https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 02:29:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat/page/2#post-2567285 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 22:53:14 +0000 Crystal 2567285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a natural miscarriage at 6 weeks (miscarriage took a week to start after I first found out), and a d&amp;c at 12 weeks. The 6 week one was hardest because I was so unsure when it would start, and it took forever to finish. While the d&amp;c was rough (in the sense that i was recovering from surgery), it was so much easier mentally. And the recovery really wasn't bad, but I did need DHs help the first few days while<br /> I was weak and to get me meds. </p> <p>I am so sorry for your loss. Make the decision that feels right for YOU, and don't feel pressured into anything you don't want to do. Take whatever time you need to grieve. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat/page/2#post-2567280 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 22:29:34 +0000 HLK208 2567280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat/page/2#post-2567268 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 21:56:40 +0000 lovehoneybee 2567268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so very sorry for your loss. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat/page/2#post-2567265 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 21:43:30 +0000 bluebubblez 2567265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending lots of love to you and your family. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2567213 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 19:21:02 +0000 FaithFertility 2567213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so incredibly sorry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2567212 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 19:19:05 +0000 delight 2567212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. I've had a natural mc, a D&amp;E and a misoprostol induced mc. They all sucked but natural was the most painful. The misoprostol one dragged on for weeks and the D&amp;E the most emotional as I was farther along. There's no easy way to decide what to do. You also do not have to go to your friend's baby shower. Lord knows I have missed a few myself. It's hard to go to them, especially right after a loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2567209 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 19:13:36 +0000 yin 2567209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry for your loss. </p> <p>I had a natural miscarriage but not by choice. It was a very difficult time for me, and I still get sad thinking back on that time. *big hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2567207 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 19:10:52 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 2567207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear about this. I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks and it was so hard. It is easy to think you're in "the clear." I had a d/c and it was quite easy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2567200 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 19:01:14 +0000 Eko 2567200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am very very sorry for your loss. I also had the same thing and I cried for a very long time. I opted for the d&amp;c because I didn't want to be pregnant anymore and thought mis carrying naturally would be more traumatizing. we didn't tell hardly anyone and it was ok that we didn't. My husband and I leaned on each other instead. I don't know if this helps, but it did for me. I kept saying that if this miscarriage is part of our journey to having a LO then I will suffer through it because having a LO is what is most important and rewarding. Continually thinking this wasn't an end and only a stepping point helped my grieving process. I hope that you can find some comfort :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2567197 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 18:50:54 +0000 babypugs 2567197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Makingbabyw: I am so, so sorry and sad for you. I wish I had more words of comfort. Hang in there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2567164 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 17:45:29 +0000 Silva 2567164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Makingbabyw: I'm so sorry for your loss. I took misoprostol because I wanted to avoid a procedure. It was a pretty straight forward and easy process, physically at least. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2567154 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 17:29:25 +0000 caterw 2567154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2567141 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 16:27:58 +0000 dc yoga bee 2567141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2567130 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 15:46:19 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2567130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you're going through this. I don't know what option you should choose, but do know there are so many of us who've had mc's &amp; while it is devastating, you have a lot of support here. My spontaneous mc @ 6wks is what brought me to HB &amp; it was so great to have so many great ladies here who knew what I was going through when I didn't have a lot of people who I wanted to share with in real life. :heart: :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2567090 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 14:57:33 +0000 Pollywog 2567090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Makingbabyw: For me, I drank a bottle of wine and had a raging hangover at work the next day I don't recommend either (working or a hangover). </p> <p>Depending on how old the fetus is, the risks of the D&amp;C outweigh the benefits. My doctors say they start recommending it at 9-10 weeks. I was at 9 weeks exactly, so I had options. I'd recommend not waiting and take the meds. The reason why we went for a D&amp;C over the meds is that I would know it was over. If I were to do it again, I'd take meds </p> <p>As far as telling people, I recommend doing it as you feel comfortable. I have told several people and I'm always surprised at how many people have gone through it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2567062 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 14:15:29 +0000 Mrs. Athome 2567062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope that you are able to talk to someone you trust, a friend or family member or someone who has gone through what you are experiencing. It is incredible and beautiful to see how many other women who have lived through the pain that you are dealing with now. Your sorrow is so valid and real and you shouldn't feel bad for one moment for doing whatever you need to in order to grieve. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2567061 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 14:08:39 +0000 Autumnmama79 2567061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Makingbabyw: doctors may have been advocating not to have a d&amp;c becsuse of the size/age of the fetus and/or because it's good practice to avoid surgery if you can. I took miso (pills inserted by dr)for my second mc at 10 weeks. It was quick and somewhat painful, but over within a couple of hours. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2567058 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 14:07:23 +0000 Tanjowen 2567058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Makingbabyw: I am so very sorry. I am also a Jan 17 mom and had a miscarriage on Sunday. My doctors also push for pills over d&amp;c. If you have any questions or just need to vent, feel free to wall me. I keep texting my best friend that it's all such a giant mind game. </p> <p>Watch trashy TV, drink wine if you want, throw things if needed, and I'm sorry you are going through this solo today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2567024 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 13:37:23 +0000 Makingbabyw 2567024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks all... I'm trying really hard to just wrap my head around very thing.. Yesterday was supposed to be such a happy day and instead turned into one of the hardest of our marriage. We haven't told many people we were even expecting so I feel really strange telling them I am going to loose the baby.</p> <p>My doctors both said they strongly prefer me not to have a d&amp;c, im not sure why. </p> <p>@Pollywog: I've been wondering too if I can drink. But I read a few stories online of people having no heart beat and then going in a week or two later and they were able to find one. Probably I am just holding on to something that isn't likely going to happen... I don't know.<br /> I deleted my social media for a while and have just been watching trash tv to get my mind anywhere at this point... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2566966 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 12:39:35 +0000 sunnyday 2566966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs. So sad to find this thread and read as I loved reading your excitement for this baby. No advice on your options as my loss went early and naturally. I have had a D&amp;C, but for different reasons. Take care of yourself, and don't put pressure on yourself to go to that shower. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2566960 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 12:36:02 +0000 lilyann 2566960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so so sorry. :crying: This happened to me in April as well. I chose to take misoprostol to pass it on my own and it was the right choice for me. Keeping you in my thoughts. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2566958 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 12:31:07 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2566958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:crying: im sorry for your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2566957 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 12:30:58 +0000 Pollywog 2566957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you are going through this. I had the exact same thing happen last year. As hard as it is to believe, it'll be okay.</p> <p>As far as how to miscarry, it is so personal. I waited a week to see if my body would do it naturally and then had a D&amp;C. It's a real mind bender to wait it out (can I drink? I want a bottle of wine, but it feels so wrong) and I was still getting morning sickness. The D&amp;C was so final. It helped.</p> <p>As far as the baby shower, tell your friend what happened. Go, don't wear mascara, and give yourself permission to leave at any time. Or to break down in the bathroom. It'll be hell, but you'll regret not being there.</p> <p>I'm so, so sorry you're going through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2566952 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 12:23:18 +0000 Anya 2566952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2566942 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 12:14:56 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2566942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2566941 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 12:14:31 +0000 mamabolt 2566941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry for your loss. I went through similar (was 10w) and opted for a D&amp;C because I didn't want to experience losing the baby at home (especially since I had a 3yo to care for) and I wanted closure. I had one of my BFF's baby shower that weekend, and she understood when I told her I couldn't go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2566935 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 12:11:48 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2566935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2566928 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 12:04:43 +0000 mrsjd 2566928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have not experienced this decision because my loss happened too early, but my heart breaks for you. I hope you're getting the support you need from loved ones. Be gentle with yourself and whatever path you choose will be the right one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2566926 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 12:03:00 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2566926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im so sorry. I opted to have a D&amp;C so that I could get it over with. I couldn't handle the being pregnant but not being pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-heart-beat#post-2566917 Tue, 14 Jun 2016 11:52:37 +0000 Autumnmama79 2566917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry. It's really heartbreaking. :heart: </p>