https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 12:35:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-274272 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 07:54:27 +0000 sweetooth 274272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cheert16: I never knew this would be such a mental battle. I skipped taking my temp this morning, but I laid there in bed for a while struggling with trying to let go of that control. </p> <p>Congrats on your lucky cycle! I dream of the day I reach that high point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-271916 Mon, 27 Aug 2012 09:18:11 +0000 cheert16 271916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At our 18th month mark- I stopped everything- no charting, no Opk's, nothing. I took a break from the boards and I felt so much better afterwards! My 19th cycle was clomid and ovidrel and it was our lucky cycle. I like to think that the month off was a huge help in concieving in our 19th month! Whatever you do- good luck and stay strong. The hardest part is the mental aspect of TTC. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-271867 Mon, 27 Aug 2012 07:34:06 +0000 sweetooth 271867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Congratulations to you! Focusing on other things should be be second mantra, along with focus on the destination. This weekend I did a lot of projects around the house and it took my mind off the sadness that AF was knocking on my door. </p> <p>@lemondrop: A vacation sounds so wonderful - good for you for unplugging from the world for a while (and congrats as well!)! We renovated our home this year so we saved $ and had a "staycation" this summer. I never want to skip a real vacation again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-271575 Sun, 26 Aug 2012 17:38:50 +0000 lemondrop 271575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We decided that we needed a break from TTC and regular life in general after 10 months of no luck- we booked a cruise even though we couldn't technically afford it at that time. Little to no internet or contact with the real world for a week, we felt so relaxed and together. </p> <p>We spent the rest of the year paying it off, but taking that break and vacation was so worth it for our relationship and mental health, and we accidentally conceived the first night of vacation! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-271397 Sun, 26 Aug 2012 14:00:09 +0000 blackbird 271397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I took a break by 100% not planning or caring if we had sex during the right time, no looking at the calendar, no taking clomid, and no using my OPKs. I actually got pregnant the second month we stopped trying, go figure. You have to really focus on other things. I was really working out hard at the gym and reading more, trying new recipes, visiting my friends more, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-271353 Sun, 26 Aug 2012 13:02:24 +0000 sweetooth 271353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dagret: great advice to focus on the "prize" and not the journey. It's the opposite of one of my favorite sayings..."It's not the destination it's the journey" - but in terms of fertility and parenthood, it's about reaching that destination. And trying not to let the journey define you. (so hard!)</p> <p>And yes - those temp drops really suck! Mine have been super erratic the past few days, but I'm trying not to get my hopes up after it drops the first time. I know AF is on its way.</p> <p>@mrsfarmer: ((hugs)) to you as well! I'm glad to hear that your break provided you some normalcy. Good luck on your journey and to receiving answers. It's nice to know I'm not alone in the fear associated with the next steps. Finding out if there's something that can be fixed is a bright spot in the process.</p> <p>@trailmix: ((hugs!)) it really is emotional - joining hellobee has helped me already in feeling less alone. My husband has been a great support, but it's hard to find people that really "get it" - the TTC hellobee community definitely gets it.</p> <p>I'm thinking no charting, and no CBEFM - but continuing to be proactive in making appointments, and researching the next steps will be what I try to focus on. I know that's not really a break...but I have control issues, so letting go completely might be impossible for me. Especially in a situation where you really have to accept that you have NO control!</p> <p>Best of luck to you - I think I saw on another thread that your HSG test is coming up soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-270230 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 17:05:44 +0000 Trailmix 270230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While we haven't been trying as long as you, we've already started the process of working with an RE and I completely understand the sadness of coming to terms with the fact that making a baby will not be how you envisioned it...<br /> As for taking a break from TTC, I think not charting for a month and just using the CBEFM might be helpful? Or just forgetting it all altogether, I'm pretty sure the monitor will store your prior cycles bc it doesn't do anything unless you turn it on so if you just leave it off, you should be alright...<br /> Big hugs, I know how emotionally charged this process is :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-270223 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 16:59:09 +0000 MrsFarmer 270223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm on month 15/cycle 16 myself. It's a tough road. (((Hugs))) After Cycle 12 or so, I took a much neede break from most things TTC, meaning no charting, no forum reading, no blog reading, etc. It helped me so much. I felt so much more like my normal self instead of being an obsessed person going through the day waiting until the next temperature or waiting until I could test, or waiting until I was going to O. I definitely know what you mean about one stupid temperature ruining/affecting your whole day!</p> <p>We're going to be heading to the doctors in the next few months, so I get you on the fear that accompanies that. I am very scared to find out if we have issues, but I'm also looking forward to finding out if it's something that can be fixed.</p> <p>Good luck and take care! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-270186 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 16:27:25 +0000 dagret 270186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: I know it's disappointing. For me, I had to focus on the prize - not on how I got there. They still don't know what the heck is/was wrong with me, so i could have to go through this all the next time or I could have no problems. But the dropping temps are SUCH a kick to the gut, aren't they!?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-270176 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 16:17:13 +0000 sweetooth 270176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@redsmarties, thanks for connecting in this thread and on my wall. The hellobee community is so great :)</p> <p>@dagret, sorry to hear about your CPs, this process can be so challenging, both physically and mentally. </p> <p>I think I'm going to take a month off and try to get to a more positive place before the RE appointment. It depresses me to think that I couldn't achieve pregnancy on my own, and I don't need to add to the sadness with dropping temperatures. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-270168 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 16:10:07 +0000 dagret 270168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @redsmarties i wouldn't have been able to make it without a break either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-270165 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 16:08:43 +0000 dagret 270165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: It really seemed like an eternity. I had 2 CPs along the way, so, while they sucked HARD, for me, it helped me to know that I could get pregnant. And my ob/gyn never gave me a referral to an RE - i found the study myself! I just realized last night that my ENTIRE PREGNANCY could fit twice into our TTC timeline. Oh well. </p> <p>While all of us loong TTC-ers have a lot in common, i think it's amazing how different our stories are, too. I know how hard it is. Good luck finding what will work for you, mentally besides whatever RE assistance you may need! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-270161 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 16:07:24 +0000 sweetooth 270161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@leialou: I've been trying to get my husband's SA scheduled, but now feel like I have to wait until our upcoming RE appointment to have it covered by insurance. I just want to know something...and sooner than over a month from now.</p> <p>I think I need to take a break from charting for sure. It's amazing how a low temp in the morning can really start my day off on a sour note.</p> <p>thanks for reaching out...it's nice to know I'm not alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-270160 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 16:06:05 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 270160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wrote on your wall, ha ha, but I'll say this again here. Taking a break was super tough, but has been worth it in the long run. I wouldn't have made it to month 20 without mentally checking out a bit, I don't think.<br /> Also - I'm willing to pass along email/Facebook info if you need someone to chat to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-270146 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 15:59:41 +0000 sweetooth 270146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dagret: I do think the only way to really "take a break" for me would be to stop charting and stop using the monitor. Without that knowledge, maybe I could just relax before starting all of the doctor's visits.</p> <p>(happy to hear that you had success - 22 months sounds like an eternity to me! I commend you on your strength, and hope everything is going well.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-270143 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 15:56:51 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 270143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know how you feel. My husband and I are on our 16th cycle and next month we have THE appointment. The one that determines if we are going to move forward with IUI or IVF or decide to adopt. These past 9 months have been the hardest of my life. Whenever I got the most overwhelmed I decided to forget temping and obsessing over my chart. It was easy for me to let go because my cycles are very regular and our infertility is male factor, so I don't need months of charts to hand to my doctor. Taking a break from charting has made it all a little easier for me.</p> <p>ETA- There have also been a couple of months where we decided to BD when we wanted, not because I was fertile. I think that was good for my mental health as well.</p> <p>If you ever want to talk or vent, post on my wall and I'll give you my email. There are a few of us 12+ month ttc-ers on the boards and some who have made it to the other side. You aren't alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-270131 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 15:49:55 +0000 dagret 270131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hear you! It took me 22 months to conceive (finally, via an infertility study with IUI) and I got to a point where I just needed to step back a few times. I was only charting, not using the CBEFM though. I had to cold turkey'd myself a few times. For my cycle - no reading blogs or board posts, no charting, no making my husband do it because it was the right time, etc... </p> <p>Hang in there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/not-sure-how-to-mentally-take-a-break-from-ttc#post-270031 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 14:52:25 +0000 sweetooth 270031@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hello to the TTC community on Hellobee,</p> <p>I've been reading the TTC boards for a few weeks now, finding the words of others so comforting as I approach my 14th month of trying to conceive. I thought it was time to introduce myself and join in on the conversations.</p> <p>I'm at a point in the process where I've become so overwhelmed with the monthly rollercoaster of emotions and thoughts that I don't know how to process it all. </p> <p>- I am 33 years old, and will turn 34 in three months.<br /> - I'm approaching the end of my 14th month of TTC, and my temperature dropped this morning.<br /> - I have been using the CBEFM for 11 months<br /> - Charting for 7 months<br /> - I have started to make the calls to my insurance to understand the fertility coverage, and I have an appointment with an RE in another month.</p> <p>In order to reset, and try to mentally prepare myself for the next steps I feel like I should just take a month off. But how is that even possible? I know one way would be to abstain from sex, but that's no fun. Maybe not taking my temperature would help the insanity, but I like having the knowledge of my cycle (it can range from 28-32 days, and I hate when it "surprises" me and I ruin my sheets :(. And if I stop using the CBEFM then I lose the consistent information in the machine, right? </p> <p>Any other ideas for how to get my head on straight before diving into all of the tests, and accepting the sadness I feel that it will no longer be just my husband and I in this TTC process? </p>