https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 02:33:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-158458 Mon, 14 May 2012 19:14:16 +0000 MsMamaBear 158458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HabesBabe: I agree. It was a different kind of planning for me. Heck, it felt good to just let go and not plan every detail down to a T! if we have another, we'll do it again. The big things are gender neutral, so why not? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-158375 Mon, 14 May 2012 18:27:15 +0000 Mommy Finger 158375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, IMO it's going to be a big surprise either way I find out so why not find out early? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-158365 Mon, 14 May 2012 18:13:18 +0000 HabesBabe 158365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm currently 32 weeks and we're Team Green. I am a BIG planner (planned our entire wedding) and have no patience/hate surprises (we had a first look during our wedding for this exact reason!), but this seems different to us. I would prefer a girl, he prefers a boy, but in the end, neither one of us would be upset with the other sex. We are still super excited and it gives us something extra to look forward to.</p> <p>Plus, we got all of the "useful" things on our registry because people couldn't buy us clothes. Not a big deal (definitely not why we decided to be TG), but a definite perk!</p> <p>And we still got a lot of hand-me-down clothes (greens and yellows). Hubs said that there's not many REAL surprises left in life, so we might as well enjoy this one. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-158317 Mon, 14 May 2012 17:13:15 +0000 Honeybee 158317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were Team Green with both pregnancies, and when we have a third, we'll be Team Green again. It really hasn't been that hard for us to wait, and the big reveal right after birth was such an awesome experience, both times!</p> <p>It's really just personal preference whether to find out or not; if you're torn about it, and you plan on having more than one kid, you could always compromise and be Team Green on one pregnancy but not the other. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-158309 Mon, 14 May 2012 17:07:03 +0000 winniebee 158309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We wanted to know (or mostly I did) - I am not good with surprises and wanted to know because I was so convinced it was a boy (I was right) and was wondering how I would react in the end if it was a girl.</p> <p>I have had many friends who did not find out and they LOVED they surprise/anticipation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-158219 Mon, 14 May 2012 15:55:34 +0000 birdofafeather 158219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we want to find out, but you should wait if you and DH want to! the friends that i know that kept it a surprise loved it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-158188 Mon, 14 May 2012 15:33:47 +0000 LuLu Mom 158188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There just no way I could wait, I am a very impatient person! haha I know a lot of people who do/did wait, but knew we wanted to find out as soon as we could so I could bond and use gender specific pronouns and names at home! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-158175 Mon, 14 May 2012 15:25:27 +0000 Modern Daisy 158175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always said I wouldn't want to know, but now that I'm starting to TTC I feel like I might actually want to find out ahead of time. I think both options have obvious benefits, but ultimately I would want to know as a bonding experience. Honestly the main argument for me not finding out is to control other people - not me! I wouldn't want a sea of pink or blue presents at my shower and I don't want people to start bugging me about the name, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-158090 Mon, 14 May 2012 14:42:07 +0000 littlebug 158090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, definitely want to know. I'm super impatient. And a planner. I couldn't handle not knowing, it would drive me batty! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-158065 Mon, 14 May 2012 14:15:40 +0000 DillonLion 158065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't have minded being Team Green, but DH was not having that at all. And I don't think I can last the whole pregnancy if he knew and I didn't. I'd force him to spill the beans eventually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-158060 Mon, 14 May 2012 14:14:14 +0000 Mrs. Blue 158060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I really want to be Team Green at least once, but we can't decide if it would be better to do that with our first or second. Also, I'm the WORST at secrets. If I know there is a secret, I beg, plead, cajole, and analyze to figure out what it is, so I know Team Green will be super hard for me to make it through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-157801 Mon, 14 May 2012 11:00:21 +0000 purrpletulips 157801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were team green with both pregnancies. We never discussed what we thought LO#1 was going to be until after she came when both DH and I said "oh I thought it was a boy" this time around he's hoping for a boy and I don't have a preference either way but think it is a girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-157291 Sun, 13 May 2012 18:58:21 +0000 googly-eyes 157291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were going to be team green but were afraid we were getting attached to what we thought it was (boy) and also we just wanted to know anything they could tell us about baby. 9 months feels so long! It did turn out to be a girl! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-157290 Sun, 13 May 2012 18:54:06 +0000 MsMamaBear 157290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Minnie_Girl: latch onto the sex as the primary way of loving/bonding with the baby before birth. </p> <p>THAT!</p> <p>We were Team Green and loved it. :) It was nice finding out that day and people waiting on pins and needles to hear boy or girl. Bonded very well with Baby Bear, not knowing the gender didn't make me feel any different. if we have another, we'll be Team Green again. Boy or girl, I didn't care. :) Too much other stuff to worry about. (I'm a major worrier.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-157255 Sun, 13 May 2012 17:44:06 +0000 cupcakemama 157255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The moment after LO was born when the "it's a..." pronouncement was made was one of the most amazing moments of my and DH's lives. I wouldn't trade it for anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-157061 Sun, 13 May 2012 09:35:39 +0000 Foodnerd81 157061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We aren't pregnant yet but I don't plan to find out when the time comes. H on the other hand, really wants to know and has threatened to bribe the ultrasound technician. I think it will be such a great surprise at the birth, and I do want mostly neutral stuff anyway, since we plan to have more than one.<br /> The only downside I see is the bonding, like others said. I know I'll still feel bonded with it, but I can see how knowing the gender does make it a little more real. Of course, if I have a boy I will have a TON of hand me downs coming and with a girl I will actually have to buy clothes myself! (who am I kidding-- my family has all boys so I'm sure they will go insane on the girliest dresses and skirts they can find. Poor kid). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-157058 Sun, 13 May 2012 09:11:10 +0000 owlmom 157058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We decided to find ahead of time because we figured it's a great surprise whether you find out at 20 weeks or at the birth. Plus, finding out ahead of time gave us two events to be excited about: the gender reveal and the birth. We didn't know the gender going into the ultrasound (obviously), so we were surprised when we found out then. I really loved that experience. I was super excited for a couple days leading up to the ultrasound and could barely sleep the night before - it was sort of like the excitement of Christmas when you're a kid. Right after we found out, the ultrasound tech stepped out of the room and let me and my husband have a few minutes to ourselves, which was such a special moment for us. Then when baby arrived, we got to be surprised again by the miracle of our amazing little one. The clothes and stuff didn't really matter to me - all of the 0-3 month clothes, nursery stuff, and baby gear we bought were gender neutral anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-157056 Sun, 13 May 2012 08:41:06 +0000 MamaMoose 157056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm currently 12 weeks pregnant and we aren't finding out. There are so few true surprises left in life so I wanted this one. We plan to have at least one more baby so all of our big items will be gender neutral anyway. And I don't see why an infant has to be in gender specific clothes anyway. My baby is due in Nov so we will be staying at home for most of the first few weeks and I have no problem with no pink or blue clothes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-157045 Sun, 13 May 2012 07:50:17 +0000 SleepyMonkey 157045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't wait to find out! I'm not a huge fan of waiting and surprises...I like things to be all planned out, and I want what I want right now!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-156988 Sun, 13 May 2012 00:59:46 +0000 BoogieBea 156988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted to find out. It gave me something to look forward to half way through the pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-156986 Sun, 13 May 2012 00:54:25 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 156986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The don't tell you in our area. For realz, you have to go to a clinic and get a 3d ultrasound, the nearest of which is 6 hours away and it costs around $200. $200 plus gas and likely a hotel for the night is too much money to find out something I'd find out eventually anyway.</p> <p>I would have bought gender neutral for the big things anyway, although I ended up with two little girls! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-156954 Sat, 12 May 2012 23:02:58 +0000 MsMini 156954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were team green, and it was amazing! I would definitely be team green for the next baby, the anticipation was amazing, and having that surprise ahead of me really helped pull me through a stressful birth experience! My little guy has a really nice gender neutral nursery, and I found TONS of super cute neutral clothes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-156854 Sat, 12 May 2012 19:47:18 +0000 pastemoo 156854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i didn't want to know, dh did, and the second that anatomy scan wand hit my belly it was obvious... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-156853 Sat, 12 May 2012 19:36:47 +0000 Bao 156853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am almost 24 weeks pregnant and we did not find out the gender :) Yay team green! I will admit its hard some days, especially when people around me are finding out (including our best friends), but I think it will be SO worth it. Everything we have is gender neutral so far, so that way with baby #2 we will be all set (at least in the beginning). It gives us something to look forward to, other than, of course, the birth! I think it will give me that little extra motivation to push :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-156732 Sat, 12 May 2012 14:07:30 +0000 heffalump 156732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the first I wanted to know. I knew that if I had a girl and didn't fill her room with all things pink, I'd be very upset. So we found out, we had a girl, and I have lots of pink. </p> <p>But DH didn't want to find out and doesn't want to for our next, so we won't. I figure I already have all my girly stuff so I won't miss out on anything by not knowing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-156730 Sat, 12 May 2012 14:04:40 +0000 Mrs. Pen 156730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It wasn't just for clothes for us.<br /> Part of it was I needed to mentally or emotionally prepare for whichever I got. I was convinced I was having a girl, so when I found out it was a boy I was shocked. I am glad I had the time to warm up to the idea. Now I am sooo glad I had a boy and loved being able to plan for it.<br /> I honestly don't know how Team Greeners do it, buy all the clothes the first month of having a baby? I didn't want that stress. Knowing ahead of time gave us time to accumulate baby clothes we found on sale, craigslist, clearance and hand me downs. We have paid less than $100 for our huge stash of baby clothes ranging from NB-2T. </p> <p>So I guess that was two reasons I chose to find out, prepare myself, and prepare for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-156720 Sat, 12 May 2012 14:01:10 +0000 Andrea 156720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just wanted to know and as @Mrs. Jacks said and it is a bonding experience. We named her right after we saw the ultrasound and it made everything very real. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-156683 Sat, 12 May 2012 13:15:52 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 156683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really wanted to know, so we found out the sex of our baby as soon as we could.</p> <p>However, I just went and saw my friend in the hospital who was team green and didn't know her baby's sex til he was born. She said hearing them shout "it's a boy" was the most amazing thing EVER and she wouldn't have done it any other way.</p> <p>She did an amazing job planning a gender neutral baby room and getting some cute gender neutral baby items. You don't need much when the baby is brand new, so you could buy minimal amounts and then purchase gendered stuff once he/she is born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-156666 Sat, 12 May 2012 12:54:16 +0000 T.H.O.U. 156666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was fun for us not knowing and being "team green". There was plenty of time to buy clothes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-finding-out-the-sex-of-baby#post-156557 Sat, 12 May 2012 09:18:28 +0000 heartsnsunshine 156557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: I've seen team green mention and had no idea what that was! Thanks for informing me of that! </p>