https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 14:34:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-help-my-daughter#post-2891288 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 15:14:16 +0000 annem1990 2891288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was that kid. I had such bad social anxiety that I would vomit whenever I had to go to social events. My parents didn't even know how much I hated situations with other kids, I was really good at hiding it. I always had a few good friends, but meeting new people or going to big events were incredibly stressful for me. I thankfully outgrew it. I attended a camp for a summer my Junior year of High School and it literally changed my life. I gained so much confidence and became friends with such a variety of people. By college I was much more social, made friends easily and have never looked back. My sister had severe seperation anxiety (diagnosed, very severe OCD). Once she left for college (which we honestly thought would never happen) she too blossomed. She's now super successful, has tons of friends and not at all shy. Of course this is anecdotal, but all that to say this could very well be just a stage (or even last most of childhood). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-help-my-daughter#post-2891281 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 13:25:22 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2891281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First of all, I’m sorry you had such a hard time growing up. That sounds very intense and I can definitely see how you would want to save your daughter from the same issues. I was bullied in middle school to the point where I had to transfer schools so I am super sensitive to that with my son, so I get where you’re coming from. </p> <p>My older son was very shy when he started daycare and would cry so much at drop off. Luckily it subsided after a couple weeks and then he was fine. Similar happened when he was switched to the other room but in a couple weeks it sorted itself out. What I found worked was to be super cheery walking in and greet the teacher, get his shoes on and put his stuff in the cubby, then walk into the room and get him interested in a toy or book, quick kiss and hug and goodbye. It tore me up to leave him but he did best when I did this. Tons of times I would pick him up and the kids would be doing arts or crafts at the table together and he would be off zooming cars by himself. It did concern me that he was excluded or sad but as he got older I realized he just wasn’t into the crafts as much as the cars! He started school this year and he has totally blossomed socially...still shy at first but he is happy playing with others a variety of things, broadening his interests, but he also plays alone really well too (at school, never at home of course :wink: ) in your situation, you saw her outside of drop off time so I would not hesitate to mention to the teachers she seems to be having a rough go and could they work to get her involved with the other kids/activities to get her excited to be there. Even talking it up with her will probably help too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-help-my-daughter#post-2891280 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 13:21:12 +0000 KT326 2891280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@thepaperbutterfly: There is definitely a transition period when moving to a new class. I've gone through it with both my kids! It sucks having your child cry during drop off, for us it lasted about a month with each new class. My youngest takes a bit to warm up after I drop him off. He doesn't cry anymore but he definitely will just go off by himself for a little bit until he is ready to be social. He is also 2.5.</p> <p>I would ask the teachers how she is during the rest of the day. Is she happy? Social? As long as she is doing those things and not crying the rest of the day I don't think I would worry about it. </p> <p>For us, there really wasn't anything to do. Just keep the routine up and eventually they stopped crying. My oldest would get clingy even in preschool. There were days he wanted me to sit with him for about 5 minutes before he was ready to join the class. I would do that and then the next week he would be fine and run off an play. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-help-my-daughter#post-2891279 Tue, 16 Jul 2019 13:07:52 +0000 thepaperbutterfly 2891279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Today I dropped off my daughter at daycare and she cried and screamed for me. She is about 2 and a half and was just promoted to Jr. Preschool. She was doing great in her Preppers class in daycare. No crying at drop offs, and she would play with the other kids. She got promoted about 2 weeks ago to the next class. After I dropped off her baby brother in his classroom, I went in to check on her. Her class was outside, and she was sitting by herself in a corner doing nothing. It broke my heart and I started crying because I was that kid. </p> <p>I had social anxiety and hated large groups of people. I was an introvert around large groups of people but an extrovert with people I knew closely. But I struggled even in grad school with this. I had a hard time even ordering fast food due to social anxiety. Now that I'm in my mid-30s I've mostly worked through it, but it was hard growing up as I dealt with anorexia, suicidal thoughts, and depression starting at 10 years old. I would have benefited from therapy, but my daughter is only 2.5 years old. I'm just wondering if other people have gone through this and know how to help their kids work through this. </p>