Seeing how excited DH is to teach them about his interests, like superheroes!<br /> Splashing in puddles<br /> Teaching them how to bake. I sewed an apron for lo1 that had sports balls all over it<br /> More interesting toys. Most of our toys are gifts, and it's kind of nice not having a million pink dolls and having blocks and boats and train sets. (Again, not that girls can't have those, but it seems people but less of it for girls!)<br /> Jumpers. Chubby baby boy knees in shortalls are my very favorite part of summer.<br /> Boys using your arms as a race track for their cars.<br /> Being the "queen" of the house.<br /> Fall and winter clothes for boys are so cute. I love all the flannel and foxes and bears.<br /> Seeing how much DH loves his mother. </p> <p>The bottom line is, I don't think of my kids as boys. They are just my babies and I love them. You will too! And you will be surprised how quickly bugs and trucks and balls seem SO FUN, just because you love the look on your little boy's face when he is playing with them. And you can still share your interests. LO looooves to bake with me. And DH still keeps his reel for his rod in a little bag he sewed as a boy because he is so proud of it. A toddler boy would love a gymnastics or tumbling class!</p> <p>Boys are wonderful. You'll do great! And at the very least, you'll save a ton of money on clothes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1889236 Sun, 05 Oct 2014 13:20:17 +0000 lady grey 1889236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SerenaSF: I felt similarly, I am not super girly but I really hoped to have a daughter. DS is amazing though and I will just say that it will be easier then you think! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1889202 Sun, 05 Oct 2014 11:45:36 +0000 wrkbrk 1889202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Commenting to follow because I have this same worry. Not TTC via IUI quite yet and although we will of course be happy with any baby, we are only having one, and DW and I will be a two mom family so ... we really will have a learning curve/adjustment if we get a little boy!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1889191 Sun, 05 Oct 2014 11:17:24 +0000 stargal 1889191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I promise once your little boy.is here, you will look back and wonder why you were worried at all. Boy's are so so sweet and you will vond . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1889190 Sun, 05 Oct 2014 11:15:15 +0000 Dandelion 1889190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have 2 boys. In the middle, I lost a girl. When I found out M was a boy, I had these same feelings.</p> <p>But, now I think I'm glad I don't have a girl, and I'm as girly as you are. If I had a girl, I'd be flat broke, buying anything she bats her eyelashes for.</p> <p>I love my boys so much, and they're tons of fun in their own way. Mostly, though, they're alive and healthy and that matters the most. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1889189 Sun, 05 Oct 2014 11:13:56 +0000 youboots 1889189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh sweetie, I hear you. Part of the reason I'm team green is so that I can meet my baby the first time and be excited regardless. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1889161 Sun, 05 Oct 2014 10:38:03 +0000 mlm2934 1889161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Within a day of LO's arrival, all my apprehensions about being a boy's mom completed melted away and I couldn't imagine him having been a girl or even wanting that! He was instantly my perfect child - promise he will steal your heart! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1889152 Sun, 05 Oct 2014 10:14:35 +0000 ShootingStar 1889152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt the same way when I found out I was having a boy. I cried, and then I felt SO BAD that I was upset. I had the same thoughts about not being into boy stuff and wondering how I'd connect with him. But now that I have him, I can't imagine not having him. He's wonderful and amazing I will find ways to stay connected to him as he gets older (he's 10m). </p> <p>My biggest struggle with it still is that I really hate a lot of boy clothes/gender stereotype stuff. I don't like books, toys or clothing that has camo, cars/trucks, bugs, or superheroes. I hate when those kinds of options are the only ones available. And I'm not huge on people buying stuff like that for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1889098 Sun, 05 Oct 2014 08:42:19 +0000 Canoli 1889098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I grew up around girls as well and know nothing about boys! I now have 2 boys and am absolutely in love! Boys are still a mystery to me and they definitely have way more energy than I'm used to but you will most certainly bond with them and love them like you never could imagine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1889060 Sun, 05 Oct 2014 07:21:05 +0000 Bubbles 1889060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know how you feel and also worried about whether I would connect with a boy. My son is only 9 months, but I agree completely with other posters that by the time he starts having boyish interests (if he does), you will already be so completely bonded and in love with him that it won't matter! I still kinda hope that one of my children does end up being a girl, but only so I can experience both! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1889052 Sun, 05 Oct 2014 07:13:32 +0000 artsyfartsy 1889052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could have totally written the same thing. I was excited when I found out I was having a boy, but secretly somewhat disappointed and worried I wouldn't know how to parent a boy. I grew up with only sisters and girl cousins. </p> <p>I warmed up to it pretty quickly. And now I am so so so so in love with this little boy. I actually have a hard time picturing having a girl!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1889048 Sun, 05 Oct 2014 06:58:34 +0000 erwoo 1889048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we found out our second was another boy I cried instantly in the ultrasound room. My husband asked why I'm crying, I just said "it's just the hormones." Secretly, I was reeeeally sad I wasn't going to have a girl. How perfect would one boy and one girl be? Now that my youngest is 2.5 and has the WORST tantrums, ever (!!!!) since birth, I still love him to death. He is such a little ham, has an infectious smile, and we are super close. He is very affectionate and very loving. Says sorry in the cutest and saddest way like he really means it. My two boys are so different. My oldest is very closed and reserved while my youngest is so open and says it like it is. I love them both equally and wouldn't have it any other way. I really wouldn't. I am not a girly girl nor a tom boy but, slowly, I found ways to play with my boys. Sometimes they don't even want me to play with them. Haha! Nothing beats having a good tickle in bed with them which they absolutely just love. Hope this helps make you feel better about having a boy. Oh, and boy clothes are MUCH easier to buy compared to girl clothes too and they sell really cute ones these days as well! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1889047 Sun, 05 Oct 2014 06:56:15 +0000 catomd00 1889047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister could totally relate. Now, she wouldnt change having two boys for anything! You will love and bond with him over all the crazy boy things, I promise! Congrats! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1889035 Sun, 05 Oct 2014 06:19:51 +0000 cmomma17 1889035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SerenaSF: I totally get it! I grew up with a sister and dreamed of being a mom to girls! I wanted to braid hair and wear matching outfits and take my daughters to dance class. I found out I was having a boy and thought "what will I do with a boy?!" That boy is 17 months old now and the absolute light of my life! I don't know what I'd do with a girl at this point! I'm expecting my second boy in late February and I feel like I was always meant to be a boy mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1889020 Sun, 05 Oct 2014 03:25:47 +0000 ScarletBegonia 1889020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, little boys are so amazing!!! I love my son so much. I was team green and didn't really have a preference, except I always wanted one of each - now that I have a boy I hope hope hope I have another one! Whether or not you have a boy that is in to girly stuff, you'll love him to absolute bits. No question in my mind!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1888999 Sun, 05 Oct 2014 01:05:47 +0000 Kimberlybee 1888999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a super girly girl and LOVES arts and crafts, princess movies, purple and hot pink but when I took in my niece and nephew to live with us for almost 5 years, I was able to bond with them both in different ways. My nephew got me to love drawing dinosaurs, vehicles, and different animals. It was really refreshing to learn new things outside of my comfort zone. You'll LOVE having a boy, their hearts belong to their mama forever!!! They will be tough for daddy but always have a sift spot for mommy (generally speaking of course!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1888980 Sat, 04 Oct 2014 23:21:49 +0000 marionberry 1888980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was a super girly girl who grew up with sisters so I was just as surprised to find out I was having a boy. But as soon as he was born I was super in love and like others have said, I enjoy doing things he likes just to see him happy. This pregnancy I am also hoping for a girl but I know that if the twins are both boys I'll love them just the same way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1888976 Sat, 04 Oct 2014 22:54:24 +0000 DigAPony 1888976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was very nervous about having a boy and was even a little disappointed when we found out, because I'd always just pictured myself having a daughter. My son is now nearly 11 months old and I cannot imagine having anyone but him! I wouldn't trade him for a girl. He was meant to be mine. It's okay to feel nervous or disappointed--rest assured, you will fall in love with him and it will be great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1888957 Sat, 04 Oct 2014 22:14:24 +0000 mamimami 1888957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't know what to do with a boy! I didn't have disappointment -- we were team green and I had a feeling he'd be a boy, but I did feel nervous about the whole idea. But he's so wonderful and I can't imagine him being anyone else. I have learned a lot about superheroes, that's for sure! And now I have my little girl, too, so it's been perfect all around. Boys love love love their mamas and I have loved being a boy's mama. It gives you so much insight into males. And extra appreciation for them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1888954 Sat, 04 Oct 2014 22:10:26 +0000 pastemoo 1888954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SerenaSF: My kid is 2. I was heartbroken he wasn't a girl--to the point that I FORCED my husband to agree toteam green if we have another kid.<br /> Once the baby is HERE, it will be fine and you will be so happy to have him in your arms that you won'teven think about it.You will learn as you go. But until he is born, you will struggle with this (if you're anything like me. That's ok! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1888929 Sat, 04 Oct 2014 21:38:34 +0000 californiadreams 1888929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt the EXACT same when I found out I was having a boy. Then I had him and while i still want a girl for #2, I find more thoughts creeping in my head about how having 2 boys would be so fun and I might handle a boy better than a girl after all because we have such a special bond. Basically I am utterly in love with my son. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1888926 Sat, 04 Oct 2014 21:34:46 +0000 blackbird 1888926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friend was like this-cried a lot over having a boy. She love love loves her son. Things will interest you because they interest your son. It all about the things that interest him, not you, so that's what takes center stage </p> <p>Plus there was zero guarantee you would have had a girly girl daughter anyways. It'll be water under the bridge in a year. He's healthy and that's what matters </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1888910 Sat, 04 Oct 2014 21:02:27 +0000 Adira 1888910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You'll be fine! When he's born, he's a baby just like any other baby and it won't matter what his sex is! By the time he's old enough to be interested in things like little league or soccer, you will be so in love with him and will have bonded over so many things, that those things won't affect your relationship! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nervous-about-having-a-boy#post-1888909 Sat, 04 Oct 2014 21:01:04 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1888909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You might surprise yourself with truly enjoying the things he will come to love.<br /> I'm a girly girl too and was apprehensive about having a son, but I was surprised at how much I love doing things with him that make him happy. I take him to see dinosaur exhibits, and just seeing his joy makes me love it. He adores trucks and construction equipment and I get excited learning new things with him.<br /> But I've also introduced him to things I enjoy and have no problem saying lets play something I want to do too. </p> <p>I think no one truly knows how much they'll love their child and connect until they are born and it's just amazing. </p>