https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 18:01:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/normal-or-problem-behavior-6-yo#post-2896502 Tue, 10 Sep 2019 13:20:42 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 2896502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think to an extent it is normal. My 6 year old also has moments that are pretty dramatic and I remember the same from this age with my older one. I think the thing with behavior issues that come up is seeing how long it lasts and to an extent also trying to prevent and diffuse them so that they are a temporary things.<br /> So for example I try to always go back to basics: hungry? tired? had enough outdoor time/exercise? had enough connection time (conversations, hugs etc)? If we are good on all those then it's probably a phase, and if it keeps going and going then let's investigate if something else is going on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/normal-or-problem-behavior-6-yo#post-2896496 Tue, 10 Sep 2019 10:54:38 +0000 Chuckles 2896496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I highly recommend The Explosive Child by Ross Greene. Even if your DD is fairly close to typical behavior, it sounds like giving yourself a framework and structure for how to address her behavior might be helpful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/normal-or-problem-behavior-6-yo#post-2896495 Tue, 10 Sep 2019 10:46:55 +0000 pinkb 2896495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD is 6 and she is like this, I do feel like her behavior is a bit extreme at times.. Although I think some of it is normal I think a lot of it has to do with anxiety or something. My sister and I were like this when we were little and now that we are adults we both suffer with anxiety and wonder if there was something they could have "diagnosed" us with when we were younger.<br /> I do feel as if it has gotten a bit better, small small bit. I try and sit and talk it thru with her when she calms down enough. Usually it just makes it worse honestly. She has a speech and language delay, although almost typical for her age now, I still attribute some of the behavior to that. She has never really learned how to appropriately react in situations that make her mad/angry. We also have many evenings that go haywire due to her, especially where homework is involved. For the longest time she would just start screaming and crying and try to hide under her desk. When upset enough she will pinch herself on her thigh. For us we have learned that involving someone outside our house helps, we facetime my sister in these situations and it tends to turn around fairly quickly most of the time. </p> <p>And the remembering things and not letting them go, she does this too! Constantly pointing out people and telling me the same thing that happened that upset her. Like a little boy that laughed when she stumbled one morning. Everyday we see him she points him out and tells me the story again even though I was there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/normal-or-problem-behavior-6-yo#post-2896494 Tue, 10 Sep 2019 10:46:54 +0000 KT326 2896494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty much the same as @charlotte: </p> <p>My son is 7.5. He can still throw a temper tantrum, but it isn't nearly as bad as it was around 5-6. Trust me, I thought I was a horrible parent, doing everything wrong. But it's just something he is outgrowing. He's finding ways to express his feelings without throwing a fit. Their brains have a lot to work through! They have to experience emotions in order to figure it out and it is up to us to teach them the appropriate ways to express them.</p> <p>In the heat of the moment I use my calm voice, tell him whatever it is I need to say (you can't hit your brother, it's time to turn off the tv.. etc). I say it once and I walk away. Usually he will come over to me later and apologize for throwing a fit or yelling or whatever he was doing. Then I use that opportunity to talk about better ways to express our feelings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/normal-or-problem-behavior-6-yo#post-2896489 Tue, 10 Sep 2019 10:25:14 +0000 charlotte 2896489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this is common for the age. My son went through the exact same thing and now at 6.5 it is getting much better! It seemed like he would not know how to express his anger appropriately... too old for a preschool “tantrum” and too young to really get all of his words and feelings out. It helped us to not get too wrapped up in it, ignore and keep our cool / model calmness as much as possible while he takes time to cool down. He’s started apologizing on his own when he gets overly upset. I also felt like Kindergarten was a stressful time, lots of new rules and expectations. 1st grade has been more school work but a bit more relaxed environment, more freedom and personal responsibility which he likes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/normal-or-problem-behavior-6-yo#post-2896482 Tue, 10 Sep 2019 09:37:52 +0000 Becky 2896482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My almost 6 y/o girl seems to be getting more and more emotional and difficult, and I’m starting to get concerned. She still throws epic temper tantrums, and will scream and hit. If reprimanded or told not to do something she melts down. It doesn’t matter if it’s something super insignificant—for some reason she feels like I’m attacking her character. If I calmly tell her “you need to stop talking in a baby voice” for example, she responds “This is how I was born! When you say that it makes me feel like you think I’m a useless block of wood!” (🤷‍♀️). The other day I was in the shower and somehow the gate upstairs got closed and she screamed bloody murder for the next 5 minutes despite being able to hear me say “I’m in the shower. You’re going to have to be patient and wait for me to get out.” She also carries small indiscretions from her classmates for months. She was so upset to find out a little girl who said my DD bumped into her on the playground and didn’t believe DD when she said it wasn’t her was going to be sitting next to her at school. This incident was months ago, but DD said “On the first day I’m going to tell Eleanor I didn’t bump into her.” Yesterday Eleanor said DD was looking at her paper during math and DD got so upset about it that she spent all of recess sitting on the ground not playing. Some days at home it feels like she spends more time crying then not, and she often ruins a perfectly good evening which is hard because I work FT (I would never tell her that though).</p> <p>Our other DD is 3 and very laid back which makes it hard because she rarely gets reprimanded. I am also a little concerned because recently I finally figured out I’ve been suffering from anxiety my entire life, and I’m wondering if that could be what’s going on with her. </p> <p>Thoughts? Is this normal or a problem? TIA! </p>