https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 00:25:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1406364 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 08:14:13 +0000 heffalump 1406364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not usually. There was one night when lo was a newborn where I said I was going to the bathroom and then I'd take her. In his head he heard "you are an awful dad and can't take care of your baby," when in reality he had been up for awhile so I figured it was my turn so he could rest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1406354 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 08:09:34 +0000 GrapeCrush 1406354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha yes! I swear there were a few nights that we were getting a divorce haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1406234 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 06:59:04 +0000 Ash 1406234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Vegmama: that's our routine too! :silly: we never argue in the motn. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1406184 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 04:45:23 +0000 mediagirl 1406184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! For about 6 months, every time M would wake up in the middle of the night, my husband would ask when we were doing cio. Never mentioned it during the day. We never did. ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1406176 Fri, 07 Feb 2014 03:17:56 +0000 daniellemybelle 1406176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One time LO started crying &amp; DH got up &amp; SHUT OUR DOOR, and came back to bed! I was like, WTH are you doing? Then he tried to make it seem like he wanted to talk to me first but he couldn't form a coherent excuse. I laughed the next morning because he was obviously half asleep but that night I was pretty ticked off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1404384 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 16:05:13 +0000 MrsStormy 1404384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@illumina: Hahaha me too! Now he doesn't even hear her wake up! This morning he got up and asked oh did she sleep all the way through to now, um nope, she woke up at like 2:30 (darn you 4 month sleep regression!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1404310 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 15:43:57 +0000 MrsStar 1404310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Night feedings felt horrible for me - dh never got up and helped no matter how much I asked/begged. Apparently having to go to work the next day was more important. I was breastfeeding so in reality he couldn't do much, so I spent many night rambling at him in my head. I've already told him when we have #2 he will be up helping me at night or there will be consequences. I was a horrible person when I was sleep deprived! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1404272 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 15:30:53 +0000 Cherrybee 1404272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That rarely happens to us because DH just doesn't wake up, even if DD is yelling her head off. He hasn't done a MOTN wake up for 5 months.... (and yes, I often think I might put a pillow over his happy snoring face!) </p> <p>I know what you mean about being grotty with each other though because, this morning, at 6.30am, DD was giving it stacks (she's teething) and DH (who was due to get up for work but was struggling to wake up) got up and went into her nursery. He turned on her projector and staggered back into bed. DD was still screaming. I said "ugh, she must have spat her dummy out again" to which he replied "I didn't put it in, I couldn't find it". Couldn't find it???? I was so mad! I got up, grumpily, and went in to her - the dummy was beside her on the mattress. He obviously hadn't looked, just flicked the projector on and come back to bed. I was FURIOUS and absolutely let him know about it! Huff, huff, huff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1404257 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 15:26:49 +0000 NurseMommy 1404257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Alivoo01: ha! I'm sleep deprived but wake up happy and he gets 8-10 hours of sleep/night and is STILL "so tired" in the morning. I'd kill to have a happy hubby in the morning! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1404214 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 15:17:14 +0000 illumina 1404214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsH: When LO was a newborn I used to make Dh get up for the MOTN feeds with me...partly because I still lacked confidence with her and also to make sure I didn't fall asleep holding her! After a while I realised he wasn't actually doing anything useful so I let him go back to sleep ASAP. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1404195 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 15:12:33 +0000 rattles 1404195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The newborn days were rough on our marriage for sure. Sleep deprivation, insecurity and what feels like really high stakes combined for some not so nice outbursts on both ends. Once she started sleeping more and everyone settled into a groove, things became better than ever! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1404185 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 15:09:21 +0000 birdofafeather 1404185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the beginning we were good, but the sleep deprivation wears on you! DH is a heavy sleeper so a lot of the time, he doesn't have any clue what's going on! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1403863 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 14:09:33 +0000 maybebaby 1403863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man, those early weeks with the MOTN feedings when J was still in our room were ROUGHHHHH. It gets much better, and you are NOT alone &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1403857 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 14:08:10 +0000 Bookish 1403857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Omg yes. I am so mean in the middle of the night. I feel so bad in the morning! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1403830 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 14:04:18 +0000 Vegmama 1403830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsH: Our girl is only 5 weeks old, but so far, we aren't too bad at night. </p> <p>He gets up to make her bottle &amp; feed her, and I'm awake to pump. Both things are annoying (I SOOO wish I could just breastfeed her), but I think we both feel bad for each other, so we're pretty nice during that 30 minutes we're up. </p> <p>I'm sure once he's back at work, we'll have to work pretty hard to be nice &amp; not snippy at night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1403348 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 11:56:23 +0000 Amelieisme 1403348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha! Yes! I am such a grump in the middle of the night so its totally my fault. My husband never gets mad and is a saint to put up with me sometimes :happy:</p> <p>The other night he woke up and asked me how I slept. I said, well, our toddler kept me up for an hour+ in the middle of the night (unusual for him), I'm 32 weeks pregnant, I can't breath because I have a cold and I had heartburn...so not so good! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1403339 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 11:53:35 +0000 Foodnerd81 1403339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I'm not very nice in the motn. When it's bad Dh will be like, do you want me to do something? But my boobs are pretty much the only thing that puts her back to sleep, so unless he figured out a way to breastfeed, I know it's an empty offer which just pisses me off more! Rub my back when I come back to Ed or something, don't make offers you know you won't have to do. </p> <p>Our bigger fight time is when he gets home from work. I'm a sahm so by then I've been with the baby all day, she's usually quite cranky by then, especially with the fun nap refusal pattern, and he sucks and letting me know when he will be home. That's when I get really pissy even though I know he was out working, not playin with his friends. It's a work in progress on both our parts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1402930 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 10:12:59 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1402930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've had a lot of cranky moments, but I usually hold my tongue. DH is hilarious when he's asleep; he will have entire conversations with me, but not have any clue whatsoever that we talked. So its tough to be mad sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1402905 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 10:06:36 +0000 ShootingStar 1402905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've had some cranky times in the middle of the night. Usually caused by a baby who hated getting changed and would scream every time the few weeks. But we've also had some fun ones, like Bare Naked Ladies singing and dance parties at 3am :). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1402782 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 09:32:39 +0000 Alivoo01 1402782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yes!!! I'm totally sleep deprived and he's had a full night's rest so he wakes up perky while I'm cranky. Don't be acting all happy with a skip to your step around me and expect me to greet you with a smile and be all lovey dovey. No sir! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1402731 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 09:12:37 +0000 MrsH 1402731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your responses made me Lol - so glad I'm not the only one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1402637 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 08:09:33 +0000 JoJoGirl 1402637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: LOL!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1402624 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 07:59:48 +0000 Ash 1402624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: lol!</p> <p>We don't have this problem. But I get pretty crabby after a few days with no nap. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1402605 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 07:09:17 +0000 Boheme 1402605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: bahaha! Same here!<br /> I often wake up to him on the couch and I bark "Why are you in here?!" and he's like "Umm... You told me to come in here and get away from you." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1402604 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 07:06:11 +0000 avivoca 1402604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the time. He gets cranky when I ask him to go put the paci back in once, when I've been up multiple times feeding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1402602 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 06:51:32 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 1402602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup! Agree with @Purpledaisy: , what happens in the middle of the night stays in the middle of the night :)</p> <p>One time I was so tired and I asked DH to go change DS1 (so I could then BF him) and he was so out of it he said "change who?" completely seriously, he had no idea what I was talking about even though our crying baby was right there. I was super pissed then but now I think it's funny :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1402598 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 06:48:34 +0000 JoJoGirl 1402598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I often would wake up in the morning unsure if we were still married. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1402596 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 06:43:57 +0000 Purpledaisy 1402596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hahaha I'm glad we are the only ones. We agreed early on that anything said in the middle of the night doesn't count, we are both so mean and cranky! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1402587 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 06:16:31 +0000 Anagram 1402587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally happens on my end. I am a total B when I'm sleep deprived and half asleep. Sometimes I'm fully asleep and say horrible things and have no recollection the next day. My poor husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-feedings-and-your-so#post-1402586 Thu, 06 Feb 2014 06:14:12 +0000 petunia354 1402586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh girl, I think this happens to everyone at some point!! We definitely kept the chit chat to a minimum... </p>