https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 02 Nov 2026 09:13:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1068012 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 16:24:55 +0000 Freckles 1068012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: The 2nd paragraph of my comment referred specifically to breastfeeding advocate sites (like Kelly mom), not doctors. In fact, our pediatrician recommended solids before bm, and i only followed this because she had major constipation issues when i did the reverse. But before that i was all, "But Kelly mom says that's not the way to do it!!" </p> <p>Just saying that the husband's suggestion isn't necessarily the incorrect way. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1067877 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 15:21:22 +0000 pinkcupcake 1067877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At that age, I offered BM first. BM has much more calories and nutrition , oz for oz, than lets say, something like puréed carrots. </p> <p>Around the ten month mark, though, I did start to offer solids first (on the advice of my ped) bc LO wasn't eating enough and wasn't gaining enough weight. But at six months, it was def solids after nursing </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1067869 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 15:18:18 +0000 lolabee 1067869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with ladies above, offer a milk feed before offering solids :) Kelly mom is great! Our LO's are almost exactly a month apart, if I remember correctly. We introduced at 6.5 months. </p> <p>I offer to nurse LO before solids. We're doing BLW though and believe in the food for fun before one! If he's actually hungry he just wants to nurse, he doesn't equate actual food with satisfying hunger yet. I think all kiddos are different though. Some are ready sooner than others, some dive right in, some play for awhile. I wouldn't push it, that's just me though :) Xander will let you know how he's feeling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1067865 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 15:15:36 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1067865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with PPs about milk first. I've also read that offering solids before milk when they're just starting out leads to frustration because they are hungry and can't eat enough quickly enough, but we haven't tried it so I can't personally verify that. We're definitely in the don't worry about it camp. We gave Finn a few bites of food, and he had zero interest in it and Elliot shows even less interest, so we're just waiting another couple weeks. </p> <p>My theory is to just keep offering it but not pushing it and eventually our little laid back trio of boys will eat, right?!!??!?! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1067853 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 15:09:48 +0000 Adira 1067853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ALV91711: Our next pediatrician appointment is next Friday, but I already asked Hubs if he would be able to go and he can't come. But I'll be sure to ask about feeding solids after breastfeeding and hopefully relaying the info from the ped to my husband will be good enough!</p> <p>@Mrsbells: Ahh, so you actually did the solids BEFORE nursing? Is that how you started? Or did you transition to that?</p> <p>@purrpletulips: OMG!!! I hope I don't just find things in his diaper, haha! Though he's still not mobile, so he can't really find stuff on his own. Although who knows what he gets his hands on at daycare! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1067782 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 14:45:06 +0000 purrpletulips 1067782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just remembered - a parenting group I'm in has the thought that a LO is ready for solids when you start finding items in their diapers that you didn't give them (for us it was dog fur that got picked up off the floor, for others it was a piece of paper that their LO pulled from a book). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1067775 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 14:43:10 +0000 purrpletulips 1067775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With both DD and DS we have done solids first then nursing but that was more because we wanted to eat as a family and were in the "food for fun before 1" camp. I think it helped that both took to solids quickly without compromising their nursing sessions. All kids are different and some just aren't that into solids; I have a friend whose 2 year old barely eats anything because he is just not into the textures. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1067757 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 14:35:47 +0000 Schatzie23 1067757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I spaced the solids between nursings so that it wouldn't be a competition. My little guy however LOVED solids and started at 4 months with them. As long as your son is gaining weight appropriately, just wait until he's ready. Trust me, you will know because he'll try to steal your food lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1067699 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 14:21:16 +0000 Mrsbells 1067699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>at 6 months my LO was having only one meal of solids a day and I would give her the solids about an hour or so before nursing. They dont eat much at that time anyway so offering a few spoons of solids an hour before nursing should not have an effect of making them nurse less </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1067616 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 13:50:47 +0000 ALV91711 1067616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He probably just isn't ready as you know. I hope your hubby will listen to you. If Isaac is tired or hungry he won't eat or just a couple bites. If he's really hungry he just wants to nurse. </p> <p>Do you have a pedi appointment soon? Maybe DH could go with you and find out first hand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1067578 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 13:37:41 +0000 heffalump 1067578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I gave LO solids when she was starving she would just sit there and scream. She wasn't the best at eating, it took her a while to figure the whole thing out and she would just get frustrated. I would wait about an hour after she had a bottle to give her solids. That way she would eat something, but it wouldn't be so much that I had to worry that she wasn't eating her bottle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1067577 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 13:37:41 +0000 heffalump 1067577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I gave LO solids when she was starving she would just sit there and scream. She wasn't the best at eating, it took her a while to figure the whole thing out and she would just get frustrated. I would wait about an hour after she had a bottle to give her solids. That way she would eat something, but it wouldn't be so much that I had to worry that she wasn't eating her bottle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1067553 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 13:33:28 +0000 immabeetoo 1067553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: Our pedi said formula before solids as well, so I don't think it's necessarily a breastfeeding recommendation? Though I guess if someone was concerned with milk supply it would be more relevant to bf'ing only.</p> <p>@dagret: yah... i was all about the exclusive breast fed until he was potty trained at first haha!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1067313 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 12:09:45 +0000 edelweiss 1067313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>our pediatrician told us to offer solids after breastmilk/formula. we haven't always followed that advice and it doesn't seem to make a huge difference in how interested he is in solids or how much he nurses (he has 2 TBS of solids per serving). i agree with the others, don't sweat it if he's not that interested right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1067045 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 10:35:44 +0000 Adira 1067045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dagret: hahahaha, that's funny! I am NOT looking forward to the post-solids diapers, so maybe we're lucky that Xander's not ready!</p> <p>And I agree with all you ladies - he's probably not ready! Now to just convince Hubs of that... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1066954 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 10:18:37 +0000 dagret 1066954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: and my husband was really into solids until he changed his first post-solids diaper. Then he was all, can't you breastfed forever?? Hahaha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1066949 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 10:17:45 +0000 regberadaisy 1066949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Milk first then solids. We typically did solids and hour or so after nursing too with no issues. I think he just might not be ready yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1066947 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 10:17:32 +0000 dagret 1066947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: we do milk before solids and L still crushes them (7.5 mo) X just might not be ready. L didn't eat much till about 6.5 -7mo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1066943 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 10:15:57 +0000 Freckles 1066943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There are some doctors who advocate solids before nursing, so i don't necessarily think that he's entirely wrong. </p> <p>Breast feeding advocate sites will always say bm before solids, so they will be biased. If he doesn't want to eat after bm then he's probably full and the bm is enough. I would only do it the other way if you are looking to start weaning him soon.</p> <p>Not all babies are crazy for solids. My LO didn't really start getting into solids until about the 7-8 month mark. There is no rush! He'll get there eventually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1066583 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 07:34:34 +0000 Adira 1066583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: @scg00387: I'll definitely TRY to get him to check out Kelly mom - she's my source for everything BFing, haha, but he's definitely NOT a researcher. He just listens to what OTHER people tell him (specifically his family) and then think I'M the one being stubborn and uninformed, even though I've done a TON of research on it! So frustrating! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1066580 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 07:31:53 +0000 immabeetoo 1066580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: gotcha, my husband was more into solids than I was too. Is he a research type of guy? Maybe send him some links. Kelly mom is a good resource. I think especially if your little guy was crying in his high chair when you first tried, trying when he was hungry would just make it less fun for everyone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1066573 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 07:27:17 +0000 hilsy85 1066573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Show your husband Kelly mom, she's pretty adamant about milk before solids and has good info. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1066571 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 07:25:59 +0000 Adira 1066571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: haha, well, <b>I</b> wasn't totally stressing over it! I figured if he wasn't hungry, he wasn't hungry, and that it wasn't a big deal! But my husband thinks we need to push the solids and really try to get him to eat them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1066565 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 07:22:14 +0000 immabeetoo 1066565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: sounds like a bad idea to me. There's no reason to push solids. My LO didn't take it seriously until 7.5 m and now eat like a horse at 9. Stop stressing over this, your baby will let you know when he is ready. It's a developmental thing like anything else, you're over thinking it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1066534 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 07:03:07 +0000 Adira 1066534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay, that's how I feel about it! But Hubs seems to think that we NEED to get him eating solids. We don't, right? It's not a big deal if he doesn't start solids for another month or two if that's what he's comfortable with, right?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1066527 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 07:01:37 +0000 Beehive 1066527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely milk first at 6 months I'd say... it takes a lot of babies a while before they get "into" solids! Milk is the most important thing at this point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1066522 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 07:00:16 +0000 hilsy85 1066522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with you...milk is supposed to be the main source f nutrition the first yr an offering solids first could cause his milk intake to go down or could even cause early weaning. He just might not be ready! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/offer-solids-before-nursing#post-1066511 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 06:46:06 +0000 Adira 1066511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So my husband thinks that one of the reasons Xander's not interested in solids (and just flat our refuses them) is because he's not hungry. We've been offering him solids about an hour after I nurse him. He thinks we should offer him the solids first when he's hungry, and then he'll be more likely to eat them, and then I'll nurse after.</p> <p>Is this is a good idea? I don't want to replace any of the milk that he gets with solids, so this plan makes me nervous. I don't know how much we would feed him (assuming he takes any of it) before nursing because he won't be full and I won't want to let him get full so that he nurses after.</p> <p>My thoughts are that if his appetite is not increasing and he's totally satisfied with nursing only, there's no need to try to force him to take solids and that we can just keep offering and if he doesn't eat them, that's not a big deal. But I don't really know - should we try to at least get him used to solids now by feeding them to him when he's hungry? And then maybe when he's comfortable with eating them, we can switch back to nursing first?</p> <p>What do you all think?</p> <p>(Xander's 6 months) </p>