https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 27 May 2026 08:43:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-754459 Wed, 01 May 2013 11:11:45 +0000 kml636 754459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did the Sleep Sense program because my LO didn't have a problem with nursing to sleep, but she did need a paci. It's hard work sleep training, and NOT FUN. But, things are a lot better (she still wakes up once but she goes down with NO crying). Good luck to you and baby H! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-754193 Wed, 01 May 2013 09:36:27 +0000 NovBaby1112 754193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm sorry :( it must have been so tough to hear her cry like that!</p> <p>1+ hour of nursing/trying to get her down does sound tiring and i think that slowly taking steps to put her down more awake will work for her, but it will just take some time. I know you mentioned that she wakes up every time you put her in the crib after nursing her. what i would do is, nurse her until she is asleep, then wake her up just a bit and lay her in the crib. if she starts to cry, pat her tummy, shhhh her, and try not to pick her back up, but let her know you are there for her. she may cry for a good while, but if you are in the room with her she will not feel abandoned or anything. if she gets hysterical, pick her up/rock her until she calms down (do not nurse again) and lay her back down. it may take awhile but eventually she will go to sleep. if you do this and are consistent with it, i think after a few days it will get easier. I honestly think you would have more success doing this than DH because nursing calms her, and you do not want her to already be in hysterics going into the crib, plus, she is prob more used to you at night. </p> <p>Another thing to remember is, months 4-5.5 are a bad time to sleep train because they are going through so much developmentally, like rolling, sitting up, etc. Mrs. Bee wrote a blog post on it here: <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/03/23/when-to-sleep-train/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/03/23/when-to-sleep-train/</a></p> <p>i hope tonight is better for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753707 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:35:56 +0000 tequiero21 753707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel ya! I think taking over an hour to go to sleep is an issue tho. Who has that kinda patience?! That's when I'd let the kids just cry for a bit. Especially since the hubs wasn't really around to take that shift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753699 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:30:59 +0000 doodlepoodle 753699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh thank goodness she fell asleep and you made it thru! :( we had to take J for a drive a few times, and walks help too. He was IMPOSSIBLE for the first 4 months but got way easier and now that our lives are upside down he's a hot mess again :( </p> <p>Do you do bath at night? Usually dinner, bath, bottle, play, sleep is how our evenings go and it generally works! Good luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753693 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:27:51 +0000 PrincessBaby 753693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: Apparently he was trying to feed her as little of the bottle as possible so she would get sleepy and fall asleep on her own (she had eaten an hour or so before) but ultimately she ended up falling asleep on the bottle. We are going to rehash it tomorrow and tweak our plan. He is already passed out ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753689 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:25:07 +0000 PrincessBaby 753689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: Yes that's our situation EXACTLY! Lord help us both!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753686 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:24:05 +0000 travelgirl1 753686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: what was it that worked in the end? Yay that she's asleep, good job to both of you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753685 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:21:28 +0000 PrincessBaby 753685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: He has military background. He does not get upset, impatient, or frustrated (like me!!!)...When something needs to be done he can totally remove emotion and get it done. It's crazy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753684 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:20:12 +0000 PrincessBaby 753684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Omg she is asleep. We are both drained. And I also hate that I surprisingly missed nursing her! When last night was so frustrating! I don't know what is right or best for her!</p> <p>DH thinks she needs to go to sleep by herself. I know that is what we're supposed to aim for getting her to do, I just don't know that she will do it or that I am ready for trying to sleep train!</p> <p>Ugh, thank you all for your thoughts and support:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753679 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:17:41 +0000 travelgirl1 753679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: I do the same as you to get A down and it may take a while but as you say, it's peaceful. But if DH tries then all hell breaks loose. If he brings her back in the living room she screams while staring right at me until I take her then she stops straight away. We're also working on ways to turn it around, right now I'm trying to introduce a lovely while she nurses in the hope it gives DH another weapon for his sleep arsonal but honestly, I now do all bedtimes by myself because I can't deal with hearing her cry and knowing I can fix it. Sadly I think your DH is right and it will be hard but if you're determined to change it up, maybe leave the house like Mr Bee suggested. Hugs, it's hard for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753677 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:15:06 +0000 littlek 753677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: LOL.. your husbands response is something totally my DH would say.. :) I hope your LO is asleep now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753675 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:11:41 +0000 Weagle 753675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine, too, hated to be calmed down. Maybe he could bring her out of her room long enough to calm her down (change of scenery can really help!... And you stay out of sight!)then go back in and try again? Maybe she's just so worked up she doesn't know what to do anymore. Sorry:(. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753669 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:01:39 +0000 yoursilverlining 753669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww, hugs. We are facing our own epic nighttime battles with our once good go-to-sleep-in-10-minutes baby :( we don't know what to do either. Bah, why won't they JUST GO TO SLEEP?!?!?!?!!! :( :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753668 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:01:01 +0000 littlek 753668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>B does not like to be consoled, so we had to use the extinction method. Trying to calm him down only made him angrier. No real advice, I'm sorry. It does get easier though with time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753651 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 20:49:50 +0000 Running Elley 753651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>E is the same way and when we sleep trained him I was sure that he would NEVER give up and go to sleep. He's just not that kind of kid usually. The first night it took quite a while but he did it! He actually went to sleep! And it got better from there. It's so hard though!! Hugs friend! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753641 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 20:44:52 +0000 T.H.O.U. 753641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know this isn't what you want to hear but sometimes switching parents but still sticking to the game plan turns her around. For example we tell her no more rocking and she gets hysterical. DH tries to handle her and get her to lay down in the crib but no luck. But when I go in things change and she cooperates. It can be te same thing if he steps in when she's not working with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753607 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 20:22:50 +0000 Smurfette 753607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! R is the same way, once she starts crying she won't quit till she gets what she wants </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753596 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 20:15:59 +0000 mrbee 753596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: dunno but maybe you should leave the house! Just to make it a little easier on both of you... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753595 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 20:15:49 +0000 MsLipGloss 753595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awwwww. :(. (((Hugs))) all around. My LO just gets more ramped up too. It sounds like your DH has it under control. Try not to worry. She'll still love you to pieces. Promise. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753589 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 20:13:46 +0000 winniebee 753589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really know her background on sleeping, etc., but I do know that my son pretty much gets more upset if we go to console him and don't rock him to sleep or give him a bottle. He's an extinction method baby, apparently.</p> <p>Sorry :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753588 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 20:13:00 +0000 pl0508 753588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aaaahh oh no ! I have no idea if you are doing the right thing because we nurse/feed and rock to sleep too but I am so sorry I would be a WRECK just like you !! J doesn't cry himself down either which makes me think we will never ever try CIO to sleep train. I hope she settles soon for all of your sakes ! Hugs ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753585 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 20:11:48 +0000 singingbee 753585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no advice, but I feel for you. I'm so sorry you guys are going through this right now! Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/omg-bedtime-crisis-happening-now#post-753580 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 20:09:49 +0000 PrincessBaby 753580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG. H takes forever to go to bed, sometimes nursing up to an hour and a half or so before I can get her down for the night. It's exhausting. Combine that with the fact that she's a roll-aholic in the crib now and last night's epic 3 hours it took to get her down convinced me that we have to start doing something different. We decided that DH will give her a bottle. He and the nanny both give her bottles when I am gone and she will take them, and they will also get her to sleep with a bottle. DH says it takes 10 mins to get her down for a nap. We thought that him giving her a bottle was the answer.</p> <p>Definitely NOT.</p> <p>She took a bottle for about 15 mins. I thought all was good as I watched them on the monitor. At some point, he tried to get her into the crib and she woke up screaming her face off. She has been screaming for the last hour as I have watched him rock her, try to give her the bottle, try to give her the paci (she's not really a fan), and pace, etc. It is painful. And she is PISSED. It may take me ages to get her totally sleeping hard enough to go down, but at least it's peaceful! It's just a matter of her waking up when I go to put her in the crib! Or rolling over and waking up and we start all over! This is TORTUROUS hearing her scream!</p> <p>I poked my head in twice and asked if he needed me to take her (to nurse) and he said, "No, this is going to be painful. It's not going to be easy..You need to go." She is WAILING her head off and I don't know if we're doing the right thing!!??!!</p> <p>H is not the kind of kid who will just give up and quit crying. She gets MORE upset. Like A LOT MORE. She is having a meltdown x1000 in there and I am DYING. I cannot take it! She doesn't cry unless she's tired or hungry - both easy fixes! I can't take this heartbreaking sobbing she's doing in there!</p> <p>Are we doing the right thing???? </p>