https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 16 Jun 2026 07:41:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-settling-immediately-for-nap-when-the-other-parent-is-having-a-lie-in#post-2039418 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 10:39:17 +0000 erwoo 2039418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with @Mrs. Lion: that baby sleep trumps adult sleep. I was big on just letting them cry it out. Sometimes they would cry and then whimper for up to an hour (I know!) but will fall asleep eventually and sleep for an hour or less sometimes. Those usually weren't the best naps but a nap is better than completely no nap. The rest of the day was still filled with whines and crankiness but less so than if they didn't nap. We were lucky that when my youngest was born we were still living in our house back in the states. Because their bedrooms were on opposite ends of the house and our master was close by but our bed was quite far from the nursery so couldn't hear too much. Our apt. in Asia now...whoa...my youngest cries he wakes his big brother. Although, now it's not that big a deal b/c they are older and my oldest usually gets woken up when he should be waking up anyway. Hang in there! Sleep can get better with some tweaking and good schedule. At least it did for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-settling-immediately-for-nap-when-the-other-parent-is-having-a-lie-in#post-2039409 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 10:16:08 +0000 mrbee 2039409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In that situation, I'd probably do a stroller nap! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-settling-immediately-for-nap-when-the-other-parent-is-having-a-lie-in#post-2039352 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 08:16:31 +0000 blackbird 2039352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's life. I am as quiet as is feasible (I got up with E at 7 and DH is sleeping so we are watching tv quietly and having breakfast, not playing bongos) but if she's screaming for a nap, I wouldn't stop her </p> <p>I kept industrial earplugs by my bed when I was going to sleep in and E was a baby. They drown out a LOT of sound </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-settling-immediately-for-nap-when-the-other-parent-is-having-a-lie-in#post-2039343 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 07:53:02 +0000 Foodnerd81 2039343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Baby sleep trumps adult sleep. No one is happy with an overtired baby. </p> <p>That said I did get c up right away so she wouldn't wake dh this morning, but it's his birthday. And he still was up by 7:45. I'm hoping for the same on my birthday this week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-settling-immediately-for-nap-when-the-other-parent-is-having-a-lie-in#post-2039332 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 07:14:49 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2039332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a high sleep needs kid, so baby sleep always trumps adult sleep, because when baby doesn't sleep well everyone is miserable. He can always go lay down again while she is napping! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-settling-immediately-for-nap-when-the-other-parent-is-having-a-lie-in#post-2039321 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 05:56:15 +0000 Cherrybee 2039321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: We have both, actually, within easy reach. Good thinking! </p> <p>Ultimately, its just life with a child and we need to get over it. Kids make noise. DH is much better at this than me - I would have been so annoyed if my precious lie in had been cut short and I would have totally blamed DH. DH Was just like "oh well". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-settling-immediately-for-nap-when-the-other-parent-is-having-a-lie-in#post-2039319 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 05:44:31 +0000 looch 2039319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you have a white noise machine for the maste bedroom? Earplugs? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-settling-immediately-for-nap-when-the-other-parent-is-having-a-lie-in#post-2039316 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 05:36:49 +0000 Cherrybee 2039316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, she won't settle if we are in the room, even if we are lying on the floor by her cot, pretending to be asleep @Espion: She becomes very distressed that we are right there but won't pick her up. </p> <p>Update - E fussed for 40 minutes then fell asleep. At some point during that DH gave up and got out of bed. He wasn't angry though, phew. I made him a nice cooked breakfast to make up for it. Poor DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-settling-immediately-for-nap-when-the-other-parent-is-having-a-lie-in#post-2039311 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 05:13:58 +0000 Espion 2039311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Would she ever nap if you lay down with her? Sometimes E will conk ou if we lay down with him, most other times we go to the living room and play toys and try a nap later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-settling-immediately-for-nap-when-the-other-parent-is-having-a-lie-in#post-2039305 Sun, 25 Jan 2015 04:35:58 +0000 Cherrybee 2039305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What would you do? Let your LO fuss and yell, thus ruining your partner's lie in? Or get LO up, rendering them grotty and overtired for the rest of the day. </p> <p>This is my dilemma right now. E was up at 6 this morning and was so tired by 8.30am so I tried for a nap. She started yelling and jumping up and down in her cot (standard!) so I got her back up quickly so as not to wake DH. The hour that followed was horrific - whining, tantrums, falling over into things...... Its now 9.30am and I have just put her back down..... and she's fighting it some more. She needs to sleep so much but the only way she will get there is if I leave her there so settle herself and that's going to be noisy!</p> <p>I feel awful for DH though. He let me sleep in until 10.30am yesterday - but DD went down for her morning nap with no fuss at 8.30 and slept for two hours! That's unheard of!! </p> <p>Am I being a total beast letting her ruin his lie in?? </p>