https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 05:30:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife/page/2#post-175000 Thu, 31 May 2012 17:22:21 +0000 MamaLove 175000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: True, they can't. Mine has surgical approvals and she assists in a c-section, if necessary. But some have to turn their patient over to OBs 100% in the case of a c-section.</p> <p>And I completely understand those who want an OB. I was just surprised that people think midwives only do natural, un-medicated. There are plenty of midwives that practice in a hospital setting, with interventions, as needed or requested. That's all! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife/page/2#post-174957 Thu, 31 May 2012 16:38:48 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 174957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaLove: My point was that I would want my same doc to be the one that was cutting, if cutting were to be needed... and at least at this point, midwives can't do that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife/page/2#post-174947 Thu, 31 May 2012 16:29:28 +0000 skibobrown 174947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went with an OB this time b/c it was the path of least resistance. I think next time around I would prefer to go with a midwife though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife/page/2#post-174936 Thu, 31 May 2012 16:08:54 +0000 MrsHotDog 174936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OB/GYN. I have been going to her since I was 18 and I love her and trust her. She is an amazing doctor and was so supportive in all of our decisions during the pregnancy. I think that I found a rare doctor, because there are so many people who give OB's a bad rap on the internet, I never felt pressure from my doctor on any issue. Although, she did ask us at one appointment if we planned on breast feeding and was relieved when I said yes. She said that she was going to lecture me if I had said no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife/page/2#post-174930 Thu, 31 May 2012 16:01:01 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 174930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a Registered Midwife for both my girls, the same clinic but a different midwife. In my province they are covered the same as an OB and have 5 years training in normal pregnancies and deliveries...so to me that makes them the experts! I felt so well taken care of. Hospital birth, both times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife/page/2#post-174877 Thu, 31 May 2012 15:21:55 +0000 MamaLove 174877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am THRILLED with my experience with my midwife so far. She has been my gyn for years, so it was only natural that I continued with her once I got pregnant. She practices with 2 other midwives and a group of OBs. As her gyn patient, you can transfer to the OBs at any time during your pregnancy (beginning, middle or just for delivery) if you want.</p> <p>However, I'm staying with her the entire time. </p> <p>I am surprised at how many people think that midwives only do non-medicated non-hospital births.</p> <p>I am having a medicated, hospital birth, with my midwife. The reason I like her is the support she has given me and my husband during the pregnancy. Our appointments are as long as I need them to be. She always answers all of my questions, and then spends time going over even more information that I didn't ask about. She wants to know what I want for my pregnancy and birth, and does her best to support that. She still believes in all of the medicated ways, but would be open to all-natural if that is what I wanted.</p> <p>I just feel like more of a "person" and a mom-to-be with my midwife, rather than a patient or a number. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife/page/2#post-174558 Thu, 31 May 2012 12:48:55 +0000 Rescuemom10 174558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to go with OB for medical reasons as well as having a c section.<br /> I would however if I could LOVE to do a unmedicated vag water birth with a midwife if I could. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife/page/2#post-174184 Thu, 31 May 2012 08:05:30 +0000 Downward Dog 174184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a midwife at a birth center (actually a midwife and another student midwife). I loved having women there and knowing that they understood what I was experiencing. Feeling so supported by other women was one of my favorite things about the birth experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-174167 Thu, 31 May 2012 07:39:24 +0000 yoursilverlining 174167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OB. She has been my gyn for years and I trust her completely. I also am more comfortable knowing should anything go wrong at any point in the pregnancy, I have the full hands-on, immediate support of a network of doctors and nurses, many who have years of education beyond medical school. Both my OB and the delivering hospital are big supporters of unmedicated births and advocate strongly for the patient and what the patient wants. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-174165 Thu, 31 May 2012 07:30:53 +0000 cvbee 174165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There are no midwives in my small town.</p> <p>I would have loved to work with one who does it at the hospital though. </p> <p>But in the end everything went great without any midwife and I feel like the nurses helped me with everything I worried I wouldn't get from my OB. My hospital team was so great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-174131 Thu, 31 May 2012 04:29:32 +0000 looch 174131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For delivery, I had midwives, which are standard where I live. I was in the care of my OB up until 38 weeks, then he "released me" to the hospital, where the midwives took over. I had two midwives with me for the entire delivery time and the OB came in at the end, once the baby was born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-174129 Thu, 31 May 2012 04:27:51 +0000 mediagirl 174129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't have an OB/GYN before I got pregnant, just went to see my gp for my routine items. I knew I wanted an OB from the start, though. I'm pretty afraid of everything having to do with labor and pain and shots and worry a lot so, an OB, delivering at a hospital was the way to go for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-174121 Thu, 31 May 2012 02:15:36 +0000 loveisstrange 174121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I saw a midwife until 36 weeks when they moved me to high-risk status. I LOVED her. She was very laid back. She didn't harass me about my weight. She was always wiling to take the time to answer all my question without me feeling like she was rushing me out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-174108 Wed, 30 May 2012 23:20:10 +0000 Ree723 174108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Midwives are the standard here - you only get an OB if you're high risk or have complications (unless you opt to go private which is costly and unnecessary), and I have to say I prefer it that way. Most midwife led births occur in hospitals with access to all modern amenities and pain relief options - which I fully plan on taking advantage of! </p> <p>The main difference I've found between midwives here and OBs in the States is that pregnancy is treated as a normal occurrence here and not a medical condition that requires 'treatment' or 'management'. Antenatal care is very hands off unless medical need necessitates it (i.e. no internal checks, only 1 ultrasound unless you opt in for further screening, inductions only after 11 days past due unless medically required before then etc) and the whole process has a very nurturing and supportive aspect to it as opposed to a clinical feel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-174066 Wed, 30 May 2012 21:28:26 +0000 plantains 174066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my OB/GYN. We have a great relationship and I can't have imagined anyone other than her delivering my baby. She is brilliant. I have absolutely zero interest in natural birth, so I knew a midwife wasn't for me. My sister saw just midwives and they had her hold out on getting her epi for as long as possible. She thoroughly disliked that. I would absolutely hate that too. I want my drugs ASAP. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-174065 Wed, 30 May 2012 21:28:19 +0000 sulli301 174065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I go to an OB </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-174053 Wed, 30 May 2012 20:56:36 +0000 HLK208 174053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had the same OB for #1 as I do for #2, he's great and I trust him 100%...but he is a little stern and impersonal so I did think about a midwife for this second baby but honestly, I don't care about feeling special during my pregnancy--I just want my little one's out safe!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-174050 Wed, 30 May 2012 20:49:25 +0000 Zuzu2and11 174050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I started out with a big certified nurse midwife/OB/GYN group in Chicago, and then we moved I was able to be squeezed into a practice of two CNMS, a few OB/GYNs and an NP. I only every met with midwives so I can't compare to regular OBs, but I did always love my appointments with them and their commitment to my medication free birth. I do think that if I had gone with an OB who wasn't committed to med-free, there would have been pressure to have a c-section because I took so long to push LO out! My midwife was patient and knew I could do it. </p> <p>We will see what happens with the next pregnancy. My insurance no longer covers that midwife practice. There is an outstanding birth center 40 minutes away, but I'm not sure I want to risk driving that far in the winter (if my due date were in the winter). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-173973 Wed, 30 May 2012 18:50:29 +0000 cyneswith 173973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Homebirth midwives are technically not legal where I'm living now, or else it would've been a homebirth. Instead, going through an OB with a doula. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-173956 Wed, 30 May 2012 18:14:15 +0000 birdofafeather 173956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we're going with an OB now, but i'm very interested in a midwife practice. we may have a move coming up, so i'm going to stay with my OB until further notice. i'm only 7 weeks so i have some time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-173866 Wed, 30 May 2012 16:36:25 +0000 runsyellowlites 173866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had an ob with DS and still regret not changing practitioners.</p> <p>With DD I went with an experienced CMP because I wanted every opportunity to let my body do what it is designed to do... something I wouldn't have gotten had I gone with an ob.</p> <p>My appts were always very personable and as long as I needed them to be so I never had to be worried about being rushed and forgetting a question or feeling like I was going to be pressured into something I wasn't well informed in or didn't want. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-173846 Wed, 30 May 2012 16:25:17 +0000 WALLAROO 173846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are still unsure. I do like to hear that some of you had experiences where you used a midwife but still had the option of medicated birth. The hospital/birthing center we are looking at has both OB's and Midwives so we are still weighing out our options. I guess I just need to do a little more research. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-173833 Wed, 30 May 2012 16:19:19 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 173833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shimmer: My cousin in law is a CNM. She loves her job! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-173826 Wed, 30 May 2012 16:17:33 +0000 Mrs. Pen 173826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a midwife and I'm sooo happy I did. Well, technically I got the best of both worlds because I developed pre-eclampsia my last couple weeks and ended up having to transfer care to a hospital. But all my prenatal-postnatal care was with my midwives.<br /> I loved the hands-on, personal care. My midwife was all about information - she never told me I needed to take a test, she wanted me to educate myself on each and every little thing and make decisions about my care for myself - I loved that! I learned soo much.<br /> I loved the birthing suites at the birth center- they were glorious and each had beautiful birthing tubs that were huge.<br /> I WILL go back to them for my next child.</p> <p>anyhow, I did get transferred to a hospital, accompanied by my midwife (she was able to stay for the birth) and it wasn't too bad. My midwife has a partnership with the doctors there and they have a good working relationship. They treated me great and totally respected my birth plan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-173816 Wed, 30 May 2012 16:10:32 +0000 Shimmer 173816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jumpingjacks: I agree with what you said! </p> <p>@purrpletulips: My midwives do wellness care for women as well! I didn't know about that aspect until I started looking for one prior to pregnancy, and I switched right then!</p> <p>@daniellemybelle: My midwives ONLY deliver at the local hospital (which as a superb NICU)... although there are other midwives in the area that do homebirths.</p> <p>@jessiejo17: I can understand where you're coming from with wanting an OBGYN. Just as another point of view, my midwife group only works in the hospital and will encourage a medicated birth, if that's what you want.</p> <p>I am considered "high risk" because I am a twin mama, but I am still planning to deliver with my midwives in our local hospital unless any complications arise. They are not against medicated births, and are encouraging one for me, in fact - in case the need for a c-section arises.</p> <p>I chose a midwife group because midwives tend to view pregnancy as a natural life process, as many OBs view it as a disease process that needs to be handled. My midwives are well trained, I will be in a hospital setting and monitored, and there is a collaborating OBGYN at the ready if there are any issues. </p> <p>I *might* be a little biased because I want to be a midwife (CNM) when I grow up! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-173779 Wed, 30 May 2012 15:47:54 +0000 Arden 173779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessiejo17: No problem. I totally understand wanting to deliver in a hospital if you want the option of a medicated birth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-173775 Wed, 30 May 2012 15:43:57 +0000 LuLu Mom 173775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: Sorry I should have stated a Doctor vs a CNM or direct lay midwife. The fact that an OBGYN has a doctorate helps calm my nerves. And I also wanted to delivery in a hospital with the option of a medicated birth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-173686 Wed, 30 May 2012 14:36:08 +0000 lemondrop 173686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am thrilled with my experience with my OB. He was very supportive of my attempt to go natural and wanted to avoid a c-section if at all possible. I really credit him for keeping me out of the operating room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-173685 Wed, 30 May 2012 14:35:09 +0000 daniellemybelle 173685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I plan to go to a midwives practice that delivers babies at a local, well regarded hospital. As soon as we move, I want to start seeing one of the midwives for well woman care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ob-or-midwife#post-173678 Wed, 30 May 2012 14:30:07 +0000 HabesBabe 173678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: Exactly the same as me. I wanted to go to a birthing center for this pregnancy, but since it's our first, hubs was more comfortable with us going the "standard" route (OB, in a hospital).</p> <p>If all goes well, I hope to try a midwife/birthing center for LO #2. </p>