https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 17:45:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1297066 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 05:50:20 +0000 artsyfartsy 1297066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septca: I second this! I haven't nursed yet or even given birth yet so I obviously have no experience but that section really resonated with me when I read it. It made a lot of sense! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1297059 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 04:02:38 +0000 Grace 1297059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lol - I do give lectures every time I get ny nipple twisted, but I don't exactly expect results... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1297021 Mon, 23 Dec 2013 01:11:37 +0000 birdofafeather 1297021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Meh, I think redirection is key at their young age. DD likes to grab my other boob/nipple or put her hand in my mouth, so I hold her hand instead to distract her. I like PPs ideas of a lovey or something along those lines. If she starts standing up, getting crazy, I will readjust her position to laying again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1296970 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 23:31:43 +0000 Pepper 1296970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not nursing currently, but LO has been grabbing the skin on the back of my arm and pinching while he eats! It hurts SO badly! I'm sure he has no idea he's even doing it, so I don't really attempt to correct him (other than moving his hand). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1296944 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 22:44:43 +0000 Boheme 1296944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septca: Thank you!!! My doula has that book and I'll see her tomorrow :) </p> <p>@cmomma17: I made my LO cry tonight bc I startle reacted to a simultaneous pinch/bite :( He is still sniffling in his sleep and I feel HORRIBLE. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1296936 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 22:26:36 +0000 MoonMoon 1296936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is around the same age as yours, and he pulls my hair and tweaks my nipples-both hurt so much! I try to block my nipples, saying ” this hurts mommy”, and take his fingers out of my hair, and if he unlatches too many times I end the session. I'm also thinking of getting a nursing necklace. I don't know how much he gets it at this point, fortunately, he has better nursing manners when we're outside the house and at night, so that's a bit of a relief! Can't wait for this phase to end though...it will end, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1296921 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 22:08:39 +0000 jedeve 1296921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rahlyrah: this sounds terrible but my LO only "gets it" if he cries after a bite. Not that I make him cry. But if I just say it he will go back to biting. If he bites me hard enough that I startle and yell and he gets scared and cries, he won't do it again. Until he cuts another tooth that is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1296920 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 22:08:23 +0000 cmomma17 1296920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: omg my child needs some nursing manners! He has been clawing and beating the shit out of me lately! :shocked:<br /> He pinched my arm fat really hard last night and my jerk reaction was to yell "no!" which just scared him and he burst into tears, whoops! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1296901 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 21:56:00 +0000 septca 1296901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you have access to it, Ina May Gaskin's BFing book has an EXCELLENT chapter on nursing manners. I re-read it when my daughter was teething and it helped SO much - I implemented her rules the first time DD bit me and it hasn't happened since (that was 4+ months ago). I strongly recommend buying the book or getting it at the library. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1296858 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 21:22:23 +0000 Boheme 1296858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoyfulKiwi: He's almost 7 months, so that sounds about right! </p> <p>The kicking is what's really driving me nuts. He donkey kicks my arm the entire nursing session, and it makes me crazy. I don't want to feel irritated while he's nursing, but he's in a stage that makes it hard not to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1296857 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 21:21:17 +0000 JerricaBenton 1296857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We work on gentle touch a lot with the dog so I say the same kind of things to lo when she scratches or pinches me. I say be gentle, be nice and rub her hands gently. She definitely gets it because at first she gets mad but then she stops. She's still more likely to be rough with me but when others are holding her and I feel like she's going to scratch or something I say be gentle and she does stop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1296822 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 20:45:41 +0000 googly-eyes 1296822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't nurse so take this with a grain of salt I guess but I think the only thing to do with babies am that kind of behavior is be honest, for example say ow if it hurts. Then move their hand and move on. I think stressing over a baby's mannerisms is silly though tbh. Patting and grabbing faces is developmentally appropriate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1296817 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 20:39:22 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1296817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. </p> <p>When she scratched I would take her hand and hold it flat and showed her how to do "gentle touches". She still was able to touch me but wasn't scratching my skin off. It also was nice as she had to learn gentle touches for playing with friends. </p> <p>For biting I just immediately took the boob away. If she did it a second time the session ended completely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1296816 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 20:37:58 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 1296816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yeah, he did the poplin on &amp; off thing from 7-9ish months. I remember asking our pedi about it. She said it's pretty typical, so I didn't give F too much grief for it. I started using a shawl so I could cover up &amp; gave myself a limit to how many times I'd let him go on &amp; off before I ended it, just to keep my sanity. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1296814 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 20:35:37 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 1296814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't remember how old your little guy is, but F went through a " rough" nursing stage like you described for a while. I also gave him something for his hands when he hit &amp; a pacifier for when he bit (I say "I won't let you hurt mommy, you can play with/bit on this"). It was pretty successful for us. If he really hurt me after I told him not to, I'd end the session (I think I only did it a few times and it was for biting). He'd cry, but get over it &amp; I'd let him nurse again soon after if he asked. We taught him sign language for milk &amp; please too, because he started pulling at my shirt or slapping my chest or buring his head in my chest when he was hungry. </p> <p>I think it's. stage, but also a good opportunity to create and entire respectful boundaries with him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1296812 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 20:35:06 +0000 Ra 1296812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Following.</p> <p>B stopped beating me while nursing, but he still pops on and off and grabs the skin of my boob and violently yanks it up and down. He also nips when he is full.</p> <p>When I try to tell him "no, we don't bite" he just smiles at me. I feel like he is too young to understand? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1296800 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 20:23:19 +0000 travelgirl1 1296800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had the same thing with À. I didn't implement manners as such,but I started giving her an A&amp;A lovely to hold during nursing sessions and if she started nipping, etc, then I'm put her fingers on the blanket instead. I also cut her nails à lot, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-manners#post-1296796 Sun, 22 Dec 2013 20:18:40 +0000 Boheme 1296796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am struggling with an aspect of nursing, and our local breastfeeding support group leader told me its time to teach DS nursing manners. He pops on and off, scratches my face, slaps at my chest, and kicks the crap out of my arm the entire time he nurses. He's started nipping me too, which is so much fun [sarcasm font]. </p> <p>Have any of you implemented nursing manners with your LO? How do I discourage this? </p>