https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 31 Jul 2026 20:25:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166910 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 18:00:54 +0000 immabeetoo 1166910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meganmp: don't be silly, parties are more for parents at this age so if you don't want one don't have one! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166884 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 17:41:19 +0000 lemondrop 1166884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Heck no, definitely not my thing! We had both sets of grandparents and my brother over- that's it. I threw some streamers (the streamers were the biggest hit with birthday boy!) and balloons around, made cupcakes, and called it good. Since we had so few people, we were able to go out to brunch- totally worth it in my book! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166881 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 17:40:30 +0000 Penny Lane 1166881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we didn't do one. my mama, sisters, and brother came down for the weekend, and we just hung out and ate cake! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166866 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 17:31:21 +0000 birdofafeather 1166866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>not bad at all! we're party people though, so i can't imagine NOT throwing a party! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166577 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 15:22:49 +0000 fancyfunction 1166577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're just doing immediate family for the party - about 10 people total. I thought about doing something bigger and then thought - her bday is 2 weeks before Christmas, our place isn't that big and I don't think our friends really want to attend a 1 year-old's bday party. I do plan on making it festive, but that's just b/c I can't help myself. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166560 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 15:14:14 +0000 Mrs. Polish 1166560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're not doing a party. Just family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166463 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 14:39:36 +0000 NovBaby1112 1166463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meganmp: ha, of course not! I would love to see him knee deep in making a mermaid ombre cake and putting together gift bags, but i highly doubt that will happen. all he has done so far is give me the invitation list, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166425 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 14:23:50 +0000 meganmp 1166425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is really making me feel better! I see all these themed birthday parties, and I feel a bunch of mom-guilt, but I think that it won't be fun if I stress out about how cute the bows are or whatever. Cake it is!<br /> @NovBaby1112: Is he offering to coordinate the whole bash? It would be just like my DH to want to have a huge party, and then be surprised when he's the one that has to pull it together. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166422 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 14:22:53 +0000 Beebug 1166422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LOs 1st Birthday was Sunday (20th).</p> <p>We had us, 1 set of Grandparents, and Great-Grandparents, one aunt for lasagne dinner!</p> <p>You're not a horrible parent aaaat all and don't worry one bit! I got so many comments of disbelief that I wasn't doing a pinterest-worthy type party as that's usually how I roll in everything else I do! Kid wants a crazy themed party when she's 7? I'm all over it, with the gifts she did get and the people that were there was enough. My opinion is that anything more would have been overwhelming, everything was perfect for us, and for her and I honestly think she had so much fun! She had a very underwhelming cake smash we let her do in our kitchen and had a lot of fun with her new toys! The cake smash was a box cake mix I made into a giant cupcake, nothing fancy, she just picked the sprinkles off, lol.</p> <p>Don't feel like a bad Momma, you're a great Mom and you do what you feel is most appropriate for you guys! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166420 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 14:21:10 +0000 NovBaby1112 1166420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be doing exactly what you mentioned, as I prefer smaller less complicated events, but my HUSBAND is the one who is insisting we do some big birthday bash lol. He wants everyone and their mother to come, and wants the decorations and cake to be amazing. So we compromised a bit. But if it were up to me, we would be having just some very close family members over, some cake and candles, and that's it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166418 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 14:19:54 +0000 IcebergMom 1166418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't do a first or a second. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166416 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 14:17:19 +0000 shinymama 1166416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't do first birthday parties. I feel that at one, they're just too little to understand the concept or really enjoy it, and we don't have any cultural reason to have one. Instead we go to a nice restaurant with my siblings and parents, and do cake and presents at home. However we did celebrate his first birthday at daycare with a mini party. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166415 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 14:17:16 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 1166415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the kids are going to want to see when they get older is a cake picture. Not a smash cake or a super fancy cake, just cake. : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166375 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 14:01:24 +0000 edelweiss 1166375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>even though first birthdays are considered a big thing in my culture, we're going to do something along the lines of what you mention. i love seeing other people's bigger bashes but i'm not big on party planning myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166374 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 14:01:21 +0000 Weagle 1166374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not a big deal. We had a party but it was really an excuse to hang out with friends :) Most of our friends did not have a party for their LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166360 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 13:57:57 +0000 sarac 1166360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dear god, no. I felt absolutely no compulsion to do some big thing for her first birthday. At that point, they can't even participate that much - it's really more for the family. We had a nice family gathering in a park. We had a much bigger party for her second birthday, and I expect to keep putting in more effort as she gets older and has more opinions about what she'd like to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166342 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 13:53:25 +0000 MrsScallop 1166342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We definitely aren't doing a big party thing. I am getting some photos taken and we will visit the grandparents. Not much else! Honestly, I don't think many of my friends would care much and most of our family lives pretty far away, so it isn't worth the time and money figuring it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166328 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 13:49:26 +0000 hilsy85 1166328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just had our parents and my sister and her family over! Three of our friends ended up stopping by later on but they're like family so it still felt very intimate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166319 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 13:47:11 +0000 petunia354 1166319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are doing a small party, just immediate family, no friends! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166298 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 13:40:43 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1166298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm only doing it because it's a big cultural thing for Koreans. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166287 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 13:37:46 +0000 ShootingStar 1166287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have absolutely no plans to do a giant first birthday party. LO's not even here and I know this for a fact. I get way too stressed out with big family parties, plus his birthday will be right around Thanksgiving. And it's mostly for the parents anyways. So why plan something I'm not going to enjoy? He'll never know the difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1166274 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 13:33:58 +0000 lamariniere 1166274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is exactly what we did. Just us and one set of grandparents. I made cake and he had a few gifts. That's it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1165776 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 10:39:03 +0000 cmomma17 1165776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't want a big party. We will probably just do grandparents, my sister and nephew. Hopefully my DH isn't thinking otherwise.<br /> It will have to be at my in-laws house because our apartment is too tiny to have more than 2 people over at a time, and my parents house is not an option because my dad smokes.<br /> I won't go pinterest crazy, but I may do a few DIY decorations :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1165758 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 10:35:29 +0000 ALV91711 1165758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We won't do a big party. My mom is going to fly out and maybe we will invite a couple family members who live close by for cake. </p> <p>We will do bigger things when he is older. The week of his birthday will also be my first week back to work, so it will be stressful enough! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1165751 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 10:34:19 +0000 meganmp 1165751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all! I'm glad it's not just me. If their birthday wasn't right next to Thanksgiving, and perhaps in July or something, I would do a BBQ and invite people over for the BBQ, and just happen to have cake at the same time. It's pratically the middle of winter though, and the kids won't remember it, so I'm not going to subject my friends to what I consider torture:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1165732 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 10:30:08 +0000 rawrasaur 1165732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We aren't! Just doesn't make sense for us. I still plan to spoil her on that day, we just aren't doing the party part. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1165722 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 10:27:49 +0000 yin 1165722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister keeps her parties pretty low key and invites only one set of grandparents, three sets of aunts and uncles, and three cousins. For the first year we went to a hot dog joint. Food and clean up was taken care of, and the kids enjoyed the trains on display. For the second year it was a simple dinner at her house, and the kids had a blast playing with each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1165712 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 10:25:05 +0000 Grace 1165712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's what we're going to do. Dinner and cake with family. I'll save a big party for when LO actually plays with other children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1165702 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 10:21:53 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1165702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think that's terrible at all! LO won't remember anyway!</p> <p>We are definitely doing a party, but we'll only subject our families to it because there's no way any of our friends would have any desire to attend! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-first-birthday-party#post-1165694 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 10:20:11 +0000 mrskc 1165694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're not a horrible mother! They won't even remember whether they had a party or not. </p> <p>I did throw a first birthday party, but on his actual birthday we had grandparents over for dinner then did cake and presents and it was so much fun! I was thinking afterwards that that would have been plenty to do for his birthday, but invites were already out and party plans were set. I might just do that for his 2nd birthday. </p>