https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 21:54:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-baby-my-mental-health#post-132643 Sat, 21 Apr 2012 00:47:23 +0000 SAHM0811 132643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a second time mom, but this is my first time having an EBF baby for this long (9.5 months). Starting at month 5, her weight started to plateau... And I've been obsessed with "Is she getting/gaining enough?" since. Do you have a breastfeeding support group nearby to go to? That could really help! I took mine to a breastfeeding drop-in clinic for peace of mind a few weeks ago... The LC's plotted her weight on a graph for me, and gave me reassurance she was doing okay... I felt better about things, but I am still being as aggressive as possible with my feeding her. </p> <p>I have a baby scale at home too. I don't weigh before and after feeds, but I do weigh every morning. LC told me to only check once a week... but I still check everyday because I can't help it. I just tell myself to not expect big changes everyday, but rather weekly.</p> <p>Your baby is getting older though so he should be feeding more efficiently, spending less time at the breast and probably gaining weight at a slower rate than before. I know it's worrisome though and I can understand how it can make you go crazy obsessing. Babies grow so fast the first few months though, that before you know it, their patterns change and you have to adjust to them too. Keep offering to feed him when you think he's hungry and as long as he is peeing adequately, he should be fine. If you can attend a breastfeeding support group, that may help too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-baby-my-mental-health#post-132627 Sat, 21 Apr 2012 00:12:04 +0000 sandy 132627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt like i was going crazy the first few weeks...and even as things got better i would still obsess and worry about things. I know I would obsess about her sleeping and napping and like you I would obsess about her feeding (I track all her feeding times on baby connect). I am also a first time mom and exclusively breastfeed my baby too. I heard a lot of moms end up bottle feeding or going in formula bc they get stressed about whether their baby is getting enough. I would just tell myself that LO is healthy and happy...if she was starving she would be fussy and crying. I would doubt myself as her feeding times got shorter and shorter - I think she went from feeding around 20 - 30 minutes at bedtime to feeding about 10 minutes...she got super efficient around 3 months. It used to take forever to feed her during the day too but now at 5 months she feeds for about 5 minutes...sometimes more and sometimes less. Also if she wasn't getting enough she would not have lots of wet diapers. It is so hard to be confident when you are breastfeeding for the first time. I always worried about my supply and constantly drank mothers milk tea if I felt like something was happening...I would say around 3 months things got better but there are still days when I worry whether LO has enough to eat...especially when she pops off after 3 minutes...</p> <p>If you are really worried I suggest calling your pediatricians office and talking with him/her and also with a lactation consultant. Talk to someone so you can get some peace of mind :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-baby-my-mental-health#post-132536 Fri, 20 Apr 2012 20:58:33 +0000 irene 132536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you have emotional breakdowns since becoming a parent? Especially a first time mom?</p> <p>My 2.5 months old baby is exclusively breastfed, and since 2 or 3 weeks ago I've been worrying about if my son is getting enough. He started being distracted, and at some feedings he would take only 8 minutes on 1 breast and that's it. </p> <p>I have a scale and I weigh him before and after each feed. For the past 2 days he also wasn't eating a lot, some feedings he only takes 2.5-3.5 oz, whereas on good days he would take between 3-7 oz per feeding. </p> <p>Today got worse - I think he got 1 oz at the 4pm feeding and maybe 2-3 oz at the 7pm feeding. And at the 7pm feeding, I don't know what got into me and I felt that I was losing my milk supply because after my breasts felt softened, my baby is still latched but he wasn't sucking (or sucked very lightly). He usually wouldn't even take my breast if he's not hungry (I know some babies hung onto the boobs for comfort but mine certainly don't). People say that when they suck and nothing comes out they would give up sucking and I thought that's what's happening. So frantically I went to the fridge and get the expressed milk to feed him but I wasn't sure if it was because I acted like a crazy woman so he didn't drink much, or was he simply not hungry. I also panicked and pumped 15 minutes after the feed which I kinda regret now. </p> <p>His weight is still in the 75-90% but his length has dropped to 50% (used to be in the 75-90% also). He has been stuck in the same weight for the past few days if not a week or more.</p> <p>Is this normal or Am I the only crazy one? do you guys have breakdowns too? I feel like I am losing my mind. I need someone to tell me it is OK but when they do tell me that I don't believe them. I am just worried how am I going to go on when there are so many other things I need to worry about down the road... </p>