https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 23:17:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-941110 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 09:29:53 +0000 DillonLion 941110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Thank you for sharing this! I really worry about this. Not so much my comments, because I've committed to working very hard to never say that kind of stuff in front of her, but I really worry about DH. He would definitely say the kinds of things the husband in that story would say. In fact, he's said exactly those things before. I should probably send this to him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-941073 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 09:23:47 +0000 lawbee11 941073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love love love this article. Growing up my mom was really hard on herself about her weight, and now I am really hard on myself about mine so I definitely think the two are related. I've had more than one pregnancy breakdown about my weight/appearance, but I am really going to try and be positive about my body image in front of my daughter, because I don't want her to put the same kind of pressure on herself that I put on myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-941021 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 09:15:16 +0000 Charm54 941021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a beautiful article! </p> <p>This part especially really resonated with me: " Every moment we spend worrying about our physical ‘‘flaws’’ is a moment wasted, a precious slice of life that we will never get back. Let us honor and respect our bodies for what they do instead of despising them for how they appear. Focus on living healthy and active lives, let our weight fall where it may, and consign our body hatred in the past where it belongs. "</p> <p>I think about the amount of time and energy I spend worrying and criticizing my body every day and it makes me sad...why do I spend so much time on it? Why can't I just be happy to be in a healthy body, that might not be 'perfect' by society's standards, but has fared me well over the past 28 years?</p> <p>Last week, at 31 weeks pregnant, I had a crying spree in my husband's arms. I felt fat, swollen, ugly and disgusted by the stretch marks. He was so sweet, telling me my body was doing its job, making a human, and that I looked great. I really don't want this little baby to get a negative self-image from me...but here I am before he or she is even born and I'm worrying about my body gaining weight - which is what it's SUPPOSED to be doing!</p> <p>Anyway. This long post to say that since that hormone-filled night, I have been making a conscious effort to feel good about myself, my body, and embrace the miracle that my body is going through right now rather than stress about the number on the scale. This article helped me see that I'm on the right path! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-940992 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 09:10:54 +0000 blackbird 940992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm. Ditto, i'm still always reassuring my mom she isn't fat. Even though she just had a major tummy tuck and is SKINNY. Definitely don't want my daughter doing that with me </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-940956 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 09:03:36 +0000 sslm 940956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This really resonated with me because my mom had and still has a horrible body image, and I really think that's a big part of why I do too. I really don't want to pass this on to my daughter, it's definitely something my husband and I have talked about. It's so hard to break the cycle though!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-940852 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 08:36:55 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 940852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Aimed: very good point! I jettisoned mommy guilt about a year ago and it's been so good for me, and hopefully for the girls :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-940831 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 08:32:28 +0000 blackbird 940831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've read this before, but i needed to hear it again. I've been really hard on myself since having the baby and am vocalizing it more than I should (maybe to help keep myself accountable by acknowledging i have weight that needs to go?...I don't know). But it's really something i need to stop doing because it's not a message I want passing on to my kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-940668 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 07:44:19 +0000 Aimed 940668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What a great article on how even the littlest kids are perceptive to our personal feelings. I would even take this further than a weight issue, I see too many homes, and many are too close for comfort, where everything is a 'mom-fail' and 'mommy-guilt' and mommy-anxiety' are not only a constant companion but a yardstick measuring your worth as a mother, as if you are not guilty enough or self-sacrificing enough, then you don't love your child enough.<br /> Negative self talk whether it be about your weight, intelligence or abilities all hurts your kids and yourself.<br /> This essay is a really touching reminder to put ourselves in our kids little shoes and listen to the messages they are receiving. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-940408 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 00:54:20 +0000 Cherrybee 940408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mum used to ask me if I was ashamed of her when she picked me up from school, because she was "fat". It does stay with you and affects the way you perceive yourself. Great article. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-940331 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 22:53:08 +0000 JessKas 940331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is something I've thought about for years. It's also part of the reason I really want a boy. I'm not confident that I'm in the place with body image and fat talk that I want to be yet. </p> <p>My mom was very conscience of what people said to me re:my weight growing up because she wanted to protect me, but her negative self image definitely impacted me. I hope that I can break the cycle and teach my future children self love and acceptance by modeling it myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-940285 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 22:17:28 +0000 Running Elley 940285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: Totally agree about how it affects little boys too!</p> <p>I read this article a few weeks ago and I've thought about it many many times since. My family was exactly like this. My mom and my sisters and I say stuff like this all the time and I never thought about how it started and how it cycles. I've been very conscious lately about even acknowledging the negative self thoughts that I have and I've been trying very hard not to make self deprecating comments. I shared the essay with my sister and it hit her really hard too. We talked about it and we're helping each other stop. It makes it so much more important to stop when I think about how it could potentially affect my children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-940254 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 21:53:07 +0000 Mrs. Blue 940254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow! That hits home. I just shared this on FB. </p> <p>Though I don't have a daughter, reading that I realized it is just as true that what I say about myself will shape how my little boys view women. Yikes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-940199 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 21:29:46 +0000 jhd 940199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So well-written &amp; such an important message! My mom didn't talk about her body in a negative way &amp; I am so thankful for that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-940190 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 21:25:04 +0000 pinkb 940190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: "I grew up with a mom who never counted calories and never dieted. I thought and still think she's the most beautiful woman in the world." Yep!</p> <p>Loved reading this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-940184 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 21:23:35 +0000 chopsuey 940184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read this a few weeks ago and loved it.<br /> I've been trying really hard not to call myself fat and ugly in front of my DD (even though I know she doesn't understand yet). This extra weight is killing me though! </p> <p>I grew up with a mom who never counted calories and never dieted. I thought and still think she's the most beautiful woman in the world. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-940173 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 21:19:12 +0000 immabeetoo 940173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've read this &amp; it is so powerful. I'm so thankful that I grew up with a Mom who never calorie counted or talked about dieting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-940148 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 21:07:34 +0000 PointeShoesTutus 940148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What an interesting essay. I never thought about how negative self-talk about body image would be perceived by a young child. Definitely something I want to be cognizant of in the future if I'm blessed with little girls (boys too but to a lesser extent). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nice-essay-on-moms-and-weight#post-940125 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 20:51:43 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 940125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A friend of mine on Facebook shared this article and it resonated so deeply with me about moms saying "I'm fat". I've never said it, but I know sometimes I think it.</p> <p><a href="http://www.rolereboot.org/life/details/2013-06-when-your-mother-says-shes-fat" rel="nofollow">http://www.rolereboot.org/life/details/2013-06-when-your-mother-says-shes-fat</a> </p>