https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 05:49:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-655664 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 16:38:02 +0000 Modern Daisy 655664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>From what you described, I would accept her friend request and possibly also restrict her access at least at first. Honestly we are all so immature in HS I think it's a little unfair to hold grudges for that long. Heck, she might even assume she's being the bigger person by sending you the request in the first place! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-655659 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 16:34:56 +0000 prettylizy 655659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>FRIEND LIMBO!!! Don't accept, don't decline, just leave her there as a request. If/when you decide it's time to add her, then you still have the option. Friend limbo give you alllllll the power! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-655632 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 16:24:57 +0000 Cchoi4 655632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd wait until you saw her in person. Then you could have a face to face conversation, if need be, and you can see for yourself what kind of person she is today. People change and grow up. If she is actively trying to "friend" you, then maybe she has good intentions...but you'll never know until you speak to her...fb can be tricky...people are "friends" but not really friends...i try to avoid that kind of fakery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-655549 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 16:01:10 +0000 mrsmenow 655549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly it's not worth the trouble of having her blocked and then worrying that someone will be like "oh zippylef, I saw on facebook you did _____" or "zippylef, I loved that pic on FB" and there being drama of her knowing she was blocked. I just wouldn't friend her until you are home and have to deal with her. </p> <p>Sometimes I just let the requests just sit for a while so they aren't sure if I saw it or not and they can't keep sending me another one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-655542 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 15:59:44 +0000 plantains 655542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wold accept. It was such a long time ago, and people do evolve. If all your other friends are giving her another chance then maybe she is cool again. If she isn't, you can always just delete her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-655540 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 15:59:22 +0000 Happygal 655540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ignore it. You're not going to patch things up via Facebook. What's the point?</p> <p>Like @Tororojo said, she would probably just look for stuff to gossip about and be rude about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-655521 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 15:54:18 +0000 tororojo 655521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't accept if you don't consider her a friend! She probably just wants to be able to stalk your stuff, anyway. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-655210 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 14:12:22 +0000 Kemma 655210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand that it's hard to let that much history go regardless of the bullshit that went on in the past and on that basis I would accept the friend request.</p> <p>It's also ok that the nature of your relationship with this girl has changed, I've been in a similar situation before and although we were best friends for seven years she won't even acknowledge me in the street which makes me incredibly sad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-655179 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 14:01:13 +0000 2PeasinaPod 655179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would. If she gets to be a problem, then delete her, but she might cause more drama than it's worth if you don't accept her now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-655166 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 13:56:51 +0000 tequiero21 655166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I probably would on acquaintance level....but I'd think she'd take the hint... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-655157 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 13:51:54 +0000 swurlygurl 655157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would. </p> <p>It can't hurt for now, and if she starts to cause drama you can remove her, and then know before you get back from England what kind of nonsense you'll be getting from her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-655146 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 13:49:57 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 655146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Suck it up. Accept the friend request, but limit what she can view and comment on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-655118 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 13:45:18 +0000 Dandelion 655118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't...but I don't invest that much into facebook for it to be a serious thing for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-655074 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 13:33:17 +0000 T.H.O.U. 655074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would accept but not let her see much on your profile. It will give you a chance to facebook stalk a little bit and see if she's changed at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-654951 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 13:08:07 +0000 wheres_c 654951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do what @.twist.: suggested. If you have any interest in potentially rekindlining the relationship add her with restrictions.<br /> If you don't want to rekindle at all don't add and don't worry about looking like a b. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-654944 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 13:05:01 +0000 blackbird 654944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ditto, accept and put on limited profile </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-654884 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:51:07 +0000 LuLu Mom 654884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would accept her but block anything you don't want her to see! ha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-654847 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:39:20 +0000 sarac 654847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would ignore it - you don't want her in you life, and we're all old enough to make that choice a priority. I don't do obnoxious drama either, and if that were to cause trouble in my circle, I'd know it was time to find a new circle, I guess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-654797 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:25:36 +0000 HabesBabe 654797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't accept it until you moved back from England, hung out with her in person (like you said, it's going to happen), and then see for yourself.</p> <p>Just because she's friends with your friends doesn't mean she has to be friends with you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-654788 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:23:38 +0000 keiki_mama 654788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would accept her request but limit what she can see. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-654765 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:18:57 +0000 Meltini 654765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would accept the friend request because I am a sucker and always give people another chance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-654722 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:10:42 +0000 hummusgirl 654722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would accept the friend request because, to me, that would show you're taking the high road and are too mature to get caught up in this nonsense. Everything you've heard about her in the intervening years has been secondhand. I'd give her a chance to prove herself and if she does turn out to be the drama queen everyone says she is, then you can cross that bridge when you get there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-654669 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:00:21 +0000 DillonLion 654669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I wouldn't accept her request. She has a looonnngg track record of not treating you well, there is no reason to think it wouldn't be the same now. </p> <p>I hate that whole passive friend request thing anyway. If she really wanted to get in touch with you and mend things, she should call/e-mail/reach out to you and actually say something like "Hey, I'm sorry. Let's try this again." Not just send a random friend request. People who do that to me I assume just want to stalk my life and I don't have room in my life to invite unwelcome drama for no reason.</p> <p>If you not accepting her request causes a rift between your other friends back home, then I'd be questioning their maturity as well. I can't imagine your close friends would hold something like this against you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-654628 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:51:00 +0000 .twist. 654628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hm. Honestly, if I were in your shoes, I would add her but put her on a restricted profile viewing. That way you are tentatively giving her another chance and letting her in. However, you're also protecting yourself from the drama that she may cause and I think that's important! </p> <p>I stress about this kind of stuff too, don't feel silly about it! Facebook is a new sort of beast and it's become a legit part of life and we just have to learn how to deal with it in a civil way because I think it (or something like it) will always be around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-lord-facebook-politics-need-some-advice#post-654608 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 11:46:33 +0000 loveisstrange 654608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a very good friend in middle school named... Sue. Sue and I were very close and then had a falling out over god knows what and then became friends again in high school. When I say we were friends, we were BEST friends. We called each others parents mom and dad, we went on each others family vacations, we were crazy close. Anyway, in typical high school fashion, we had a massive falling out our senior year and became bitter enemies. To this day, not really sure what happened there... :/ Eh, teenagers. </p> <p>So, Sue dated a good friend of DH and I's for a couple years until she cheated on him and was ostracized from our (DH and I's) group of friends. She, from what I heard, continued to be a total hater and talk a bunch of trash about me and generally be a bunch of drama. This was a few years ago, I haven't actually spoken to her in 7 years. She was still persona non grata when I left to move to England almost 2 years ago. She tried to facebook friend me a couple times. in the intervening years but I always ignored her. I really just dont need that kind of trouble.</p> <p>Anyway, I went home for 6 weeks to visit in December. While I was there, my best friend told me that she had started to hang around with everyone again and that she had seen her at a party and Sue had been very snotty to her. I made a point to avoid having to deal with her while I was there. I'm just really too old for that sort of BS. </p> <p>So, this is the dilemma. About 2-3 weeks ago, I get another friend request from her. Now, normally I would have just ignored it except now she's hanging out with all my friends back home again and our time in England is more than half over. I am, at some point, going to come into contact with her again. I don't know her anymore. I don't know if she's still the type of person who would cause issues for me if I don't accept it. I don't want to look like the bitch who wont play nice but I also don't want to have to deal with people like her in my life.</p> <p>Ughhh... I freaking hate this kind of crap. I need some advice. Do I suck it up and accept? I know this is trivial and stupid but I miss my friends back home and I don't want some stupid BS like this to cause a rift. </p>