https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 08:56:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh/page/2#post-2823381 Fri, 18 May 2018 07:37:29 +0000 cake2017 2823381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBucky: That’s very sweet!!! Yes, DH usually gets me a card etc so I really don’t know what happened on MD. I will definitely bring it up though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh/page/2#post-2823380 Fri, 18 May 2018 07:35:09 +0000 MrsBucky 2823380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cake2017: I’m glad. I just wanted to say I was disappointed too and shared my feelings with DH day of. He asked if it was too late, and I told him it wouldn’t fix the sting to do something but it wasn’t a waste. I took a nap that afternoon while our son napped and they woke me up with a fruit and chocolate tray and dinner reservations. And my birthday is coming up in a few weeks and last night DH asked me whether I’d prefer X or Y for my birthday, which made me smile to see him thinking of it not at the last minute hahah. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh/page/2#post-2823377 Fri, 18 May 2018 07:30:34 +0000 cake2017 2823377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I came home yesterday and found flowers and a card on the kitchen island! I haven’t shared my feeling yet about MD but I do appreciate this. I think he started to figure out in the last couple of days.... I will definitely share my feelings and expectations as we usually do. Thank you ladies for sharing your experiences and feedback on this matter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823243 Thu, 17 May 2018 14:22:30 +0000 Autumnmama79 2823243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cake2017: Sorry you were disappointed. Its so nice to feel appreciated and celebrated on Mother's Day. I did get a card and flowers. Which was an improvement from last year so, I'll take what I can get. </p> <p>I would bring it up to DH casually, this weekend. Maybe bc its your first he didn't really know what the expectations were? I still feel like DH thinks mothers day is more of a day for his mom than it is for me, which doesn't feel good. But I choose my battles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823238 Thu, 17 May 2018 14:17:13 +0000 DesertDreams88 2823238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't get a card and never expect to. However I did get a present and day all to my preference, and I would been a little miffed if I hadn't gotten a present or "acts of service." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823224 Thu, 17 May 2018 14:02:29 +0000 JennyLayneAZ 2823224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did not get a card from dh on mothers day. I'd be super upset if I were you! My MIL, unfortunately, has passed already, so I don't have that on top of not getting a card, but I wasn't exactly happy with not getting anything at all. I mean, I would've been happy with a Starbucks or just something small that morning....so, no advice, just commiseration... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823214 Thu, 17 May 2018 13:42:59 +0000 alphagam84 2823214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say something. For my first mother's day I told my husband I wanted something homemade (meaning something with her hand or foot prints, etc.). I got a card from them and she scribbled a bit in it and that was it. I was really sad and I cried a little by myself about it. He's done better the past two years. This year I got a card from each, candles from him, and two homemade gifts from Emma they made together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823209 Thu, 17 May 2018 13:38:58 +0000 Caly 2823209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a big believer in spelling out expectations/what you want. My husband and I don't do gifts on birthdays/anniversaries (we just go to a nice dinner) so for Mother's Day I specifically told him I would like a card. He had flowers delivered to our house on Mother's Day along with a sweet card. So, yes, definitely tell him you were sad to not have received a card/gift and let him know it's a big deal to you in the future that he recognize the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823207 Thu, 17 May 2018 13:31:20 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2823207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I bet some of the spouses think this is a holiday for moms by their kids. That’s great and all when the kids are older, but for now they need to put in the work. DH was on the phone several times that day urging his sisters to do something special for his mom and checkIng in on his mom. It was annoying especially when I was trying to talk to him, but he made reservations for brunch so I didn’t complain. Although, next year I hope brunch at a restaurant is out of his head since they couldn’t serve alcohol until noon. He was apologetic about that. :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823193 Thu, 17 May 2018 13:03:45 +0000 peaches1038 2823193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told DH that I wanted a card. He and DS made one for me Sunday morning while I slept in. I’m sure he wouldn’t have done it if I didn’t specifically say I wanted one </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823170 Thu, 17 May 2018 12:01:47 +0000 psw27 2823170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No - no card. He did bring me very nice flowers though. He tried really hard to make it nice because last year it was not a very good day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823148 Thu, 17 May 2018 10:41:03 +0000 misolee 2823148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We’ve been married for 9 years and I’ve been a mother for six. I had to literally spell it out for my husband my expectations after the first mother’s day bc he would never know. I told him I don’t want gifts. flowers are nice but not necessary. I don’t want breakfast in bed. I would appreciate a nice card. I also told him, I will take care of my mom (his mom is out of country and they have diff day for mother’s day) and he needs to teach our kids how to take care of me. It went much better after I spelled it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823143 Thu, 17 May 2018 10:34:09 +0000 cake2017 2823143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hellobeeboston: Nope! I’ll share my feelings so he knows! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823133 Thu, 17 May 2018 10:09:38 +0000 snarkybiochemist 2823133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He was supposed to cook me lunch and then we were going to take our moms out for dinner, this didn't happen since we had to make an emergency trip to Boston to see my grandfather in the hospital. We agreed no gifts just cards for mothers and fathers day until our daughter is old enough to want to buy either of us a gift. We talk ahead of every holiday/anniversary about our expectations of gifts/cards/flowers etc. Talk about it with him now and have the conversation before mother's day next year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823128 Thu, 17 May 2018 10:04:02 +0000 Portboston 2823128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He got me a card and gift. I wasn’t expecting a gift but I’ve made it very clear that I expect cards on holidays. In general, men seem to be pretty bad at cards, I think you should tell him your expectations so he knows exactly what you want. My husband has a wishlist for me that he works from 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823120 Thu, 17 May 2018 09:41:09 +0000 gestalt 2823120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH gave me a card, but he knows that is my only requirement for special occasions. I've established this early on that is all i care about. I think it's possible to bring it up without causing an argument - just focus on your feelings rather than what he didn't do. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823113 Thu, 17 May 2018 09:21:00 +0000 irene 2823113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes you should say something if it bothers you... I can see why you are upset -- it is not that he forgot it was mother's day, he did something special for one mother but not the other... Say something or it will continue to happen in the years to come!</p> <p>To make you feel better, I learned early on to NOT count on DH to do anything at all on mother's day, because that will be setting myself up for volatile emotions. The past mother's days has been either extremely sweet (he booked a weekend getaway with a yoga class, spa and mother's day brunch) or complete disaster: we fought weeks ahead-- he criticized how I am not nailing it as a good mom and doesn't deserve to celebrate on Mother's day or somewhere along the lines. I booked my own brunch at a mother's day event at the aquarium with another mom friend and our kids. He bought tickets too when it got close, and I basically told him to not even bother to go as I am such a terrible mom that doesn't deserve to be celebrated. That ticket was expensive. Yep. That really happened. On top of that, you know what ridiculousness he said on my first mother's day when DS was a few months old? He said it doesn't count because you have to be a mother for at least a year. ##$@*()%. Haha.</p> <p>Yes this year I got flowers (nothing fancy, he bought it at Whole Foods) and a neon pink water bottle that says "Best Mom!" which is super tacky but I think DS customized that message with DH. And we went to a fancy dinner. But I won't feel hurt if next year he is traveling and not even be here or anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823108 Thu, 17 May 2018 09:04:57 +0000 snowjewelz 2823108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would tell him how that made you feel for sure. Sometimes men are just so dense about this stuff.</p> <p>We don't really do gifts but DH has gotten me random stuff before, and while I don't really remember, I believe he made an effort for both times that it was my "first" mother's day with each girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823103 Thu, 17 May 2018 08:57:04 +0000 wrkbrk 2823103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: Same! Since apparently it has to be expressed directly (sigh) I now say that I would like DW to help DS make me a card ... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823101 Thu, 17 May 2018 08:55:22 +0000 wrkbrk 2823101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cake2017: Yup. DW but a card every year. This would not be ok with me (which I’ve been very clear about to be fair!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823095 Thu, 17 May 2018 08:45:36 +0000 Mrs D 2823095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH failed big time Mothers Day 2017...I took a few days and then let him know. I dont need an ellaborate grand day - but I want acknowledgement.</p> <p>When I say failed, I mean he did nothing. The kids had made things at school and he took that to be my gift. All day, he just kept saying, its your day whatever you want to do...but in reality he did nothing for me.</p> <p>I told him, calmly, a few days later. I explained that I just needed something, some acknowledgement - a gesture. Telling me I can pick whatever I want to do still makes me have to organize and plan what we do - which is not relaxing.</p> <p>This year he took the kids early in the morning out of the house for an hour, I had coffee in bed after I woke up on my own, then he came back (about 30 mins after I woke up) with my fave breakfast. He gave me a card. It was perfect. So I say speak up, calmly and explain yourself as well as you can... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823078 Thu, 17 May 2018 08:11:14 +0000 Jennibenni 2823078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don’t nornally do gifts for any holidays so I wasn’t expecting one, but my husband totally did nothing for mother’s day and I was pissed so I let him know it. I would definitely tell him so he knows and also so you aren’t carrying around resentment that he doesn’t even know about or understand. </p> <p>I think this is why Father’s Day comes after Mother’s Day, so they can get what they put in 😜 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823059 Thu, 17 May 2018 07:37:10 +0000 Ajsmommy 2823059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did not get a card but I did get flowers and sweet treats. Although I do love getting cards sometimes they feel like a waste to me... but that's just me. DH recognized mother's day which is I think the most important.</p> <p>If you are unhappy I'd definitely mention it. Men need to be given explicit directions sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823057 Thu, 17 May 2018 07:31:01 +0000 NorthStar 2823057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't get anything, nor did I get anything for my birthday (which was two days prior). I let him know that I was disappointed. I did, however, give him a pass due to how insane our life has been this month. He is finishing up his thesis for grad school, my daughter had her dance recital Mother's Day weekend, among other things. He did let me know that he tried getting something and he looked for a card, but I let him know that wasn't enough. </p> <p>So, I would definitely say something. One thing that I've learned is that as much as we want them to, men cannot read our minds. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823045 Thu, 17 May 2018 06:25:51 +0000 hellobeeboston 2823045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cake2017: did he give or do anything besides brunch with your MIL?? if not, then, yes I would be a little hurt for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823036 Thu, 17 May 2018 04:29:37 +0000 erinbaderin 2823036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got a card, but since we’ve had kids I’ve specifically let my husband know that cards from the kids are important to me. I would raise it for next year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823032 Thu, 17 May 2018 04:00:34 +0000 Pumuckl 2823032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got handmade presents from all of my kids. Even my 1 year olds. They made them in daycare. So I did not expect anything from my DH as I am not his mother. He doesn't get anything from me on father's day either just from the kids. </p> <p>But if you expect to be aknowledged on that day by DH and are bugged because you weren't, you should talk to him about it, so he knows what your expectations are. His point of view might be similar to the one I posted above and he can only react to your differing viewpoint if he knows of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823025 Wed, 16 May 2018 23:28:54 +0000 JCCovi 2823025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mother’s Day for us is much more about our Mothers and Grandmothers, but I did ask this year to go get a mani/pedi with my 4 year old daughter. So on actual Mother’s Day I didn’t get anything, but my husband acknowledged it plenty and I was fine.</p> <p>I have previously been hurt on Christmas or my birthday because I didn’t feel like enough was done (my husband only buys for me, I take care of everything else). Eventually I just communicated that I want gifts from him and each of the children, and it’s his responsibility to make it happen. :) Communication is key, my DH is oblivious to this stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823024 Wed, 16 May 2018 23:19:43 +0000 ALV91711 2823024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say something. It doesn't have to be right away, I'd just make sure to bring it up at some point before next year. </p> <p>The weekend before I went and got cards to mail our moms, this prompted DH to remember Mother's Day was the next weekend. I told him all I wanted was to not cook that day. I got to sleep in, they made me coffee for when I got up. Then we went out for some fun family time and out for dinner. DS made me a card at daycare. </p> <p>I generally have had to say something every year in the week or two leading up to the day. But I'd rather do this than be disappointed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-mothers-day-did-your-dh#post-2823020 Wed, 16 May 2018 23:02:35 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2823020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have fallen into not always doing Mother's Day. But on our first something happened with the flower delivery and he didn't even acknowledge it and I wasn't thrilled. Sorry this happened to you!</p> <p>ETA this year we weren't physically together, not sure if there will be some kind of belated something. He let me order something I'd been wanting for the house for myself, so whatever. And yes I took care of our moms mostly by myself. Well, with the kids tagging along that is. </p>