https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 19:56:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer/page/2#post-2388566 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 22:03:04 +0000 Adira 2388566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@QBbride: Thanks! That's my hope too!</p> <p>@Smurfette: Could be. Everything I've read says weaning is gradual, but also talks about strikes more in terms of younger infants. Logan is in a funky stage where he doesn't really need to nurse anymore. I'm just hoping he will still want to! Maybe it's time to eat some oatmeal again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer/page/2#post-2388558 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 21:54:51 +0000 Smurfette 2388558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I think some kids do wean all the sudden. Maybe cause he sees Xander drinking out of cups and he doesn't get bottles, he is just done. I don't know though. I haven't been through this myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer/page/2#post-2388557 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 21:54:26 +0000 QBbride 2388557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: yes I agree it sounds like a strike vs weaning. KellyMom has some great resources on strikes. I remember reading that very few babies truly self wean before a certain age (2 I think it is?)</p> <p>there is often a big (temporary) supply dip right before your period, so that's my vote! Good luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388545 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 21:46:00 +0000 Adira 2388545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Well, it started with me trying to nurse him one day and he screamed bloody murder and freaked out! At the time I thought maybe it was because of an ear infection or teething because he was scratching at his ears. The next morning though, he did nurse, but he's been refusing ever since then. It just seemed too sudden to be weaning... ? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388535 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 21:36:27 +0000 Smurfette 2388535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I haven't been through this but I think I have read some kids just wake up one day and don't want to nurse anymore.<br /> Can I ask why you think it is a strike and not weaning? Is it more that you want it to be a strike cause you aren't ready? I am sure it is hard since he is your last baby. Hugs! If it is a strike, I hope it is a quick one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388514 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 21:21:07 +0000 Adira 2388514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tidybee: When Xander weaned, I continued to offer and he just nursed for less and less time each day until one day he didn't nurse at all. It was very gradual and wasn't sudden at all. With Logan, I'm offering and he's refusing, which seems more like a strike to me. Of course, if it never ends, I guess he'll have weaned! I just don't believe that's the intention behind his refusal at the moment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388493 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 21:14:46 +0000 Tidybee 2388493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Re: timing for weaning...I've only weaned once but I was feeding twice a day and at 14 months decided to no longer offer it and see what she would do. She never asked for it again so it was definitely "sudden." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388457 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:48:44 +0000 Adira 2388457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Thanks. I'll at least try to be patient while I'm on my period and hope that's the culprit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388448 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:42:55 +0000 winniebee 2388448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: i'm certainly no expert but the timing is really suspicious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388440 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:38:37 +0000 Adira 2388440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: I started spotting that day and then he started refusing me that night. But then he nursed okay the following morning and then was full into the strike after that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388436 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:35:56 +0000 winniebee 2388436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: i've read milk can taste different...your supply might also be really crappy which is making him annoyed / not worth it if he can't get a let down. did the strike start before your period? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388434 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:34:57 +0000 Adira 2388434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: I've never heard of that being an issue (besides affecting supply, which mine seems okay)! Do you think that could really be the cause?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388432 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:32:26 +0000 winniebee 2388432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: i saw on our other thread that you have your period. this might very well be the culprit!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388423 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:28:04 +0000 Adira 2388423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: I haven't - do you think that will work?? I've seen a couple articles suggesting that. That might be the next thing I try. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388421 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:26:15 +0000 Kemma 2388421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: have you tried nursing in the bath with him? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388413 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:21:26 +0000 Adira 2388413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mfa_lady: That's actually how it was with my oldest too before he weaned. We only nursed in the morning and he took bottles the rest of the time and we had no issues. I'm just afraid to limit how much I'm offering during a strike...</p> <p>@MoonMoon: Thanks, friend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388410 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:20:01 +0000 Adira 2388410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: @Kemma: Actually, I was still nursing 4x on the weekend. It's just 2x during the week, but that's how it's been for months. The only real change has been that we've been bottle weaning at daycare, so he wasn't getting as many bottles... but I wouldn't have thought that would affect our nursing relationship?</p> <p>@Kemma: That's a great suggestion, but I probably won't be able to take a day off, just because I don't have a lot of vacation time and I'm already planning on using some of it for daycare closings around the holidays (which I'll also have the toddler, so won't be great for nursing either).</p> <p>@winniebee: I'm not sure! I've been trying really hard not to pressure him and just be all "Okay, maybe later!" when he refuses, but it's definitely hard and I do feel stressed and frustrated, so he probably is picking up on that. But I just don't know how to NOT feel this shitty about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388403 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:17:04 +0000 MoonMoon 2388403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hear you on not wanting it to be over, and if your intuition is to keep offering, I'd go with that. You'll know after a few days whether it's a strike, whether it's messing with his sleep, it's teething, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388400 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:16:36 +0000 mfa_lady 2388400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This might make you feel better: since DD was about 5 months old, she's only nursed 1x/day on weekdays. She takes a bottle of pumped milk before bed because she sleeps better that way, and we have no trouble nursing first thing in the morning five days a week and then all day on the weekends. Hope that's encouraging! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388396 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:13:33 +0000 Adira 2388396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: From everything I've read, a strike happens suddenly, whereas weaning is much more gradual. Every indication to me is that this is a strike. But I got what you and @T.H.O.U.: are saying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388395 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:13:24 +0000 winniebee 2388395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: interesting. I think Adira recently went from 4x a day to 2x a day, so I don't know, maybe he just decided after that he was done? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388394 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:12:47 +0000 Kemma 2388394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: weaning is generally considered to be a more gradual process rather than baby just quitting cold turkey.</p> <p>@Adira: is there any way you could get a day off to take a nursing "vacation" with your wee dude? I'm just thinking that spending a day in close contact with lots of skin to skin and free access to the breast might help get him nursing again? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388392 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:12:12 +0000 winniebee 2388392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Another thing....do you think he's sensing pressure to nurse? Like are you happy and relaxed when offering, or do you think maybe he senses that this is really important to you? I'm a Janet Lansbury junkie and she is big into kids picking up on our emotions and desires, no matter how young. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388390 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:10:48 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2388390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you think it's a strike you just pump to get through. Waking him and upsetting him if he doesn't want it isn't going to help him get past the strike. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388385 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:08:49 +0000 winniebee 2388385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Maybe not, but I just can't imagine waking a 1 year old to nurse....I also don't understand why he's not considered to be weaning versus a strike. I am so sorry that this is so hard, and I feel bad for you! But you asked what I would do and I would continue to offer when he is awake and if he chooses not to nurse, I would consider him weaned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388384 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:07:43 +0000 BandDmommy 2388384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I have no idea. I just don't wake sleeping kids. It's your choice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388381 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:06:38 +0000 Adira 2388381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: @BandDmommy: You guys think he'll still come back to nursing eve if I'm only offering once a day five days of the week? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388368 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 20:00:04 +0000 Adira 2388368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tidybee: I understand what you are saying, but I do feel confident that this is a strike and not weaning... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388365 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 19:59:34 +0000 BandDmommy 2388365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@QBbride: I'm a big proponent of not waking a sleeping baby/toddler/husband/etc. :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nursing-strike-continue-waking-to-offer#post-2388364 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 19:57:47 +0000 winniebee 2388364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@QBbride: I just feel like at age 1, the baby can decide if he wants to nurse...food is the main source of nutrition after age 1. I wouldn't want to be woken up to eat if I wasn't asking for it, so I'm guessing a 1 year old wouldn't either. I have a 1 year old as well....still nursing 2x a day and not weaning yet and definitely would be sad if he said no more....but I also would follow his lead on this. </p>