https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 11:41:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1059871 Mon, 02 Sep 2013 08:57:22 +0000 lizzywiz 1059871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@woodentulip: just (((hugs))). It sucks feeling a pervasive sense of discord and there not being a quick, easy way to fix it. It makes me feeling angry in my own skin. Hope it gets better soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1024551 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 15:01:45 +0000 heffalump 1024551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would talk to DH about this. Say you're exhausted and tired, being a SAHM is hard, and you need a break. I would go but tell DH that you need some relaxation time on this trip too. Does his family help at all? That's another reason I'd want to go.... I feel like DH and I could sneak away for a bit while someone else watched LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1024097 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 12:50:41 +0000 AmandaB8 1024097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is there any way you can have the grandparents watch over the little ones and you and your DH have some quality time? Also, I'd have a talk with DH on the way there - let him know that no matter what his parents say, YOU need him to be around with the kids. The kids need their dad and fun memories with him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1024014 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 12:34:55 +0000 mrbee 1024014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry!! I would spend less time with his parents for a while, just to regain a sense of control over the situation!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1023920 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:58:30 +0000 Sammyfab 1023920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, I hate camping so without even reading further I'd say to not go!! But, I did keep reading and I agree with others that it goes way deeper than a camping trip. I do think a weekend alone and off-duty would really help to clear your head and figure out what will make you happiest in the long run. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1023903 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:53:12 +0000 purrpletulips 1023903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@woodentulip: when his parents give him the "go ahead do whatever because you work so hard" thank them for just volunteering to watch the kids and go do what you want. You work hard everyday too and deserve the same. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1023836 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:34:10 +0000 woodentulip 1023836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>PS: thank you all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1023834 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:33:59 +0000 woodentulip 1023834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that you are allllllll right.</p> <p>@MamaMoose I was a WOHM for about 2 years between kids--it was so hard--but made me such a better mom. Instead now, I feel like I am a kinda bad-to really crappy mom all the time instead. </p> <p>Ok. Going to have a good cry and then try to get over it. Wah. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1023827 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:30:46 +0000 MrsBrewer 1023827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yea....ditto to everyone else. This is way more than just this camping trip.</p> <p>I think that since the camping trip it this weekend, you should just suck it up and go. Then once you get back, you and your DH need to have a long conversation because it sounds like there is a lot of built up resentment that needs to be discussed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1023821 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:27:27 +0000 MamaMoose 1023821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like there is a whooooole lot more going on here than a camping trip. I think you and your husband need to have a serious talk. Try to consider his side too that yes he is working a lot but he is working to provide for his family. And I can tell you it IS hard to be a WOH parent and then come home and have to be "on" as soon as you walk in the door and never get a break. Not to say being a SAHM isn't hard as well.</p> <p>I wouldn't let these bigger issues ruin a family vacation that will be fun for your kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1023805 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:21:54 +0000 googly-eyes 1023805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.Someone: I agree.</p> <p>I'm sorry they're such jerks. SAHM-hood isn't easy, especially if you prefer to be a WOHM! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1023781 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:13:20 +0000 Mrs.Someone 1023781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you need to have a conversation with your DH and tell him how you really feel, and how unhappy you are. Sounds like this is more than a camping trip :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1023774 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:11:24 +0000 woodentulip 1023774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The thing is that nothing in particular happened, but I am just so sick of doing it all!</p> <p>I resent my husband for spending so much time at work. I resent that I am a SAHM (I left my job when we moved across the country last year and my field is pretty tight to get into). I am just a party pooper right now.</p> <p>Plus, every time we're with his parents they are all "oooooh son, you work so hard, go and do &lt;enter whatever recreational activity you want&gt; for as long as you want." </p> <p>And even just thinking about that makes me want to cry.</p> <p>Ok...sorry for the vent! I am just maxed out! Serenity now....serenity now... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1023768 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:08:58 +0000 pui 1023768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should go... you might have fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1023767 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:07:49 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1023767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go ...and be a bitter B for awhile but then is get over it. I HATE trips that involve so much and are Turin before you even go:)<br /> The girls WILL have fun:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1023762 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:05:59 +0000 Crisark 1023762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry but I would go. But that's just me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1023760 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:05:44 +0000 sorrycharlie 1023760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on what happened! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-strike#post-1023759 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 11:05:04 +0000 woodentulip 1023759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am fuuuuuming mad right now. </p> <p>And I want to just yell and scream that I am on strike. </p> <p>...but...</p> <p>We are supposed to be going camping to meet up with my husband's whole family this weekend. We have never camped with our girls.</p> <p>I have spent every &amp;*(#^(ing waking moment this week trying to get organized and prepared.</p> <p>And I don't want to do any more. I don't want to help. I don't want to go. I don't wannnnt to!</p> <p>Should I grow up and go? Or should I pack them up and enjoy the alone time, knowing that everyone will likely be mad at me, but I will be much happier? </p>