https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 22 May 2026 14:54:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-665085 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 09:56:14 +0000 bunnylove08 665085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD was like this, I ended up buying a K'tan so I can do things like wash the dishes. She eventually grew out of it (maybe a month). I put her down for tummy time and when she starts to really fuss and cry I would pick her up. DH would lay her head on his lap and she was content with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-664705 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 07:13:24 +0000 DillonLion 664705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Swaddled and in a bouncer/swing was the best place for her.</p> <p>It only lasted a month or so, tops. She was STTN in her own room at 6 weeks, so it isn't a super long period of time for all babies </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-664689 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 06:58:58 +0000 mediagirl 664689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>M was like that but I really enjoyed it. I'll admit to getting very little done while I was home on maternity leave for 3 months because all I wanted to do was sit on the couch, hold the baby and watch TV. :) I did eventually find she loved the swing and the bouncer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-664687 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 06:57:18 +0000 heffalump 664687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO was like that too. Then all of a sudden one day she cried in my arms and settled when I put her down. I don't remember when it was, but it was a sad day for me. Of course good like you said because then you get a break and can actually get things done around the house and rest..... but I missed the snuggles :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-664669 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 06:34:59 +0000 MaisyMay 664669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: To be honest, LO is 3 months old now and we still don't belt her into her RNP or swing. They recline back so far that she can't get out and she doesn't roll or anything, so we don't bother. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-664596 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 02:41:52 +0000 ladyfingers 664596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, LO was like that but got much better around 4 weeks. For the first week he'd sleep anywhere. The second week I was constantly googling "baby will only sleep on us." Third week we could put him in the pack n play but he'd squak after a short while. By the fourth week he was noticing the toys hanging above his pnp and activity mat so those occupied him for a bit. We started establishing a loose nap schedule around then because he showed he needed it -- he'll get tired at regular intervals but will stay up, becoming cranky, and needs a routine to fall asleep regularly. And his awake periods were spent more alert. It's hard in the early days when it's still 100% instinct. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-664571 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 00:32:19 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 664571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Every baby is different. DD was like that, but DS (to my huge surprise) is not. I depended on the Ergo like it was my life. I also discovered that she would nap extreeemely well on her belly, so even though it's not recommended we did it starting when she was 4-weeks. I was always nearby and felt safe doing it because it was such a short amount of time (1-2 hours). We never did that for nighttime sleep, but for naps it was my saving grace. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-664460 Sun, 24 Mar 2013 21:15:03 +0000 birdofafeather 664460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with PPs. The moby and our boba are our best friends! She loves being worn! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-663983 Sun, 24 Mar 2013 15:00:32 +0000 photojane 663983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: I just wanted to add that we never buckle S in the swing (we have the FP my little lamb). She can't roll &amp; doesn't have the strength to hoist herself out of it. I let her sleep in there while I'm in the next room cleaning or doing dishes, and I'm never worried she'll fall out. I think she will be just fine swaddled. Sometimes I'll turn the white noise app on my phone on and stick it in there with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-663894 Sun, 24 Mar 2013 13:58:39 +0000 travelgirl1 663894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A was/is just the same! As pp have said,babywearing reeeeally helps. A still hates the swing but the bouncy chair grew on her once I started using it to sing to her while she was in it. Now she'll stay in it for 20 mins while I workout. Hang in there, you WILL get some freedom back :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-663873 Sun, 24 Mar 2013 13:47:40 +0000 SugarplumsMom 663873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD was like that, heck, at almost 9 months she's STILL like that! She did stop for awhile and it was wonderful, but separation anxiety kicked in and she's like a third limb now. It is getting better though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-663859 Sun, 24 Mar 2013 13:41:18 +0000 LittleFox 663859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is like that, too. At 3 months he's getting better and I leave him for short times to play on his baby gym as well as sleep in his bassinet for a stretch or two at night. One thing that helped to make sure his bed is warm and cozy was to use a heating pad. I lay it on top of his sheet (you could easily lay it on the swing or rock n play) for a little while on a medium setting and remove it when I lay him down. Just feel first to make sure it isn't way too hot (wait a few seconds if it seems to be) and lay your baby in the warm spot. You can also keep your hand on her for a minute or two and remove it when you're sure she's out. Then she goes from cozy warm you to a cozy warm bed and it's less jarring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-663832 Sun, 24 Mar 2013 13:15:09 +0000 MamaBehr 663832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD loved being held like that, she would NEVER go in the swing or play on her mat. I don't think we did anything in particular and eventually it got better (like maybe five months, sorry). I found with her and DS (who needed to be held so I could attend to DD) they loved being put in the Ergo, Baby Bjorn or Moby Wrap. That way my hands are free, they are getting the cuddles they want, and everyone is mostly happy! hahaha </p> <p>Good luck! It gets easier, I promise :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-663829 Sun, 24 Mar 2013 13:13:42 +0000 hilsy85 663829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: at that age I wouldn't worry about it, ESP in the swing since it reclines so far back. Just make sure she's not left alone in a room while in the swing/bouncer just in case (not that you would!). Or you can probably loosen the straps enough on te swing to fit it around the swaddle! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-663825 Sun, 24 Mar 2013 13:11:33 +0000 Smurfette 663825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: we haven't tried that cause then how do you buckle her in? Or at this stage we don't need to worry about it since she can't roll over or anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-663820 Sun, 24 Mar 2013 13:06:37 +0000 hilsy85 663820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you tried swaddling her and then putting her in the swing/bouncer? I also second baby wearing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-663800 Sun, 24 Mar 2013 12:53:23 +0000 immabeetoo 663800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just keep trying the swing and bouncer. My LO liked the bouncer in the bathroom while I showered at first - white noise and warmth! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-663799 Sun, 24 Mar 2013 12:51:39 +0000 Smurfette 663799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic: the problem with the arm test is that she wants to be swaddled so we can't really test it! We do wait about 20 mins before we put her down. Sometimes we are golden sometimes not. Mostly wondering about when she is awake how to put her down.<br /> @katiew92081: We are keeping the house warmer then we normally keep it. She also is in long sleeves and pants and usually swaddled during the day. We do a double swaddle at night. Glad to hear that this phase didn't last forever with your DS.<br /> @runsyellowlites: I am going to try out the Ktan this afternoon. Hopefully she will like it. And I can figure out how to put it on by myself.<br /> @keiki_mama: So after 6 weeks it got better for you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-663789 Sun, 24 Mar 2013 12:43:24 +0000 keiki_mama 663789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw, mama it gets better! My LO always wanted to be held for the first six weeks of his life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-663780 Sun, 24 Mar 2013 12:38:41 +0000 runsyellowlites 663780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pretty much held P for the first 5 months! We napped/slept together almost 100% of the time (minus the first stretch of nighttime sleep when she slept in the rnp set next to me by the couch). Looking at our species I think it's pretty normal behavior. Have you considered wearing her? That would free up your hands but still keep her cozy &amp; close! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-663779 Sun, 24 Mar 2013 12:37:46 +0000 shopaholic 663779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Girlfriend - I am right there with you! And DH goes back to work tomorrow too. :( Everything I've read says it's basically tough it out for 3-4 months. I love the snuggles too, but man last night was tough!</p> <p>One tip I did read though, was to make sure baby's arm is limp and that she is in deep sleep for ~ 20 min. before putting her down somewhere. K has a knack for waking up within minutes if we put her down, but this 20 min. thing is working for me more often than not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-663768 Sun, 24 Mar 2013 12:31:10 +0000 Dandelion 663768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS was like that as a baby. They've been held for 9 months, so it takes awhile to get them used to being on their own. Can't quite remember how long it took with him, but it didn't last forever.</p> <p>Make sure she's warm when you put her in places. A lot of the time it's just cozier being held by you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/newborn-wanting-to-be-held-all-the-time#post-663763 Sun, 24 Mar 2013 12:28:30 +0000 Smurfette 663763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>R will be two weeks old tomorrow. She wants to be held all the time. Once she is in a deep sleep then we can put her down. Maybe like once a day she will let us put her down propped up against the boppy so we can talk/sing to her.. She screams when we put her in the swing or bouncer. I do love the snuggles, and I know I will miss them soon but I also need a break. Especially since DH is going back to work tomorrow. </p> <p>Just wondering when we can expect to grown out of this phase. Any tips for getting her to like the bouncer or swing? </p>