https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 13 Jun 2026 14:53:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail/page/2#post-1397280 Tue, 04 Feb 2014 09:24:18 +0000 irene 1397280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: Please explain to me why is it your fault, and why would you even think that..?</p> <p>We had a nightly wake up between 2-4am for a very long time, and personally, it didn't bother me. To one point I automatically woke up somewhere along that time even if LO didn't wake! Our pediatrician wanted me to night wean LO but I refused to listen to him. I just don't think there is anything wrong and I continuef to breastfeed him at night when he woke up (I tried to night wean him at one point too because of pressure from the husband, he CIOed for an hour and more so I gave up). And at one point, LO night weaned on his own. That was along 8 months when we introduced chicken.</p> <p>So I'd say, if it were pressure from others, don't listen to them. They are not your child and why are we weaning them just because of social norms...? It is going to happen eventually, and to be honest I wouldn't force wean him until he's 1... but that's just me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail/page/2#post-1397252 Tue, 04 Feb 2014 09:10:12 +0000 KOzsari 1397252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dude, if she's waking up and wants milk, feed her. You can break the association with nursing and sleep by making sure you dont nurse her to sleep at the beginning of the night. Nurse before bed, but once you make sure shes really full, dont nurse her to sleep.just rock her or hold her instead, even if she cries the first few times. If she still wakes at 3 am after she gets used to that, well maybe she actually needs milk. But 3 am is the worst time to refuse to nurse. And i wouldnt let her cry on her own if i were you, especially at 3 am when her stomach's empty. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail/page/2#post-1391746 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 03:44:39 +0000 Foodnerd81 1391746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: how are things going with the night wakings? I'm in almost the same place- C is 6 months, I tried gently cutting the first feeding off around 15 minutes and she ends up crying for an hour until I feed her again. And lately has been waking before 6 for the day. Not fun. I think I'm giving up on the shortening thing for now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail/page/2#post-1352048 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 09:36:28 +0000 JoJoGirl 1352048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Uuuuugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail/page/2#post-1351968 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 09:14:54 +0000 Smurfette 1351968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: R is back to waking up at 530. It sucks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail/page/2#post-1351944 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 09:06:21 +0000 JoJoGirl 1351944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Yeah I want to try eggs this weekend, but daycare won't make them for her during the day. She LOVES the chicken at night but it doesn't help her sleep any better, unfortunately. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail/page/2#post-1351928 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 09:02:09 +0000 Smurfette 1351928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: R LOVES turkey polish kielbasa. Seriously only protein I get her to eat. Eggs? I would try some shredded cheese (I forget how many teeth she has) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail/page/2#post-1351925 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 09:01:29 +0000 JoJoGirl 1351925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Ugh that is my biggest fear with reducing her feedings! Won't she just get hungry earlier? </p> <p>Now she's decided getting up at 3am and then sleeping til 7:30 is stupid, so has changed her morning wakeup time every day to 6am. PERFECT! SO GLAD! :-| </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1351920 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 08:58:36 +0000 .twist. 1351920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right there with you, lady. I tried to night wean one of his two night wakings. He woke up at 5 am and was up for the day. Fml. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1351858 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 08:14:36 +0000 JoJoGirl 1351858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sammyfab: I'm not sure what to give her for protein and fat. We give her chicken for dinner but all her other meals are fruits, veggies, rice, and puffs (mostly at daycare - at home we stick to fruits and veggies). I'm a little nervous to give her dairy because she was MSPI until very recently. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1350759 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 17:05:15 +0000 Mamasig 1350759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's not your fault. Not all babies sleep through the night and even if they start they might not do it forever anyway. </p> <p>My son usually sleeps through the night without eating (he's 16 months) but he only sleeps about 10 hours. And STTN because we co-sleep mostly! I'll take sleep any way I get it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1350729 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 16:57:39 +0000 sslm 1350729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 9 month old is up 1-3 times a night, ugh. She does seem hungry at 1 of those wakings, so it's possible your LO just isn't ready to drop the wake up yet :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1350709 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 16:51:40 +0000 Sammyfab 1350709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love the &lt; 3 months -please go away option!!</p> <p>Honestly, it sounds like she really is hungry and she isn't waking up solely out of habit and needing your comfort. How is her solids intake? Is she getting a lot of protein and good fats? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1350675 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 16:38:42 +0000 travellingbee 1350675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: MIL bought us this box for one of our gifts for Christmas. So funny!</p> <p>My LO is 10 months and finally just starting to only wake up to feed once so I am super happy with getting up at 3 am to feed. LOL! It's better than 9,11,1,3,5 and 7. :) Which is what he thought was cool just a few weeks ago. Our sleep consult said that it was still very normal to feed once a night up until around age 1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1350618 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 16:19:49 +0000 JoJoGirl 1350618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: Oh sweet jesus your 9 month old gets up 3x/night?! My deepest sympathies!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1350597 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 16:14:23 +0000 Silva 1350597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I'm sorry. I was getting ready to try to night wean my LO who wakes up 3 x a night (10, 3, 5), thinking "oh, the doctor will be shocked she is up this much..." But he basically said, the longest she can go is 6 to 8 hours. Granted she is still pretty small at 9 months (16 lb 10 oz), but I thought for sure he'd tell me we should try to drop feedings.<br /> Anyway, all that to say it sounds like she is hungry. Which is a bummer, and I'm sorry. I have no advice, because obviously our babies didn't get the memo that they are so big now and need to figure this shit out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1350584 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 16:08:53 +0000 JoJoGirl 1350584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@heartonastring: I tried that a few days ago (to reduce the feeding by a minute) and she cried for AN HOUR until I kept feeding her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1350564 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 16:02:04 +0000 heartonastring 1350564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: Oh no :( Of course it's not your fault! Babies are enigmas.</p> <p>Have you tried reducing the length of the feed by one minute/night, or even one minute every other night? </p> <p>I have no experience with this as K still eats around 5 am too (but I'm on mat leave, so I can put up with it for now), but I've read that's a good way to go about it.</p> <p>It will pass....but I know, it must be a huge PITA at the moment :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1350421 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 15:20:49 +0000 JoJoGirl 1350421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85:<br /> I could ask daycare to give her more milk, but they are pretty good about giving her as much as she wants (ie pouring out an extra oz or two if she seems hungry still after her bottle). They're also giving her solids so she's literally eating or drinking every 1-1.5 hrs.</p> <p>Was just talking to a friend about the bottle at night thing, I keep wavering back and forth about whether or not to bother (we both wake up when she does, regardless of who is feeding her... always me up until this point). I am having surgery in a couple of weeks and will be pumping and dumping for a day, so he will be feeding her for 1-2 nights. I'll be interested to see if that changes anything! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1350392 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 15:13:48 +0000 hilsy85 1350392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: hmm would she drink more in bottles if you gave it to her? or more frequent slightly smaller bottles/ my thinking being that if she gets all her calories during the day maybe she wn't need to wake out of hunger. but it's also just possible that she can't go 12 hours yet without eating </p> <p>Hugs!! It is so tough--I do hope it gets better soon! would she take a bottle at night so maybe you and your dh can trade off? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1350381 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 15:12:01 +0000 JoJoGirl 1350381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: Yep, this sounds exactly like my LO.</p> <p>@hilsy85: She is SUUUPPEEERRR distracted as a nurser on the weekends, but daycare gets her to drink all her bottles during the week. She eats 3 meals and drinks ~4 5oz bottles during the day, then nurses 1-2 times at home (in addition to her MOTN waking). She doesn't sleep better or worse on weekdays vs. weekends. </p> <p>@everyone else: thanks for sharing your experiences and advice... I keep wavering back and forth between "acceptance" and "there must be something I can do", so it is helpful to hear where everyone has been. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1350101 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 14:14:49 +0000 hilsy85 1350101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: HA! I love that one of the recommended liquids for that is an energy drink! That could only increase the hamster/gerbil comparison, especially if you throw a wheel in the crib :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1350099 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 14:13:36 +0000 Corduroy 1350099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're at 10.5 months. I cut out the 4am feed last week and we had success for 5 days. It returned inexplicably after that. LO will cry for an hour until I feed her. I thought she was ready to give up that feeding but I guess she isn't yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1350097 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 14:13:30 +0000 Mae 1350097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I suggest…. </p> [attach=4140/14/mzgiqj.597x522.Screen-Shot-2014-01-15-at-2.13.09-PM.png] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1350079 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 14:10:21 +0000 hilsy85 1350079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: how many oz is she getting during the day? Is she a distracted nurser/eater during the day?</p> <p>FWIW, my LO didn't night wean/STTN until 13.5 months, but since then he has done it consistently (outside of major illness). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1350035 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 14:00:22 +0000 looch 1350035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's not you, or anything you are doing. I know it's so rough when there is no logical explanation, it is just how some kids are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1350004 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 13:52:30 +0000 kiddosc 1350004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>E didn't start sleeping straight through the night until just before he turned 1. Prior to that he woke up 1-2x/ night to nurse. We tried to night wean around 6 months or so, but it still seemed like he really needed to nurse, so I just kept at it. Eventually it was just easier to get up and nurse him for 10 minutes, than to go through the hassle of him getting all upset. Eventually he just dropped them on his own, so we didn't need to intervene. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1349927 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 13:32:59 +0000 dolphin 1349927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm right there with you. DD is almost 13 months and still wakes up in the middle of the night to nurse. I stopped nursing and pumping when she turned one so she only gets ONE nursing session in the middle of the night. Honestly, I don't even know if she's getting any milk. But she nurses for 5-7 minutes and goes right back down to sleep. I'll keep doing it for as long as it works. Her crib is our bedroom so there is no way CIO would work for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1349905 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 13:27:41 +0000 Kemma 1349905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It may just be that she's just not ready to drop the calories or the comfort of night nursing yet. There's ALOT of development that goes on between six and twelve months and you can always try again in a month or so :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/night-weaning-fail#post-1349897 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 13:26:15 +0000 immabeetoo 1349897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it sounds normal to me. If she seems legitimately hungry she probably is. My LO started to seem to be nursing more for comfort than hunger around 9 months and then started STTN on his own. </p>