https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 15:08:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868325 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 23:57:01 +0000 crazydoglady 2868325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations on your sweet girl! I'm sorry things didn't go as you had planned, but I hope you will continue to heal emotionally and physically with time. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868319 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 23:32:33 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2868319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations! Having unplanned surgery is tough to wrap your head around, I hope in time it all gets better for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868309 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 21:56:39 +0000 808love 2868309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations!!!!!! Thanks for sharing your story. You and Rory went through so much but it is over now and on the road to healing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868302 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 21:31:51 +0000 jhd 2868302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I love reading birth stories! Thank you for sharing yours. I hope you're recovering well and that your little girl is doing well. I had a planned c-section with my second (now 10 months old) and I was terrified. I can't imagine how scary it would be to have to have an emergency C-section. I struggled somewhat with my recovery, it definitely wasn't a breeze! We weren't sure if we would have another and our boys ended up 4 years apart. It's been great so far! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868298 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 21:15:54 +0000 LCTBQE 2868298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: congratulations!! the birth sounds so rough but I'm glad she's here :heart: thanks for sharing the story. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868293 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 20:51:58 +0000 ALV91711 2868293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats! Thank you for sharing. </p> <p>I had an emergency csection with DS2 who is 5 months. It all happened so fast and I was not prepared for this. </p> <p>My boys are 5.5 years apart and I love the bigger age gap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868292 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 20:51:08 +0000 nwm 2868292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations! I'm 4 years apart from my sister, and we are super close. The age gap has basically gotten better and better with time.</p> <p>@mediagirl: @beckysue: I think this is definitely true. I live in NYC and when I asked my doctor whether they'd induce me past my due date because I was AMA, she was like, practically all of our patients are "AMA", so we don't have any different policies on induction, we only do it if it's indicated for some other reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868264 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 19:12:28 +0000 lamariniere 2868264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats! I’m sure your older DD is over the moon with her baby sis. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868261 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 18:55:49 +0000 Mrsbells 2868261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: haha yeah csection recovery can be brutal! Especially the first few days when your whole core strength is gone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868260 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 18:54:15 +0000 bhbee 2868260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats!! I’m sorry for the trauma and glad things are improving at least. My girls are 6.5 years apart - I do have a boy in the middle but it has been so fun for the oldest! 5 months in she is still completely besotted. It’s such a great age because not only are they really really into it, they’re also truly helpful and self sufficient! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868258 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 18:51:50 +0000 Foodnerd81 2868258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: congratulations! I’m sorry things didn’t go as planned and I hope recovery continues to improve things physically and mentally. </p> <p>@youboots: I’m a little over 4 years younger than one of my sisters and we are best friends still! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868250 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 18:22:22 +0000 catgirl 2868250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations on her arrival! I'm sorry things didn't go as planned and that recovery was rough though. </p> <p>DD turned four in December and we are still debating if we will have a second. So we are looking at a minimum of a five year age gap but really more likely 5.5-6. It seems the vast majority of people here have small gaps, so it's nice to see someone with a big gap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868249 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 18:11:29 +0000 petitenoisette 2868249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: congratulations! </p> <p>I had a similar second birth (except mine was a failed VBAC so I was more prepared for possibility of c-section). But baby that wouldn’t descend, lost blood, actually did need a transfusion so I can understand how you feel. It still can be tough for me to hear about “easy” births and over 10 months later I still will randomly ruminate about it and dream about it happening differently. But it has gotten better over time so I’m sure it will for you too. It’s hard when you feel like if only you had done that one thing differently you feel it wouldn’t have happened that way but it’s impossible to know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868248 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 18:10:35 +0000 Kaohinani 2868248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What a great story ... I'm sure your daughter will be interested to hear the details one day!<br /> (I had an emergency csection with my DD who is now 10-1/2 and she asks so many questions.) So happy for you. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868246 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 17:55:28 +0000 youboots 2868246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I’m pretty stoked about our 4.5 year gap. My sister and I have the same age difference.</p> <p>I’m so so happy for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868244 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 17:52:56 +0000 mediagirl 2868244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: there's so much more I could say but it's already too long. Haha. M is 6.5 years older than R. It's amazing right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868241 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 17:50:52 +0000 youboots 2868241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I know! I bought some of your baby stuff 4 years ago 😊</p> <p>Thank you for sharing. I was induced due to pre e at 39 weeks. L I’m AMA with a history of GD and PRE E, it’s when not if I get induced- so I was planning on scheduling it so my sister can be here. Looks like I’ll try and hold out for 40 weeks. </p> <p>I’m glad she’s here! What’s your age gap for the girls? Thanks for being so honest about your birth and recovery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868238 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 17:43:19 +0000 beckysue 2868238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Ah, maybe location has something to do with it. At 37 in CT no one said anything to me. We have just moved to WI so we will see if the mentality is different out here. My new OB didn't bat an eye when I mentioned we were trying to get pregnant. I guess only time will tell. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868236 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 17:38:24 +0000 Sams Mom 2868236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I'm in the Midwest and I guess the old doctor at my practice still calls you a "geriatric mother" instead of AMA 🤦🏼‍♀️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868235 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 17:35:32 +0000 mediagirl 2868235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: thank you! And wow, I bow down to you. Three csection recoveries. You're my hero.</p> <p>@beckysue: it's interesting. I live in the southeast and my lactation consultant told me if I lived in New York, the doctors wouldn't have batted an eye at my age. Down here they treat you like an invalid if you're over 40! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868231 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 17:16:21 +0000 beckysue 2868231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Thank you so much for sharing. I had my daughter at 37 and I thought we were 1 and done but then I moved our family across the country for my job and I feel like our family needs one more since we are so far from all of our extended family.</p> <p>I have to admit, your story makes me a bit nervous. At this point I will be 42 before I have a 2nd child (if it happens at all). But I still want to try at least for a couple of more months. I didn't realize there may be some hospital policies that will differ from the 1st time I gave birth since I am now over 40, so thank you for bringing that to my attention. :)<br /> Congratulations on you LO! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868228 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 17:05:32 +0000 Mrsbells 2868228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: congrats! I was and have moments when I am bitter about my 1st csection. I was also stunned by how hard the recovery was. Since then I had 2 more repeat csections and I guess the moral of the story is you will feel better with time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-longer-one-and-done-a-birth-story#post-2868197 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 15:39:49 +0000 mediagirl 2868197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Many of you who know me on here know I was one and done for a very long time. My husband and I had a little midlife crisis and changed our minds (eh hem.....he changed his mind). :) This is our second daughter's birth story. </p> <p>Short story: Induced at 39 weeks because I'm in my 40's, pushed for 2 hours, ended up with a (traumatic to me) emergency c-section. </p> <p>Long story:</p> <p>At my 38 week appointment, I was scheduled for an induction. It is standard practice at the OB practices in my area to induce any mom who is 40 or older at 39 weeks. I decided to be induced on the first day of my 39th week because it worked best for my work schedule...</p> <p>I got the call at 6:30am to come in to the hospital.</p> <p>At 8am, I saw my OB and I had my pitocin started. It was started very slowly and I hardly felt anything for a long time. Throughout the day, the nurses kept upping the pitocin and I continued to have very mild contractions that weren’t too bothersome. I walked the halls, bounced on a ball and watched a few episodes of Below Deck.</p> <p>At 5pm I still wasn’t feeling much but my OB came in and decided to check me. I was 4cm and she decided then to break my water. It gushed and gushed and soaked the nurses, my OB and me. Everyone was a little surprised by that, even though we all knew I had poly. </p> <p>About an hour after my water was broken, I started having terrible contractions and a burning sensation through each of them. At that point, I asked for the epidural. Soon after that, I had advanced to 10cm and started pushing. I pushed for 2 hours, just like with my first. Everything was going great until the baby wouldn’t come down any further. At this point my OB started trying to do a few things to help the baby down.</p> <p>They shifted me into different positions (hard with the epidural). Then she pulled out the vacuum to try to shift the baby’s head. At this point she told me the baby was stuck. She was trying to come out with her head facing the wrong way. Her head just wasn’t going to come out so, they decided it was time for a c-section. </p> <p>I was very, very upset. My whole body was shaking and I was so scared. My OB was wonderful and the nursing staff could not have been better but I was scared and pissed and sad. </p> <p>I was prepped for c-section and was later told that it was “a very difficult c-section”. After the OB made her incisions, the baby’s arm popped out so she had to shove it back in and then the baby flipped and ended up breech. She finally got her out and after they cleaned her off, they brought her to me (my husband was with me this whole time) before they took her away again. </p> <p>I lost a lot of blood during the surgery and a second OB had to be called in to help sew me up. Thankfully I did not end up needing a blood transfusion but apparently I came pretty close.</p> <p>Rory was born at 9:12pm, 6lbs 13oz, bruised up and down one arm, as well as on the side of her head where she was stuck. She had a myriad of health issues that we have been working through, but she is just a wonderful baby. Her big sister absolutely loves her to death. </p> <p>C-sections are no joke. Recovery was awful. I spent 3 nights in the hospital and 3 weeks on a couch in my family room because I couldn’t get into or out of our bed. It took a full 6 weeks to finally feel better again, not only physically but mentally, as well. It didn't help that I was not prepared at all for the c-section and it hit me really hard mentally.</p> <p>**If I had to do it all over again (hindsight being 20/20 of course) I would wait until 39.6 to be induced to hope she would come on her own and maybe change the course of events. I'm still very bitter about the c-section and probably will be for some time. </p>