https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 06:38:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-892866 Fri, 28 Jun 2013 09:01:59 +0000 swurlygurl 892866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I'm finding it really hard. I moved away form friends and family to be near DH's family. It seems like most people here (midwest) spend most of their time hanging out with their own families, so even if you do have friends, it's rare to actually do stuff with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-892840 Fri, 28 Jun 2013 08:53:44 +0000 MrsSCB 892840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>YES. It's just hard to meet people without classes, clubs, etc. I don't have a huge circle of friends where I live and they're all either friends from high school or friends I've made at work. My parents' friends even now are all the parents of my friends from elementary school. My mom still has monthly dinners with the other moms that were on the PTA with her :-) so I imagine we'll meet more people through our kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-892810 Fri, 28 Jun 2013 08:45:14 +0000 Mrs. Pen 892810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree. It was really easier to make friends in high school and college. Sure I make friends at work but a lot of them are much older and they're work friends. We talk about work stuff. </p> <p>We had friends through our church's young married couples group but those friendships seem to have fallen through which is truly a disappointment. Other than that we know no one here other than my family, so it can get lonely.</p> <p>I'm not even sure how to go about finding other friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-892807 Fri, 28 Jun 2013 08:44:22 +0000 travellingbee 892807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it has been hard for me/us for several reasons. We live in an area where the oil industry is the main business and so lots of people move in and out and it is hard to maintain friendships long distance. </p> <p>Also, because we got married in our mid-30s, we have always been in a different phase than many other people our age. When they were having kids, we were just dating. When we are now having babies, their kids are in elementary school. In college, everyone was experiencing the same thing so you had lots in common. </p> <p>Lastly, my husband and I are quite liberal and we live in Texas where, although it is certainly possible to find like-minded people, it is less common. (Not that we only hang out with liberals or anything, but as far as making a strong BFF connection, that would be somewhat important.) Oh and we always lament that because we aren't religious, we don't get that church community that many people do. </p> <p>Whew that was long winded. DH and I talk about this a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-892800 Fri, 28 Jun 2013 08:42:57 +0000 LuLu Mom 892800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>this made me stop and think, and I guess I haven't looked for new friends in awhile? I have a very strong core group of friends that have been in my life for years &amp; so I guess I'm not really looking for new friends? </p> <p> I do think that the friends that I have added into my life recently have been online (you guys :) And I'm thankful for that circle as well, it gives me a different perspective that my IRL friends don't always have! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-892782 Fri, 28 Jun 2013 08:38:37 +0000 Pirouette 892782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A lot of my close friends have moved away over the years and yes, it's very tough! I'm really counting on becoming a mom helping me meet people in similar situations though :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-892775 Fri, 28 Jun 2013 08:36:05 +0000 KayKay 892775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>totally harder! and while i think having a kid makes it easier to strike up initial conversations, it makes it more complex (at least as a WOHM) to actually make plans, seeing as we have to account for nap schedules, relatives visiting more often, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-892763 Fri, 28 Jun 2013 08:33:27 +0000 mynoahbear 892763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Technically, as an expat mom, it seems quite easy. There's usually an expat mama group in most locations we've lived in and people tend to be very friendly and excepting, just because most are used to moving frequently and having to meet new people. But for me, it's hard because I'm really shy and introverted. I really have to force myself to try and make friends, especially now since LO needs the interaction with other toddlers her age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-892754 Fri, 28 Jun 2013 08:31:55 +0000 Alivoo01 892754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think so, then again, our current friendships have changed/evolved a lot as we matured over the past few years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-892704 Fri, 28 Jun 2013 08:19:45 +0000 Honeybee 892704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it can be very hard. We relocated 6 months ago, and while we had some immediate BFFS in the area (since we knew them prior to moving), it's taken a long time to meet other people. We're just now getting to the point where we have some other casual friends, but it's taken a while to make those connections. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-892642 Fri, 28 Jun 2013 07:59:50 +0000 Smurfette 892642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-892628 Fri, 28 Jun 2013 07:54:55 +0000 TheReelDeal 892628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is not only harder to meet at this stage, but it's also harder to maintain. Life is just so busy you have to really put the effort in to even hang out. I think college was easiest because people were always basically around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-891936 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 21:33:22 +0000 jhd 891936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>this made me think of a ny times article i read <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/fashion/the-challenge-of-making-friends-as-an-adult.html?_r=2&#038;amp" rel="nofollow">http://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/fashion/the-challenge-of-making-friends-as-an-adult.html?_r=2&#038;amp</a>;</p> <p>i have found it extremely hard to make friends as an adult. school time / growing up it was easy. college was the best. i met people from all over the place.</p> <p>i don't think i am a difficult person to get along with, although i can be a little shy. i moved to a very small town when i got married and everyone here (it seems) knows each other &amp; can't relate to a "new" person. i have good relationships with the people i work with, but no real bff. </p> <p>(that was a long answer to a short question!!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-891896 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 21:20:27 +0000 ALV91711 891896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved to a new town almost 4 years ago and I've had a very hard time making friends. I'm hoping to make some mom friends now that I'm home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-891882 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 21:16:56 +0000 mrbee 891882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been making a decent number new friends in the past year or so, mostly through parents of kids the same age as ours! The tricky part (for us) has been staying close to your new friends when the reasons you guys met (a shared daycare, a shared street you lived on) no longer apply. </p> <p>Then the friendship takes a lot more work and commitment on both sides! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-891877 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 21:16:09 +0000 aprk 891877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Being pregnant and having a baby has helped me to meet people and some friendships have formed from that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-891868 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 21:13:11 +0000 Sadieloo 891868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A thought provoking book MWF seeking BFF. Everyone can relate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-891854 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 21:09:43 +0000 mrsbookworm 891854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely! We moved to our town about 3 years ago and I still don't know anyone. I'm hoping to meet some people through a new moms group I just joined. When I was working, it wasn't a big deal but now that I'm home, I need some adults to talk to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-891850 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 21:07:46 +0000 tequiero21 891850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes!!! Even now that. I'm a mom, it's hard. I thought it would get easier. Hopefully, when they are in school... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-891388 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 19:49:00 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 891388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I completely agree! We've been in TX for 5 years and our local group of friends is pretty small still. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-891367 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 19:47:38 +0000 chopsuey 891367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep!<br /> I think making friends was easiest back in college. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-friends-1#post-891361 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 19:46:50 +0000 mrsjyw 891361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my bff from college and i were talking about how hard it is to meet new friends (she moved to her dh's hometown a few years back)... and develop a close circle/community at our age (late 20s)</p> <p>i agreed with her that most everyone is set in their circle of friends, so it's hard to get into that deep, loyal level -- </p> <p>i think mom/parent friends will be our next avenue for developing deeper friendships.</p> <p>is it hard to make new friends as you get older? </p>