https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 09:36:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2862432 Mon, 17 Dec 2018 10:54:18 +0000 snowjewelz 2862432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cat620: Aww, I am glad it kind of worked out! Since this seems to be a "first offense", I'd just move on and give her the benefit of the doubt! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2862393 Mon, 17 Dec 2018 08:27:00 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2862393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cat620: now that’s what friends do! Great ending :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2862320 Sun, 16 Dec 2018 09:18:39 +0000 cat620 2862320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: I got a text!</p> <p>Update: L finally texted me on Thursday and said she was sorry and had the wrong contact info, so that's why I didn't get the invitation. She said she knew it was last minute, but we were welcome to go to the party if we were free. </p> <p>We had already made plans for the morning of the party, but I told her we could stop by afterward, so that's what we did. She apologized again in person and seemed sincere. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2862091 Fri, 14 Dec 2018 09:26:28 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2862091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just assume you weren't invited but not take it too negatively/personally. As you said there are different reasons people invite or don't invite people to kids birthdays. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861961 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 15:30:36 +0000 crazydoglady 2861961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cat620: Still no text from L? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861845 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 09:47:16 +0000 snowjewelz 2861845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cat620: Ahhh even more awkward now... I am so so sorry this took a turn for the worse. I guess now the ball is in her court to see A) if she actually invites you B) doesn't and apologize profusely later or C ) does nothing so confirming your suspicions that her feelings for you changed at some point </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861827 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 08:56:02 +0000 cat620 2861827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: @crazydoglady: @cake2017: Yes, the party is this weekend. I agree that it's really weird, but I'm not going to say anything. Even if she invited us today, I most likely wouldn't go, because the party is two days away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861811 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 07:48:21 +0000 cake2017 2861811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cat620: Based on that update I would let it go and just not attend even if invited at last minute. Just awkward.... unless you feel comfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861793 Wed, 12 Dec 2018 21:29:45 +0000 crazydoglady 2861793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cat620: And the party is this weekend? Yeah...I would let it go because it's not worth it. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861792 Wed, 12 Dec 2018 21:25:37 +0000 Foodnerd81 2861792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cat620: really weird and awkward situation now! I’d let it go and move on but I know it would nag me a little wondering what was up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861786 Wed, 12 Dec 2018 21:10:41 +0000 cat620 2861786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Update: M talked to L yesterday morning, because they ran into each other. M said that she mentioned the party to me and was wondering if she meant to leave me off the invite list. L responded that she thought she had included me and would text me later that day about the party. </p> <p>I never received a text from L, so I think she's either the most forgetful person ever, or she doesn't want to invite me to the party. The whole situation is awkward now, and I can't tell what the truth is. Did she really forget, or did she say that because she was put on the spot? Why would she say she'll text me and not follow through? Maybe we aren't as good of friends as I thought we were. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861578 Tue, 11 Dec 2018 19:28:22 +0000 Foodnerd81 2861578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cat620: @Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I don’t think M was looking to stir the pot. I’ve had this happen when a friend asked if I was going to a mutual friends kids party. We weren’t invited. But it was totally different because she had always been better friends with this family and I haven’t spoken to them for two years, but she felt awkward even though I KNOW this friend would never try to stir up trouble. I think M just assumed you were invited. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861575 Tue, 11 Dec 2018 19:08:01 +0000 SweetiePie 2861575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually think this was probably an oversight. Like she literally just forgot to type in your address and she thinks you’re invited and just not replying.<br /> ETA: this happened to me once. A good friend actually texted me to see if I was coming and I had no idea what she was talking about. She then realized she didn’t send me the invite but totally meant to.<br /> That being said, I still wouldn’t say anything. I might tell our mutual friend to say casually “hey I saw that cat620 wasn’t on the list. Is she not invited?” IF and only if you totally trust her and she’s very comfortable doing so. Mainly so that the bday mom knows you’re not flaking on her. If she feels funny at all or you have a shred of concern that she would spill the beans or gossip, I wouldn’t say a peep. </p> <p>Bottom line, I wouldn’t take it too personally and would most likely just move on with no hard feelings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861561 Tue, 11 Dec 2018 16:50:55 +0000 Rocker2014 2861561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted to see if M would be willing to say something to L, because I was just in the reverse situation and feel terrible about it. When we did invites to LO's birthday party, I inadvertently left someone off the paperless post invite. It isn't someone I see super often, but someone that we socialize with a few times a year and has a son LO's age. I realized immediately after the party that I neglected to invite them and felt SO BAD - it's been a month and I still do! I'm going to apologize profusely the next time I see them. I so much wish that someone else had noticed and mentioned it to me before the party! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861521 Tue, 11 Dec 2018 13:58:26 +0000 ValentineMommy 2861521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Apparently I'm in the minority, but I would ask in a roundabout way. Like, "Hey! I know xyz's birthday is coming up. Are you guys doing a party this year or keeping it small?" or something to that effect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861340 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 14:56:33 +0000 snowjewelz 2861340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: You did the right thing!</p> <p>I agree that I would just want to know WHY since that kind of sucks. If I was M and I felt comfortable enough, I would have asked L lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861279 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 11:53:17 +0000 Mrsbells 2861279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldnt say anything because it would make things awkward. If she meant to invite you she might follow up for an rsvp and of she hasnt done that I would leave it alone. It sucks not knowing why buy trying to figure it out might complicate things </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861272 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 11:22:13 +0000 paigeface 2861272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cat620: I am sorry this happened to you. I have had something similar happen to me as well and it was a little awkward but I ended up just letting it go. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861217 Mon, 10 Dec 2018 07:50:45 +0000 Ajsmommy 2861217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>These things are tough but I'd go with let it go and say nothing..... However, I have had it happen that once I was asked by a mom if we were coming to her DD's party and I had not ever seen the invitation so I'd never rsvp'd. All I can think is that DH or DD got it and somehow it never made it to me. So I didn't know about the party and would have assumed we weren't invited but we actually were! I'm glad the mom mentioned it to me... we were invited and we did go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861108 Sun, 09 Dec 2018 07:02:07 +0000 looch 2861108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I recently had to tell a mom that I am good friends with (group text level, we just had a moms afternoon yesterday) that my son just wanted boys invited to his party and it literally broke my heart...but she was totally fine with it. </p> <p>I find this kind of stuff so hard, she didn't approach me, but because we have mutual friends whose sons were invited, I felt the need to just put it out there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861106 Sun, 09 Dec 2018 06:03:34 +0000 cake2017 2861106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would want to know too. This would bother me especially if everyone else is invited and there hasn’t been any issues etc. However, I wouldn’t say anything. I’d let it pass and I feel like if you all are friends and everyone else is there- the truth will come out. Truth as in- forgot to add you etc.... I am sorry this happened. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861104 Sun, 09 Dec 2018 01:44:10 +0000 gestalt 2861104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not say right now unless your child is good friends with their child. We still get together with preschool friends and their families (the families are all friends), but some of the parents take their kids’ leads and invite who they want at their party. Could the other moms see one another more frequently? I think it’s too much drama to exclude ONE mom from the group. I’m more of a “invite one or none” host unless I’m only only super close to 1-2. </p> <p>The next time I saw the friend I would probably say “oh i hope x had a great birthday party- I heard it was fun!” and see how she responds. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861045 Sat, 08 Dec 2018 13:11:29 +0000 cat620 2861045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Maybe it slipped out? When she talked to me about the party, she assumed I was invited, so she probably wasn't prepared for me to say I wasn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861042 Sat, 08 Dec 2018 13:07:34 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2861042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cat620: M is being messy. Why ask you why you weren’t invited when she should have posed the question to L you know the friend hosting the party after all? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861009 Sat, 08 Dec 2018 09:10:29 +0000 LBee 2861009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: This. Even in a scenario once similar to this one where I didn’t invite 1 friend from a play group, I texted the mom and explained why. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2861003 Sat, 08 Dec 2018 08:17:46 +0000 cat620 2861003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: The friend (M) who told me about the party, said the guest list was viewable, and that's how she could tell I was the only one from the group not invited. She didn't see my name anywhere, so I don't think my email was typed in wrong. </p> <p>I have had the same with other friends, where the kids started elementary school, and then they wanted to invite their school friends as opposed to friends from their old playgroups. Honestly, my son doesn't remember most of the kids he played with as a toddler, so we'll probably stop inviting them to parties as well. However, in this particular playgroup we were getting together for play dates just this year, so it hasn't been that long. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2860998 Sat, 08 Dec 2018 08:02:44 +0000 Foodnerd81 2860998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cat620: is the guest list viewable? Any chance your email was typed wrong? I ask because this happened to a friend where I saw she was invited and mentionedit to her, but she never got her invite. The mom really had just mistyped the email. But it wasn’t an old friend who would have previously had it, just a new preschool classmate. </p> <p>I was in a similar group of moms and as the kids have gotten older and made their own friends, we’ve all had to cut back the guest list. I know i have and my close friends have. I assume others have too and I just haven’t heard about the parties since I’m not invited. But it does sound odd that she only left you out. </p> <p>If it was an evite, and she entered your name wrong, she will see that you didn’t open it and probably ask you about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2860992 Sat, 08 Dec 2018 07:26:47 +0000 cat620 2860992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree, I probably shouldn't say anything. It sucks to be excluded though. Also, I will most likely see her again when the group gets together, so I feel like it could make things awkward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2860972 Fri, 07 Dec 2018 23:16:59 +0000 crazydoglady 2860972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know it's so hard, but I would let it go. Definitely don't have M talk to L because that puts M in an awkward position. If L did it purposely, then M has to tell you. If you say something to L, you may get a less than genuine invitation or the awkward "I'm sorry, our venue was just too small etc etc." In my opinion, if someone can't remember to invite me to something, I'm not sure I really want to attend. 🤷 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-invited-to-party-should-i-say-something#post-2860971 Fri, 07 Dec 2018 23:01:43 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2860971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you want to go or know where you stand then it’s up to you ask L about it. However, if you’re comfortable with a possible oversight then let it go until the next time this happens and you will know if it was a mistake. M may run back and let L know she may have slipped and then who knows... </p>