https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 06 Jun 2026 14:52:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-187505 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 21:57:34 +0000 winniebee 187505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skibobrown: He's pretty inconsistent with daytime naps, too. He falls asleep in a flash every time we go on a walk or in the car and will sleep in his car seat for at least two hours. But, otherwise, it's hard to "put him down" for a nap. If he falls asleep accidentally, it works out OK because I can then set him in his swing or rock n play. But otherwise, he resists daytime naps, too. Lately I have been trying to keep him awake/play with him more during alert stretches and I'm trying to get it so that he is only awake for 2 hour stretches. I also always wake him up to feed every 3 hours during the day (but not at night....though the most he has slept is 3 hours anyways at night). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-187504 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 21:57:24 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 187504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: I can't recommend it highly enough for babies that just want to be held. It's not that they are fussy, they just *need* you! Heartbeat, warm== happy baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-187498 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 21:55:00 +0000 winniebee 187498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I haven't tried babywearing yet - he was so little I was worried about it at first, but now that he's nearing 7 lbs I think I will try it - I tied my moby on myself yesterday to see how it worked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-187496 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 21:53:51 +0000 skibobrown 187496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How's his sleep during the day? Something I always did from the very beginning was to make sure LO was awake to feed every three hours... and I tried to play with her to keep her alert during any parts of the day when she didn't seem to sleepy. She slowly seemed to learn that daytime is for play and eating, and nighttime is for sleeping. Still, your baby is really young, so he might just need some more time to figure out nighttime sleep. Keep at it, and he'll get there eventually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-187491 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 21:50:09 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 187491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you tried babywearing for daytime sleep? His little head will be close to your heart and he should sleep for hours wrapped that tightly right up against you (use a moby-type wrap). Then, daytime sleep begets nighttime sleep and good nighttime sleep begets better daytime sleep. It's the best vicious circle ever! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-187485 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 21:42:24 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 187485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can i just say i am going through the exact same thing as you?? My baby wakes up when we set her down, sleeps on me because it is the only thing that works, and usually gets up every one and a half hours. I am frustrated too, but it is great to see all the reassurance on this thread. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-187482 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 21:40:49 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 187482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sleep was still hell for me at 4 weeks. It got a bit better at 2 months, and now at four months I only have to wake up once or twice.</p> <p>She's a great baby too, very sweet tempered, but just not a great sleeper right off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-187474 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 21:31:35 +0000 winniebee 187474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OK thank you to everyone - I sometimes feel like I'm a bad mom when I read about others whose babies sleep for 2.5-3 hour stretches over the course of 10-12 hours consistently!</p> <p>@ElisaT: OMG I totally hear you re: eyes magically springing open! The 5 s's have helped with that somewhat. </p> <p>@c.sassy: so you sleep well but can't do a thing during the day? can't win!</p> <p>@Coco Bee: I remember reading about Cobi's sleep habits back then! I think you are right that my expectations are too high - it's a product of NOT being very good with little sleep (never have been!) and being a little selfish. </p> <p>Tonight DH came home at 5:30 and I took a nap from 6:00 to 7:30 and feel like a new woman. But, then DS was up from 5 to 9 (refusing sleep and wanting to eat/nurse) so was totally overtired! At 9, finally got him to sleep on my chest then put him in the swing and he's been sleeping for about an hour and a half. But now it's 10:30 and mama's bed time. Gah! I feel much less anxious about tonight's sleep though because I know DH is coming home in the afternoon tomorrow and I can catch up then. I'm envisioning family nap time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-187462 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 21:21:52 +0000 Mrs. Pen 187462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>here is a thread I started on this same thing at 4 weeks old: <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-getting-my-4-week-old-to-sleep-at-night" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/help-getting-my-4-week-old-to-sleep-at-night</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-187456 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 21:18:52 +0000 Mrs. Pen 187456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh honey, sadly it's life with a newborn!</p> <p>I think one of the mistakes we make as first-time moms is expecting babies to sleep on their own just fine, and morph into sleep patterns we like after only a few weeks/months. But the truth is, and will always be, babies crave and need love. They love being held, comforted, soothed. Why would they like being set down when they know the peace and comfort of their parents' arms? My son didn't sleep anywhere but our arms for the first four weeks. Everytime we laid him in his bed, he'd immediately wake up and cry. At a month old we finally just took him into our bed because we were so exhausted. Now, at 3.5 mos old we're in the process of transitioning him out of our bed and into his crib and it's actually going really well. He is out of that "newborn" age, so he's a little more independent and cognoscente of things. I feel like he knows now that we'll always come for him, and up til now he has had very positive sleep associations (cuddling with mommy, milk whenever he pleases, lol!), so he knows sleep is a safe place.</p> <p>I wouldn't worry about it too much. I know it's REALLY hard, but babies are fickle. I would get really excited when LO slept a 5-6 hour stretch, but the next night we'd be back to 2-3 hours. It's rough but it's a short time period in our lives and this too, shall pass.</p> <p>Hang in there and no we're all there for you and have gone through the exact same thing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-187426 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 20:54:10 +0000 littleveesmommy 187426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're doing great! At 4 weeks they're still very unpredictable and having a few good nights is already a win. When LO was 4 weeks, DH and I were still taking turns rocking her because as soon as her head hit the crib her eyes would magically spring open, making us start all over again. This was for both naps and bedtime. It gets better, I promise! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-186883 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 09:56:27 +0000 heffalump 186883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like your lo is still tiny and new, plus all babies are different. I doubt its something you can do.... just try to be patient! Easier said than done I know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-186881 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 09:55:16 +0000 SAHM0811 186881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hang in there... Four weeks is still pretty young to expect sleep to get significantly better. It gets better very gradually within the first 3 months ("the fourth trimester"). There will be good and bad days... Just keep at it with the 5 S's and try to nap when the baby naps (I know, easier said than done... but it's the best way I got any sleep at all during that time!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-186804 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 09:02:11 +0000 Weagle 186804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have the opposite problem... well opposite time of day. LO is a wonderful nighttime sleeper, but fights naps like crazy. She's 5 weeks old today and has been taking only 2 naps/day for the past week. I know she needs more because she exhibits all the signs of tiredness, but she just fights it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-186791 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 08:57:00 +0000 plaidpants 186791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At four weeks, there was no logic for us. It seemed like something that worked like a charm one night would elicit screams of terror the next night. We finally got a routine at around 6 or 8 weeks. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-186782 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 08:52:33 +0000 T.H.O.U. 186782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>4 weeks there is still no rhyme or reason! Just hang in there and try to help them know the difference between night and day. My LO napped in the swing until she was 3 months and started daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-186737 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 08:12:00 +0000 Sammyfab 186737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are doing a great job with this sleep stuff! It is completely overwhelming and when DS was 4 weeks I was consumed with getting him to nap during the day (still am at 15 weeks too!). Pull out all the stops when they are this young - swing, carrier, car rides. I remember one day I couldn't get LO to nap longer than 10 mins in my arms and I took him for a car ride. He slept for over 3 hours and I had to wake him up to eat!</p> <p>Babies are still figuring out their circadian rhythms at this age and Weissbluth says they start consolidating night sleep at 6 weeks. It will get better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-186733 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 08:05:20 +0000 mrbee 186733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What's your LO's light hygiene like? Charlie used to have all sorts of problems sleeping when there was even a sliver of light showing... when we added blackout blinds (and taped over any electronic lights in the room), his sleep got much better!</p> <p>Bee wrote some guides about sleep here... maybe they will be useful!<br /> <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/hellobee-guides/sleep-guides/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/hellobee-guides/sleep-guides/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-186729 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 08:02:57 +0000 mrs. wagon 186729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>you're doing fine!!! when they're this young they are consistently inconsistent. There will be good days and bad days. Sleep drove me insane in the beginning. The Dr. Weissbluth book really helped me (Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child). In the beginning I put Wagon Jr. in whatever would get him to sleep during the day... bouncy chair with vibrations, swing, etc. (I'd turn off whatever function it did once he was really deeply asleep.) And he took at least one nap a day on me as well, even though he didn't even really like to be held. I just tried to stay consistent with nighttime sleep-- always kept him in the crib for that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/officially-confused#post-186720 Tue, 12 Jun 2012 07:55:32 +0000 winniebee 186720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have some sleep issues in our house right now (actually we have had them since birth). LO is 4 weeks old and is just not a good night time sleeper and it seems that nothing I do helps makes it better. </p> <p>The other night tried the 5 S's religiously and got one decent night of sleep - two 3 hour stretches and a two hour. Last night nothing seemed to work - he was calmed by 5 s's but then fussed again when I put him down and from 10 p.m. on only slept 1:45, 2, then 2 (with lots of yelping). This morning, same thing - he won't sleep anywhere but on me. He is swaddled, calm, clean, fed, and basically asleep in my arms then when I put him down (or, in the swing) he starts fussing and waking up (and trying to bust out of the swaddle again). He's been up for 2 hours so I know he is tired. He has been yawning which I know means he is probably overtired, but I have been trying to get him down for an hour. </p> <p>He is not a fussy baby. He just cries when he is hungry and fusses when he doesn't want to be put down. I just feel like I suck at this sleep stuff and want to help my baby be better rested and nothing seems to help. At almost 4 weeks, shouldn't sleep be getting a little better? </p> <p>Any suggestions? </p>