https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 09:12:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2067900 Fri, 13 Feb 2015 02:02:36 +0000 lemondrop 2067900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He should thank his lucky stars that he has such a cool wife. That shiz would not fly in my house :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2067514 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 21:11:08 +0000 wonderstruck 2067514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: He gets every Friday to himself?! Eff that, I take back what I said about him needing a break too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2067184 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 17:35:15 +0000 Corduroy 2067184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: He does take care of chores and things before he plays. But he also has every Friday off to himself while LO is at daycare. He splits that time between chores and video games. He's not exactly hurting for free time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2067174 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 17:30:13 +0000 sarac 2067174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: Every night for 3-5 hours? Hell to the no, in that case. And I'm speaking as someone who met her husband and most of her friends playing Counter Strike (dating myself here). If he already has 3-5 hours per night to himself, then nope, nope, nope. My husband still games online too, but after shit is done, and not for hours and hours every night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2067107 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 16:59:17 +0000 Corduroy 2067107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: We haven't hosted because we lived in an apartment until recently. I offered to host this time but DH turned me down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066976 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 16:07:24 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2066976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: its like an adult slumber party. Is it fun being the host house? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066945 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 15:53:08 +0000 LuLu Mom 2066945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: I agree with PP, I would say "go for it" however I would make it very clear you are not taking any additional time off work to make it happen. He either has to find someone to cover pick up/drop off or arrange it to be after his duties are done. taking time off work is not easy when we already ask for so much due to appointments, ect. </p> <p>And I would make it clear that traveling for work is not a vacation, so this is not comparing apples to apples at all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066918 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 15:42:01 +0000 Corduroy 2066918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: The guys all pack up their desktops and monitors and play at someone's house over a LAN (local area network). </p> <p>They used to go to regional events but that was 15 years ago. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066906 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 15:36:46 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2066906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tsk, Tsk not cool! </p> <p>Do they play video games in a hotel room? Is it a traveling video game convention or something? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066876 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 15:18:06 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2066876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: then it looks like you can just stick with your original timeline, problem solved :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066862 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 15:12:05 +0000 psw27 2066862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: I wouldn't take time off of work pre-baby for my DH to play video games. And I would not like it if he compared me working my butt off to playing video games all weekend. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066860 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 15:10:58 +0000 Corduroy 2066860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hotchildinthecity: He's going to play video games with his friends. They get together to do this 3-4 times a year and do it online every night for 3-5 hours. This is not some special trip.</p> <p>The other two guys both have toddlers and newborns. I know from angry texts that their wives are vetoing the 3 nights so it's not like he's even missing anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066836 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 15:05:57 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2066836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If this is like a once a year thing, I'd probably just suck it up and take the two hours off. DH takes a four night golf trip every year and now that LO is here I'll have to run around a little bit to do drop off/pick up and everything else. But it's not like he's going away once a month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066824 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 15:02:34 +0000 SleepyMonkey 2066824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oooh he would get a tirade of unpleasant words from me for that. And its one of those things i would store away forever in my memory. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066820 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 15:01:07 +0000 plantains 2066820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: Aah, well that is a totally different story then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066802 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 14:55:59 +0000 Corduroy 2066802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: @2PeasinaPod: If he leaves Thursday night I have to take two hours off of work on Friday to do daycare drop off. I'm trying to limit my time off to pre-natal appointments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066782 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 14:48:35 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2066782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: I'm with you on not understanding why the boys' weekend needs to be limited. I understand that 3 nights is a long time, but he deserves a break too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066767 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 14:42:15 +0000 plantains 2066767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm glad he took it back because I would be livid. Work trips are not fun and games. That said, I probably wouldn't have asked my DH to limit the days of his boys weekend. It is just a one off, I don't get why he can't have 3 nights instead of two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066550 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 13:23:36 +0000 looch 2066550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What considerations does he want exactly? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066510 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 13:02:40 +0000 blackbird 2066510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think he's just frustrated and I wouldn't say anything about this one guys trip </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066491 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 12:55:56 +0000 Maysprout 2066491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like a good opening for a discussion. I don't think his point is invalid but if your work trips are grueling take the time to explain why. Work trips have always been nice for me, free food in restaurants, mess free hotel, some down time, so maybe he's thinking of it that way. It's way more exhausting for me to take care of kids all weekend than traveling to a conference so I'd just explain to him what you do when you travel so he doesn't think its like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066486 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 12:55:05 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2066486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yeah, I'd be mad. And I'd have another conversation with him about it once I've had a chance to calm down. You don't say sh*t like that when it comes to work travel. #1, he needs to be supportive of you on all aspects of the work front. #2 it's WORK, not pleasure! Man...you're handling this better than I would! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066475 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 12:49:59 +0000 wonderstruck 2066475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first thought was that I'd be pissed. But trying to see it from the other side, it's completely exhausting to care for the kids solo for multiple days in a row. You may be working hard at your trips but eventually the workday comes to an end and you get to eat dinner in peace, chill in your hotel room, take a lunch break, etc. things that are unlikely to happen when you're at home with the kids.</p> <p>This still doesn't really make it a fair comparison - his whole trip is about relaxing whereas probably 95% of your trip is spent on work. So I'm glad he took it back and is coming home when you asked him to, but maybe in the future a sitter or someone could come help out for part of Sunday when you're away for the weekend so that he gets a bit of a break. Really they're just two separate issues; I think he's letting the stress get to him. Hopefully the weekend away will help with that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066442 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 12:38:13 +0000 Smurfette 2066442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband travels for work and I still think he deserves a weekend away. We both need time away to unwind with friends and just cause he is gone during the week, doesn't mean he doesn't deserve a weekend away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066437 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 12:37:31 +0000 Bao 2066437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh I would be irritated too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066436 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 12:37:30 +0000 Raindrop 2066436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be SO MAD!</p> <p>Sometimes I think my DH says things thoughtlessly and when I explain my point of view he gets it. He thought he was being "fair" but didn't think it all the way through. I would definitely cool down first and clamly explain why I was upset to him later on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066425 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 12:35:10 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2066425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catomd00: I have to agree with you. I don't know how far he's traveling, but depending on when he gets to leave friday, that could be like 1.5 days away. </p> <p>My husband has to go to conferences and stuff for work a lot and yeah, I resent it a little. Yes he's working but they always seem to be in nice hotels and stuff and just a few hours in a hotel room alone sounds amazing to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066405 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 12:30:19 +0000 catomd00 2066405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know how often you travel for work, but if it's a lot (and he is always home) i can see why he would be frustrated in your limiting his one weekend away. Without knowing details I would be inclined to let him have his while trip. An extra day or few hours in the grand scheme isn't going to kill you and it could be very beneficial for him (and your marriage). Just another perspective to consider. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066221 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 11:38:27 +0000 mediagirl 2066221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would totally piss me off. But, I'm glad he retracted his statement. It sucks to travel for work and not having your spouse understand what you do while you travel. It's not all propping your feet up in a hotel bed eating room service. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oh-no-he-didnt-vent#post-2066214 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 11:36:46 +0000 CakeLady 2066214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally not the same thing. I would be really irritated. </p>