https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 26 Jun 2026 21:20:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1569176 Tue, 15 Apr 2014 06:44:51 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1569176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: this came up in my devotional today and I thought of you! </p> [attach=1506/14/n42lys.338x600.image.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1568447 Mon, 14 Apr 2014 16:24:18 +0000 Raindrop 1568447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*big hugs*! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1568434 Mon, 14 Apr 2014 16:20:08 +0000 alohaorchid 1568434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you're feeling this way :( This whole IF thing is a huge emotional rollercoaster and it sucks.</p> <p>I used to symptom spot like crazy and some months I would get REALLY upset. Now that it's been almost 3 years I feel nothing, I don't feel sad or disappointed, I just feel like it's normal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1568253 Mon, 14 Apr 2014 15:22:16 +0000 everbee 1568253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i don't have my hopes up anymore, and i think i'll be fine...but every month i still end up having one big cry :/ it's been over 3 years and i'm not sure when the monthly disappointment will go away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1560316 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 15:33:20 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1560316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I think it would be easier if we didn't have to wait 2 weeks every month. Like, if we could just test right after BD!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1560312 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 15:32:02 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1560312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: yeah.... It's so upsetting. Thoughts like "maybe I don't deserve to be a mom" and "maybe I should just accept that it's never going to happen" enter my mind frequently. I k now they aren't true, deep down, but the fear is overwhelming sometimes. Being a mom is all I've ever REALLY wanted. AF started today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1560224 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 15:10:01 +0000 Grace 1560224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh sweetie, do you know how amazing you are that the thought is only showing up now?!?!? I was convinced I'd get a neg every month, probably from month 6 and on. You have an amazing spirit! Cut yourself some slack. If this is what you need to think to keep on going, then you do what you have to do. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1560186 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 15:03:01 +0000 mrswin 1560186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No matter how many times I tell myself I won't be disappointed I always am....the longer it goes on the more I have been able to not be as sad but it still stings every time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1559729 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 13:28:28 +0000 lazypanda 1559729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestripedbee: I'll have hope for you! :heart: I'm excited for the day you get your BFP! In the mean time, maybe if we can each write down one or two things we would do to celebrate the start of a new opportunity to try. :happy: For me, I eat sashimi or drink my wedding wine when I get AF. :silly:</p> <p>Also, I blame the meds for any weird or negative thoughts. DH knows not to mess with me especially during the first 10 days of the cycle. :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1559635 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 13:11:05 +0000 Happygal 1559635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even when I reall don't think I'm pregnant, I realize I had some unknown hope going b/c I'll feel disappointed when I start my period or see a BFP. It will always be there--the only thing that changes it how hard it hits. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1559608 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 13:06:18 +0000 Cherrybee 1559608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a tough call, isn't it? Because if you're positive the fall is much harder when it's not your month. But if you're negative you feel crappy constantly. What's worse - agonising pain for a short period of time once a month or a dull ache continually?</p> <p>The long and short of it is TTC is completely brutal and it's beyond unfair that you have had to endure it for so long with so many disappointments (I don't even know if that's an okay thing to say to you - but I mean it with love and I hope you take it that way). Wishing you all the :goodluck: and all the babydust in the world. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1559551 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 12:56:18 +0000 deactivated_account 1559551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I'm so sorry, friend. Somehow each month's bfn's get easier for me. AF arriving is just "meh" now. I try to focus on all the great things in my life for which I otherwise have to be grateful. There's not much else I can do since being sad won't help anything. Treat yourself to something nice. You deserve it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1559462 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 12:40:54 +0000 Jenn23 1559462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with everyone else. Treat yourself to something and pamper yourself!! It's just awful and if you need to cry and get it out, do it. I always felt a little better after a good cry and venting and letting it all out. And I tried to keep busy doing things I liked. But yeah, it just plain stinks! ((hugs)) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1559418 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 12:28:00 +0000 GreenThumb 1559418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I also planned rewards like @Mrs Green Grass because I figured I deserved it after all the stress. HUGS :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1559402 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 12:22:33 +0000 derevival 1559402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs for you :heart:<br /> It's a really sucky thing to go through </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1559364 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 12:07:53 +0000 dagret 1559364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I'm sorry. I remember those days. I've been there. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1558736 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 10:07:17 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 1558736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always planned rewards for myself around AF time (usually alcohol...), but shopping could work too, or a massage! I never really assumed I'd ever get a BFP, I just really hoped I did. It's a very stressful state to commonly live in. I hope you don't have much longer!! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1558708 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 10:01:13 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1558708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know what you mean! My first IVF cycle I was so optimistic. I was crushed when it didn't work. Then the second time I was a little less positive and sad when it didn't work, but not devastated. This time if it works great, it not it's fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1558696 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 09:59:01 +0000 snowjewelz 1558696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>BIG HUGS :heart: :heart: </p> <p>It's just one of those days... And sometimes you may have many, many of those days. I hope that you can always find your silver lining to keep going and not loose hope. So many of us hope &amp; pray for a BFP for you soon!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1558691 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 09:58:22 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1558691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im sorry. Its a real mind game thats for sure and you've been doing this for so long I know you know that. I'm following along with your story and am hoping for a miracle for you. </p> <p>If AF or a BFN come, its ok to be sad. It would be fun and exciting if it was a miracle. But like you said, you have IVF coming really soon and you could be only another 30-35 days or so away from a BFP! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/new-low-willing-myself-to-not-be-disappointed-when-i-get-af-or-bfn#post-1558652 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 09:49:48 +0000 BSB 1558652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. Yesterday, I was telling myself to try not to be disappointed if AF or if I get a BFN. Just so I won't be disappointed. Is this what it has come to?</p> <p>New IF milestone. Ugh! :(</p> <p>I want to be positive but I just can't. If I'm too positive, the devastation will be so much worse. </p> <p>We can't win sometimes. </p> <p>Have you been shocked at some of the thoughts that enter your head? </p>