https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 09:55:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration/page/2#post-2797135 Mon, 15 Jan 2018 15:57:36 +0000 Mrs Panda 2797135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@KT326: thanks! It is good to hear the consistency in the 7-8 yr range! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration/page/2#post-2797119 Mon, 15 Jan 2018 15:09:37 +0000 KT326 2797119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Panda: my son will be 6 at the end of March and he is still in a pull up at night. About 90% of the time it is wet when he wakes up. The pediatrician told us it’s normal until 7-8, DH also had bedwetting issues at that age. </p> <p>He just doesn’t wake up until after he has already gone. I’m not going to push it because his body just isn’t ready yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration/page/2#post-2797109 Mon, 15 Jan 2018 14:27:29 +0000 Mrs Panda 2797109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rnmcdonnell: thanks for chiming in! My internal deadline is her 7th birthday...if there’s at least some improvement by then maybe I’ll wait it out longer, but if there’s still no progress I might try the alarm or see what else her ped recommends.</p> <p>@birdofafeather: thanks for chiming in! Yes, it is soooo helpful to hear others are dealing with similar things! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration/page/2#post-2796987 Sun, 14 Jan 2018 22:57:54 +0000 birdofafeather 2796987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Glad to read all these because DD1 just turned 5, has been potty trained for going on 3 years and has never once been dry overnight. She’s also a deep sleeper and DH had issues with bed wetting (also a very deep sleeper) so posts like these remind me that it’s normal and hope that one day she’ll grow out of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration/page/2#post-2796984 Sun, 14 Jan 2018 22:24:06 +0000 rnmcdonnell 2796984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just talked to my 5 year old's ped about this as well. Obviously they all have different opinions, but ours at least said that my daughter being a heavy sleeper is the primary issue - we talked about constipation because in my googling I had come across a lot of interesting articles. She said it's definitely a factor, but that with a very heavy sleeper who hasn't gotten biologically to the point that they can hold it or wake by themselves, it's not going to be a magic bullet since the kid still hasn't figured out how to wake up. Obviously we're trying to work on it anyway, but for a kid who is that deep of a sleeper like mine (and yours), addressing constipation issues will help in the same way that limiting water would - it helps by circumstance because there's less pressure on the bladder, but they still won't have gained the biological ability to not sleep through it. So if you fix the constipation but she started drinking more water again, probably nothing would be different.</p> <p>In the end she said waiting it out is the best option, she usually addresses discussions about medication and other methods around 7-8, and that since they aren't awake, having them in a pull-up isn't psychologically affecting them the way it does when they are awake. You just end up with wet sheets! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration/page/2#post-2796274 Thu, 11 Jan 2018 10:09:25 +0000 Mrs Panda 2796274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: thank you for sharing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration/page/2#post-2796195 Wed, 10 Jan 2018 23:01:51 +0000 irene 2796195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't read everyone's comments but you are really not alone. DS is about to turn 6 in a few weeks and we are still wearing an overnight diaper. I had my antsy moments and it is the community here that calms me down. I told DS that so maybe he'd continue to wet his bed until he's 20 years old and he's mortified. Haha. It is not like he wants to wet his bed. He can't control it and we just have to believe that one day he will. Our ped said it is not a problem until when they hit 7 or 8. So we shall see. Crossing the fingers for everyone. The thing I feel bad is we are still using one diaper a day and creating unnecessary trash for our landfill. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2796190 Wed, 10 Jan 2018 21:45:06 +0000 Twolittlemen 2796190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Panda: we used the chummie premium and were happy with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2796181 Wed, 10 Jan 2018 20:11:31 +0000 Canoli 2796181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Panda: yes, we’ve let him sleep in underwear because he seems to really want to do it. It took a long time for him to be willing to let pull ups go. He’s only been in underwear for about 2 weeks and i’m too lazy to come up with a strategy so I just wash the sheets. Although i’ve been trying to put down those pad things I took from the hospital after delivery and some days he wakes with them half way across the bed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2796128 Wed, 10 Jan 2018 15:37:44 +0000 Mrs Panda 2796128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Twolittlemen: thanks so much for sharing. It truly helps so much just to know we’re not alone! Our pediatrician also recommended an alarm but I just haven’t been ready to commit to yet, knowing it’ll disrupt my sleep too. Doing it over the summer sounds like a good plan, though. Do you mind me asking what brand you got and if you liked it? There seems to a range out there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2796117 Wed, 10 Jan 2018 15:08:45 +0000 Twolittlemen 2796117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Panda: I don’t have time to read these all right now so excuse me if I’m repeating. My son wet the bed until<br /> We used an alarm. (It was recommended by one of the pediatricians in our group. The other pediatrician said it didn’t matter and he’d grow out of it.). We did it last summer so it wouldn’t affect him at school. He was 6.75 years old. </p> <p>He wanted to be done with pull-ups and waking him up before we went to bed and even setting an alarm to get him up again in the middle of the night was NOT effective. He is such a deep sleeper AND went several times a night and slept through it. He wore underjams but even if they leaked he could continue to sleep in a giant puddle soaking wet.<br /> The alarm allowed him to connect the feeling of peeing to waking up. We went from the alarm going off 2 or 3 times a night to it going off once. It took about 6 weeks. (Someone had to sleep in the same room as him the entire time to help him. )</p> <p>He is unable to make it through the night without going to the bathroom once. We are Now able to get him up before we go to Bed and take him and he can make it through the rest of the night. He doesn’t remember it. (He is 60 lbs but I can lead him in a shuffle walk in front of me)</p> <p>Some people may argue that this didn’t actually train him. But it made it SOO much better. it’s been amazing for us and his confidence.</p> <p>Let me know if you have any questions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2796091 Wed, 10 Jan 2018 13:56:30 +0000 Mrs Panda 2796091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: looking this up turns up everything from bananas and honey to much more obscure things...I admit I’m skeptical, but would be itnteresred to hear what worked for your cousin! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2796044 Wed, 10 Jan 2018 10:54:44 +0000 Mrs Panda 2796044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: interesting! Let me know if you find out what it is? I’ve done a lot of googling on the issue (heh) but haven’t come across anything like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2796029 Wed, 10 Jan 2018 10:09:21 +0000 Anagram 2796029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Panda: I have a cousin with 7 kids, and we were just having this discussion because my 4.5 year old still wets at night about 90% of the time. She swears by some supplement that she said totally stops bedwetting in her kids. I want to ask her again to try on my daughter to see if it works. And it was a natural type of supplement, not a medication, which appeals to me.</p> <p>DD was recently sick with a really bad cough and we gave her a cough suppressant just at night-the whole time she was on it, she woke up dry every day. Of course, I wouldn't give a kiddo an actual medication for long term use, but I would totally try a supplement to see if it helps.</p> <p>You may be able to google and find out what it is. I'm at work and don't want to search bedwetting remedies here, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2796024 Wed, 10 Jan 2018 09:43:14 +0000 Mrs Panda 2796024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@magnolia: yeah, she’s such a deep sleeper, though, it’s hard to fully wake her. So I end up carrying her....and she’s huge! She has absolutely no memory of it in the morning, so I don’t think it does anything to “train” her to wake to pee. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2796010 Wed, 10 Jan 2018 06:47:19 +0000 magnolia 2796010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Panda: does she go to bed earlier than you? You could try waking her up gently right before you go to bed and having her pee? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2795995 Tue, 09 Jan 2018 21:31:05 +0000 Mrs Panda 2795995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: we actually did have some success with a sticker chart before the holidays. I think the reason it worked, though, was because she was motivated to get a sticker so she drank very little or nothing, starting in the late afternoon/early evening. It was nice to celebrate the dry mornings, but I knew in the back of my head it really wasn’t a long term fix. Sure enough, during and after the holidays, we’ve slid back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2795994 Tue, 09 Jan 2018 21:28:11 +0000 Mrs Panda 2795994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Canoli: it’s helpful to hear others are going through the same thing! Do you just let him sleep in underwear and deal with the wet sheets? Or do you have a strategy for that? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2795993 Tue, 09 Jan 2018 21:27:31 +0000 MamaCate 2795993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Panda: @Canoli: I am so glad to know I am not alone with these big kids in pull ups! I remember when we initially potty trained I read about doing night training when they wake up with a dry pull up. That has never happened. DD is a great kid but can be quite stubborn and anxious about change at times so I bring it up every so often to nudge her. She was game to try last month after her birthday but only did a few nights dry (and I think only one where she actually got up to pee) before she slid back. I am open to positive rewards to help her over the hump but I think she is a deep sleeper and isn’t quite ready to wake herself up. But I am emotionally so over it so I am trying my best to keep myself in check. Let’s keep each other up to date on progress or lack thereof. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2795990 Tue, 09 Jan 2018 21:11:17 +0000 Canoli 2795990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is 6 and finally started to say he wants to sleep in underwear. He is not consistent with being dry overnight and even when he was using pull ups he would still leak and I get so annoyed having to wash the sheets during the week. I am trying to internalize my annoyance about that because I don’t want him to feel shame. He really is just soundly sleeping and just doesn’t realize he has to go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2795989 Tue, 09 Jan 2018 20:59:31 +0000 Mrs Panda 2795989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: hugs! I would love a virtual support group. Like you said, even though I know in my head it’s not her fault, it is so hard not to get frustrated. My DD also daytime potty trained early (just after turning 2), and I find myself wondering if we pushed that too early or something and messed her up! Again, I know it’s probably not that or anything that can be helped. And I know in my head it’ll eventually resolve itself...I’m unable to be as “meh, whatever” about like DH is, though! Anyway, thanks for your response and keep me posted how how things go for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2795974 Tue, 09 Jan 2018 20:14:01 +0000 MamaCate 2795974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Panda: I just wanted to say thank you for posting this and send a long distance hug! We are in the exact same boat. My DD just turned 6. She day potty trained early but is still in pull ups at night. We recently tried to “nudge” toward staying dry in case it was stubbornness but it was a disaster.</p> <p>I also feel like we should be over this by now but I also know intellectually that it is developmental. So I should back off. Maybe we can be a virtual support group for each other? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2795912 Tue, 09 Jan 2018 16:03:14 +0000 Mrs Panda 2795912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skipra: here’s hoping my second doesn’t follow in her sister’s footsteps on this front...but if she does, I’ll be more emotionally prepared. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2795889 Tue, 09 Jan 2018 15:41:40 +0000 skipra 2795889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wanted to echo everyone else that there is not much you can do. My 5 year old is very very rarely dry in the morning whereas my 3 year old is rarely wet. We day trained them at the same age, the same way so it's not likely anything we have done, just them asserting their individuality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2795878 Tue, 09 Jan 2018 15:28:46 +0000 SweetiePie 2795878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Panda: Haha it’s def something I’m glad about but I swear it’s not something I’m “proud” of because I literally did nothing to contribute. I know he’s definitely on the early side, though, as all of his classmates AND a lot of their older siblings still wake up wet. So I wouldn’t feel bad if he did too.<br /> And FWIW, he is daytime pee trained but still asks for a diaper to poop at almost 3.5. So, ya can’t win ‘em all :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2795874 Tue, 09 Jan 2018 15:19:17 +0000 Mrs Panda 2795874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: I’m so jealous. :p<br /> @Mrs. Champagne: @bakingdoodle: that is what I’m afraid of. It’ll make me even crankier about the whole thing!<br /> @Mrs. Toad: thanks for the resource! I will look into it.<br /> @Mamatimes3: I agree. Seeing all of these replies really does help convince me I need to just give her time and stop making her feel bad about it. Somehow, it’s more convincing than just DH telling me the same thing. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2795869 Tue, 09 Jan 2018 15:06:23 +0000 Mrs. Toad 2795869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read a book by a urologist about potty training and all of the associated problems. Deep sleepers are the ones that are most likely to wet the bed as they don't wake up. It had several chapters on bedwetting and how to solve the problem. </p> <p>The basic thing was to use one of those alarms, but it won't wake your daughter, it will wake you. You then have to make sure that you wake her completely and she has to remember waking up the next morning. (Have her remember something random). The alarm usually goes off within a few hours of her going to bed so it doesn't actually affect you waking in the middle of the night. However, you will probably need her wanting to end the bedwetting as well. </p> <p>Here's the book: It's not your fault! : strategies for solving toilet training and bedwetting problems / Joseph Barone, MD </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2795867 Tue, 09 Jan 2018 15:03:06 +0000 Mamatimes3 2795867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Panda: I get that. But at night she has no control of it anyway. It’s more to make your life a bit easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2795865 Tue, 09 Jan 2018 15:00:21 +0000 bakingdoodle 2795865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wanted to chime in. My sister did buy an alarm for her son. he was about 6? Every child is different but it didn't work for him. He would sleep through it but would awake my sister. So she didn't sleep for over 3 weeks so after 3 weeks, she decided it was better to just wait it out... and he did get dry just naturally. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nightime-bedwetting-frustration#post-2795864 Tue, 09 Jan 2018 14:59:28 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2795864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Panda: my friend said when she was younger her brother had to use one of those alarm things. And he was just such a deep sleeper it woke the entire house up (including her other brother who is hearing impaired!) but didn't wake up the brother who was wearing it!! He eventually grew out of it. </p>