https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 22:11:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-cat#post-2868462 Wed, 23 Jan 2019 20:21:43 +0000 irene 2868462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just want to chime in again...</p> <p>Our cat who passed away recently, lived until 18 years old. He had repeated UTIs when he was way younger and at one point, we were told that we need to switch him to a low PH diet. I think we had both Hills c/d and Royal Canin urinary SO in cans. I had to order pet food from the Vet for YEARS until he died recently, but he had never had UTI issues again. Again, that's not cheap... but at least there will not be UTI issues and urgent care runs afterwards (at least for my cat).</p> <p>I am just curious if your SIL would even consider keeping the cat with this info. Maybe it is more manageable if she doesn't have to run to the vet / administering meds every few weeks for repeated UTI? It just hurts me when some girl insisted of taking a cat to the shelter because she didn't want to pay multiple vet visits. Do not ever ever think about getting a pet because they do get sick, and there could be chronic illnesses, just like humans...... sigh....</p> <p>If the cat continues to stay with you and he's still stressed out about the dogs, try to buy a bottle of pheromone and spray on things so he feels more like home.... I hope this unfolds in a not tragic way.... :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-cat#post-2868448 Wed, 23 Jan 2019 19:47:44 +0000 caitcat 2868448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds stressful to be stuck in the middle of! I feel for you and the kitty. Did he get in to the vet today? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-cat#post-2868401 Wed, 23 Jan 2019 15:31:03 +0000 cyoung 2868401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <br /><p><i>This comment has been deleted by the original poster.</i></p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-cat#post-2868393 Wed, 23 Jan 2019 14:40:19 +0000 irene 2868393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cyoung: The whole story makes me frown :-( Why would people abandon their pet because they didn't get along with new pets / and sick is beyond me. People like that should not have pets. Ever. It didn't even sound like the cat was that old, only 4 years. So she didn't want him because he got sick and hissy. What did she expect, a healthy happy cute cat until it dies in 15 years and it dies with no health issues ever...? That's call a robot.</p> <p>Poor kitty, he's sick and hurts when he pees, and then he has to be in extreme fear with the dogs. It is amazing you guys took him in but still... </p> <p>male cats tend to have issues with unrination especially the neutered ones . Mine had multiple urinary tract infections, he held his pee or kept going to the litter box because it felt like he wanted to pee. I took him in every time (sometimes to the urgent care) he started "telling" me he couldn't pee. </p> <p>Can you just take the cat in once to see if it is even treatable? Honestly, if you don't take her in now, it can become a serious problem that affects his kidneys and he would die. The earlier you take him, it may just be 2 weeks of antibiotics and that would take care of the UTI. Yes it is money but heck, that's what you do when you choose to have a pet..... Forget about the sister. She already gave up the cat, she won't pay for the bills....</p> <p>Sorry, just really sad and mad because my cat passed away 2 years ago, I didn't dare to get another one because I know at this point of life I can not take care of a pet "in sickness and in health". And then there are people who gave up their pets at 4 years old because their pet is not "perfect". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-cat#post-2868373 Wed, 23 Jan 2019 10:33:13 +0000 Sams Mom 2868373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're going through that with our cat right now. The vet gave her a shot, told us to come back in 2 weeks for a follow up, and to have one more litter box than the number of cats you have. She stopped peeing blood a few days after the shot, and the extra litter box seems to help her (even though I have extra work 🤦🏼‍♀️) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-cat#post-2868372 Wed, 23 Jan 2019 10:23:51 +0000 cyoung 2868372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well ladies come to find out this morning Chase is peeing blood. She told us he had a UTI a few weeks ago but was fine now. I think she knew he was still sick and didn't want to take care of him and knew he would need a lot of vet visits.</p> <p> We had a cat last year we loved so much who had to be put to sleep due to similar issues. His would never go away and he was able not to pee anymore and was dying. The vet told us our old cat was suffering. </p> <p>I'm making my husband text his sister and tell her to come pick him up and take him to the vet ASAP. We are not paying for something she knew about. It makes since she knew cause she kept asking how he was doing every day like she felt guilty. She also would keep saying we need to just take him to the shelter. I even asked her if she took him back to the vet to check his uti. She never answered and ignored my question. We only had him for a week so he still had it when she have him too us. Im.very angry. She knows we have a third baby on the way and need to save money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-cat#post-2868329 Wed, 23 Jan 2019 01:18:46 +0000 Mrsbells 2868329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cyoung: I dont have a solution but I do find it weird they were so willing to give up their older cat for a kitten. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-cat#post-2868139 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 13:21:40 +0000 caitcat 2868139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Has he been checked for any urinary issues? We had a cat who peed outside of his box often and it turned out he had struvite crystals in his urine (I think that's what it was called...) and switching to a prescription diet to control it helped some. The vet also prescribed fluoxetine (prozac) down the road and that helped even more. Honestly, we struggled with some marking issues his whole life, but on a much smaller scale than we did initially before we switched food and started the medication. </p> <p>I think there are also feliway collars you could try that are similar to the plug-ins. We found the plug in helpful when we introduced a new cat in one room, but it wasn't working as much in larger open spaces. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-cat#post-2868073 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 09:30:40 +0000 gotkimchi 2868073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree confine him to his own room and try a feliway plug in. It’s not magic but it did help calm our cats when we had introduced a thjrd </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-cat#post-2868067 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 08:54:27 +0000 cyoung 2868067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: I agree. I think he needs a place where he is an only pet or so. We just kinda panicked and was afraid she would toss him to a shelter. I can see if there is a foster place. I don't think we have any for cats unfortunately. It makes me sad cause he is so sweet. I think we just bit off more then we can chew. His sister took him to the vet before we got him and he was fine. </p> <p>I agree she is a jerk. I think she didnt want him anymore cause he was getting older and he was a "boring" cat. It makes me sad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-cat#post-2868066 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 08:49:21 +0000 erinbaderin 2868066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I'm not sure you can solve this problem. Cats are territorial - they aren't pack animals and generally don't want a new cat in their space. This is why he was hissing at the kitten. So now you've taken a stressed out territorial cat and made it much worse for him (not any slight against you! I think what you did was lovely!) by taking him away from his established territory and putting him in another animal's territory. Chase may just be temperamentally suited to be an only pet. Are there any foster organizations where you live who could take him and find him a family, as opposed to a shelter?</p> <p>Some things you could try - how did you introduce him to the "family"? They recommend, when introducing a new cat, that you give it it's own room for a while - a long while, like a week - that the other animals can't get into. That gives everybody a chance to get used to the smells of each other. Then you start slowly having supervised visits. Could you give him his own safe space that the dogs aren't allowed into? I would also add a third litterbox - it's recommended you have one per animal. And there's a product called Feliway - it plugs into the wall like an air freshener but has pheremones that are supposed to be calming.</p> <p>Have you taken him to a vet?</p> <p>Also, and this is just my personal opinion, your sister-in-law is a jerk. Who rehomes a pet because they got a new cuter pet and the original pet doesn't get along? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-cat#post-2868056 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 08:41:06 +0000 cyoung 2868056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You ladies always give sound advice. Maybe you can help. </p> <p>My husband sister was getting rid of a cat she has had since he was a baby. He is 4 and his name is Chase. They got a new kitten last year and she didnt want Chase anymore cause he was hissing at the younger cat. She wanted to take him to a shelter. Unfortunately all shelters here put down animals. My husband was so upset and was afraid he would be put down cause people here only want kittens.<br /> Well we have two little kids, two cats and two dogs. We made sure to set up a second litter box. He is fine with the cats and kids but the dogs he is terrified of and growls at. He refused to come out when the dogs are inside. We have a crappy fence and our dogs try to get out a lot so we only let them out to pee. We do not want to get rid of him cause the shelter will put him down and he is a sweet cat but he has peed behind our couch a few times cause he wont come out. I want to keep him but I dont want a couch that smells like cat pee. We are getting a "new"couch and I dont want that one smelling like pee too. Any tips. The litter box is in the bathroom close to the couch. He will go if the dogs are outside. I just want him to come out and get used to everything more. </p>