https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 07 Aug 2026 17:14:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/obligated-to-participate-in-work-celebrations#post-1384702 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 14:00:34 +0000 yoursilverlining 1384702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Id definitely go. People always remember the person who wasn't there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/obligated-to-participate-in-work-celebrations#post-1384699 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 14:00:10 +0000 regberadaisy 1384699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@purrpletulips: honestly, I would just suck it up and go. It's a fun celebration and I'm sure she will really appreciate your presence. It's one meal; I'm sure you can find something to eat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/obligated-to-participate-in-work-celebrations#post-1384698 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 14:00:04 +0000 looch 1384698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd suck it up and eat lunch out for the day. I am sure you can find something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/obligated-to-participate-in-work-celebrations#post-1384691 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 13:58:27 +0000 pui 1384691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd do my best to participate unless there was a good reason why I couldn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/obligated-to-participate-in-work-celebrations#post-1384690 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 13:58:08 +0000 psw27 1384690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that is a fair compromise @purpletulips - I don't think its a big deal to say you're going to stay back and eat your own lunch. maybe say you need to run an errand during the lunch time? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/obligated-to-participate-in-work-celebrations#post-1384682 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 13:56:12 +0000 purrpletulips 1384682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: I honestly can't remember if she was at mine or not. I like the coworker but not the place they are going to eat. </p> <p>@mrs. pen, @psw27: there are about 20 of us.</p> <p>Compromise? I'll skip the lunch but participate in the cake part which is back at the office. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/obligated-to-participate-in-work-celebrations#post-1384676 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 13:54:51 +0000 regberadaisy 1384676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@purrpletulips: why don't you want to participate? Do you really not like this co-worker? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/obligated-to-participate-in-work-celebrations#post-1384666 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 13:53:12 +0000 purrpletulips 1384666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: I honestly can't remember if she was at mine or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/obligated-to-participate-in-work-celebrations#post-1384660 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 13:51:02 +0000 psw27 1384660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it a small office? My office is 6 people total, so there is no getting out of it. If it won't cost you a lot, I would probably just participate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/obligated-to-participate-in-work-celebrations#post-1384658 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 13:50:46 +0000 regberadaisy 1384658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@purrpletulips: if that person was at yours then you definitely should. I think it would be rude and ungrateful not to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/obligated-to-participate-in-work-celebrations#post-1384654 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 13:50:26 +0000 NurseMommy 1384654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally I would participate because I would feel obligated and I'm just not one to go against the grain. :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/obligated-to-participate-in-work-celebrations#post-1384652 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 13:49:59 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1384652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would participate.</p> <p>My office does things like this - baby showers and the like. But no one feels as obligated if they're not on the same team. While there are about 100 of us on the floor, each of us are in teams of 25-ish and managed separately. Although I know a few here and there from the other teams, I would probably only attend a shower for someone on my team because I see them every day. </p> <p>But in your situation, yes I would participate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/obligated-to-participate-in-work-celebrations#post-1384642 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 13:47:53 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1384642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd participate. Its not her fault office policy changed, and a break from work is always fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/obligated-to-participate-in-work-celebrations#post-1384637 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 13:47:12 +0000 Ra 1384637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Participate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/obligated-to-participate-in-work-celebrations#post-1384633 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 13:46:09 +0000 mamimami 1384633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Participate. I am a total grinch about office celebrations but you've gotta do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/obligated-to-participate-in-work-celebrations#post-1384615 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 13:41:43 +0000 Happygal 1384615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@purrpletulips: I would inwardly pout, but participate by buying something like a book. I hope you can enjoy some good food and a little break away from work! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/obligated-to-participate-in-work-celebrations#post-1384602 Wed, 29 Jan 2014 13:39:16 +0000 purrpletulips 1384602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My office did a small baby shower (lunch out followed by cake plus they purchased my family a gift membership to the zoo) when I had DS who is my second child; they did nothing with my first because office policy at that time was no celebrations. Now they are having a similar baby shower for another person who is also having their second child. I don't really want to participate but feel obligated. What would you do? </p>