https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 12:06:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-814897 Wed, 29 May 2013 09:36:46 +0000 purrpletulips 814897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We say a lot of no in my house and I was hoping I wouldn't. Unfortunately since DD doesn't ever want to listen (to me) it is said a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-814863 Wed, 29 May 2013 09:26:15 +0000 littlek 814863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: I think B thinks it's a joke. But he makes the cutest little face when he is being bad, it's hard to discipline him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-814860 Wed, 29 May 2013 09:25:37 +0000 littlek 814860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try and explain what B is doing wrong. Ex: "B we do not bang our toy against the wall/window." To which, he bangs the toy again and smiles at me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-814588 Wed, 29 May 2013 07:12:49 +0000 regberadaisy 814588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: hahah it really is!! I have to catch myself all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-814002 Tue, 28 May 2013 17:42:48 +0000 banana 814002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know the answer but my husband and I don't say "no" that often, yet my son still manages to "no no no" all day long. We try to say "Don't do that!" or "Don't touch that" instead of a simple "no" because it does provide a little bit more of an explanation than just plain "no". But heck, we say "no" all day long too. I think it's hard to avoid saying "no" to a toddler. lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-813973 Tue, 28 May 2013 17:27:14 +0000 Ree723 813973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. tictactoe: Same. I try to only use no when LO is doing something that could seriously hurt her or is a behaviour she needs to learn not to do right away (like the time she rolled over and crawled to the end of our bed before I could grab her - she got a huge "NO!" just as she was going over the edge, sigh. Mummy fail). Other than that, I try to do explanations like 'we don't do X, you could hurt yourself' or 'that's yucky/dangerous/etc'. But I know she's still going to go through a no phase, just a fact of life I guess! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-813958 Tue, 28 May 2013 17:19:36 +0000 mrs. tictactoe 813958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't avoid saying no, but I try not to say it too much because I think it can lose it's meaning. My husband doesn't quite get this, though and he'll just keep saying it expecting L to stop doing whatever it is he is doing. I say it once or twice and then remove L from the situation and/or distract him with something else because I know he understands the word no, but he also doesn't have good impulse control yet (nor do I expect him to). He just can't help himself! He already says no-no to the dogs a lot!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-813950 Tue, 28 May 2013 17:16:21 +0000 runsyellowlites 813950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: That &amp; "I don't understand..." Seriously, sometimes it just needs to be no &amp; be done with it. lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-813947 Tue, 28 May 2013 17:14:33 +0000 loveisstrange 813947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We try to follow up no with an explanation, but I still end up saying it.</p> <p>C already says no, at 14 months, so we are royally screwed once she gets a little older, </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-813668 Tue, 28 May 2013 15:09:27 +0000 rachiecakes 813668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@prettylizy: we do this, too.. but DS has learned to go "ah-ah-ah" and mockingly shake his head at me, lol</p> <p>I think it's unavoidable but we try to redirect or use other phrases "we don't throw food", "we are gentle with kitty", etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-813620 Tue, 28 May 2013 14:54:27 +0000 honeybear 813620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are in the thick of the "No" and "Why?" phases (they overlap for double the fun!). I use/d a lot of diversionary tactics on him, and I regularly employ the "First X, then [whatever he wants to do]," and "First X, and we'll do [whatever] later today/tomorrow." Non-negotiable stuff, like hitting, gets a "No." I think I have a really "easy" kid for the most part. I know what sets him off, and I do what I can to avoid those triggers, so it's not like every interaction involves him telling me "No!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-813552 Tue, 28 May 2013 14:39:06 +0000 prettylizy 813552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tend to say 'ah-ah-ah' followed by "We don't throw cups on the floor" or whatever the transgression is. I do use no, but ah-ah is my usual go-to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-813518 Tue, 28 May 2013 14:33:10 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 813518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We definitely say "no!" a lot in our house. We're quick to react, and it's the first thing we shout. Loudly.</p> <p>Chloe is like a little Spiderman Houdini. I don't know how she does it, but I swear the kid climbs everything and anything. I can't keep her on the ground LOL</p> <p>So... lot's of loud NOs!!!!! in our house lately.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-813515 Tue, 28 May 2013 14:31:11 +0000 regberadaisy 813515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: hahah "Why?" That was def more frustrating than no. haha As experienced many times as a aunt... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-813506 Tue, 28 May 2013 14:29:01 +0000 runsyellowlites 813506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Every child definitely goes through a "no" stage, I think it's pretty unavoidable.</p> <p>As for the always explaining &amp; not just saying no... I did this with G &amp; it worked great as a toddler &amp; small child... Now it's biting me in the butt because he doesn't just "follow instruction" or take "no..." Very well, needing an explanation of some sort. It's really frustrating!</p> <p>With P, I'm sure we'll still explain things so she can "learn" to choose differently but she'll definitely get plenty of short simple "no's" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-813484 Tue, 28 May 2013 14:22:24 +0000 swurlygurl 813484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My SIL and her husband were very good at explaining and very rarely slipped up and flat out said "no no", but both kids picked it up somewhere and stuck with it. Kind of frustrating for the parents that tried so hard! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-813480 Tue, 28 May 2013 14:21:41 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 813480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do a mix of everything, but I think every kid goes through a "NO" phase. We are definitely in it at 23 months :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-813470 Tue, 28 May 2013 14:20:02 +0000 Mrs. Pen 813470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always try to explain but I still say no a lot. like a lot. at least 20 times today :-P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-813455 Tue, 28 May 2013 14:15:09 +0000 pelikila 813455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes I just made a loud buzzing sound or clapped to get C's attention and then would look at him and say "uh, uh" with or without a head shake. Unfortunately I think once toddlers figure out "no" they stick with it for awhile regardless of how much you use it. It is something they gain some control with, which is a big deal. Overall we didn't get a lot of verbal "no" but we did get a lot of head shakes. Now we get a lot of "stop mama/daddy, no. don't like it". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-813446 Tue, 28 May 2013 14:12:58 +0000 winniebee 813446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>IDK the right answer to this but I usually say "we don't do X" "we don't do why" "we must not do X". And a lot of NO. NO. NO. Followed by T repeatedly doing whatever I'm telling him not to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-no-no#post-813441 Tue, 28 May 2013 14:11:19 +0000 regberadaisy 813441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was having lunch with a friend on Friday. She has a 20 month old that recently had her verbal explosion. :) She is finding that her daughter is say no, no ,no a lot. Despite her &amp; her DH working hard on not saying no but rather explaining.</p> <p>I find myself saying no a lot but after that conversation I've been trying harder to explain why M should not be doing a, b, or c rather than just no!</p> <p>What do you do?</p> <p>If you didn't say "no" did you find that LO still said no a lot?</p> <p>ETA: and also the reason this is important to me is I always thought I would parent by explaining rather than just saying "no". I kinda forgot about that when I started parenting! :P Trying to get back on track now. ;) </p>