https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 08:02:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-touching-policies-at-school#post-2299722 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 16:52:11 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2299722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: @LBee: that was the one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-touching-policies-at-school#post-2299434 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 13:40:51 +0000 LBee 2299434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Creepy memory for the win:</p> <p><a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-react-to-this#post-1775470" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-react-to-this#post-1775470</a></p> <p>ETA: Damn! @Adira: already beat me to it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-touching-policies-at-school#post-2299429 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 13:38:59 +0000 nana87 2299429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my daughter's in a mixed age (6months-3 years) classroom and there is lots of hugging and gentle touching. like, yesterday when I was dropping lo off, a 2.5 year old was very sweetly patting the shoulder of a 9 month old who was crying. when lo started at 6 months last year, one of my favorite things was how sweet the older children were to her! so, a strict no-touching policy seems so harsh to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-touching-policies-at-school#post-2299427 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 13:38:38 +0000 Mrs Spoon 2299427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There is a little girl at my daughter's daycare that has an issue with pushing. So while there isn't a no touching policy, kids do need to start learning about personal space and that unwelcome touching whether a hug or a push is not ok. So to me it's a grey area. I want my daughter to be hugged by friends, but I'm ok with some level of a keep your hands to yourself policy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-touching-policies-at-school#post-2299406 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 13:25:35 +0000 Adira 2299406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I think it was this one: <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-react-to-this" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-would-you-react-to-this</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-touching-policies-at-school#post-2299380 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 13:13:06 +0000 .twist. 2299380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Carrot: Yea, I, personally, this it's extreme and ridiculous. </p> <p>I believe it is just a "personal space" issue and an attempt to limit unwanted touching. That is only my assumption and I can't elaborate because they are my step kids so I don't talk to or deal with any of the teachers directly. I only hear this kind of stuff through my husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-touching-policies-at-school#post-2299375 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 13:11:17 +0000 Mrs D 2299375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have noticed in DD's daycare they go through "no touching" phases when a kid goes through a biting stage. For example: DD had just gotten into hugging...one of the other kids in the room (who I have known since he was 3 mos) was near her and I said "K give E a hug" and she did and as she did one of the teachers corrected them and said "thats close enough - lets do something else". I was put off and annoyed at first. One of the teachers later told me that E was going through a biting stage so they were practicing no touching in the classroom.</p> <p>Seems to come in stages...I wish they'd give the parents a heads up though so we knew! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-touching-policies-at-school#post-2299370 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 13:08:27 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2299370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Is there a reason for the policy, do you know? It seems pretty extreme to me, if it's not unwelcome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-touching-policies-at-school#post-2299367 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 13:07:37 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2299367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I don't think 2 is too early - we try to do a lot of "ask permission first" conversations, but she doesn't get it the "why" yet and I'm also weary of outright discouraging it because I don't want her to think that any kind of physical contact is bad. Those distinctions are hard to draw out in very little ones. Our daycare seems to be pretty comfortable with kids being physical - they don't discourage kids giving hugs to the teachers and only redirect kids if whatever touch is unwelcome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-touching-policies-at-school#post-2299361 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 13:04:59 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2299361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamasig: I completely understand unwelcome touching and I've seen teachers redirect kids if the touch seems unwelcome, but the idea of outright don't touch seems odd to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-touching-policies-at-school#post-2299348 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 12:59:35 +0000 .twist. 2299348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't come across this in pre-school or daycare situations but both of our older boys elementary school has a no touching policy. I'm not totally sure what it is, but holding hands is off limits; I know because our middle child has gotten in trouble for holding a little girls hand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-touching-policies-at-school#post-2299243 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 11:45:30 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2299243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I heard the (3s) teacher tell a kid to ask to touch someone but there's no policy of no touching, at least not that I know of! I think a strict black and white no touching policy is unfortunate, as the social aspect of learning is SO important in the preschool years, and even beyond. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-touching-policies-at-school#post-2299237 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 11:36:24 +0000 yoursilverlining 2299237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only kind of touching policy I know about at our school is if child A is being touched/hugged/etc by child B and child A expresses they don’t like it – then a teacher will redirect child B to “make another choice” and to not touch friends right now. But, I know they often hug each other, and do so lots at pickup!</p> <p>ETA: they do teach about keeping hands to yourself, and asking friends before hugging, but there isn't a ban or anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-touching-policies-at-school#post-2299235 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 11:34:54 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2299235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A long time ago on HB there was a discussion about a lottle kids hugging other kids on the playground. Although hugs are "nice touching" an uninvited hug inba design someone's else's pesonal space. ETA: does anyone else remember that thread?</p> <p>I don't think two years old is too early to teach keeping your hands to yourself or as my mom said "look with your eyes not with your hands." Banning all touching seems silly since some games require cooperative touching. Don't kids that age usually walk in pairs holding hands? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-touching-policies-at-school#post-2299230 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 11:32:23 +0000 Mamasig 2299230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on the kind of touching it is. I know that keeping your hands to yourself is a big rule for the PK4 class my sister teaches. I would think holding hands and playing would be ok. But if a child is touching another child and it is unwelcome, I can see how they would get in trouble. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-touching-policies-at-school#post-2299229 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 11:29:25 +0000 birdofafeather 2299229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter is in a 2-3 class and there is nothing like this mentioned. I'm not even sure how you would enforce this? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/no-touching-policies-at-school#post-2299182 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 11:00:46 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2299182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On a parent discussion elsewhere, someone mentioned that her 4 year old daughter was sited by their school for "touching" other kids. The parent is going to follow up with the teacher for more details, but a bunch of other parents chimed in saying that lots of schools have "no touching" policies. Have others encountered this? My kid is only 2, so it's still hard to teach limits like "ask if it's OK to hug someone" but an outright ban just seems extreme to me, especially with little kids. </p> <p>Thoughts? </p>