https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 13:00:14 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2444369 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 09:34:03 +0000 ModernDayJibarita 2444369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really wanted to be Team Green but my husband was passionate about finding out in order to feel more bonded with the baby. We stuck a compromise; We found out at the 20 week ultrasound but have kept it a secret. At that point everyone knew we were Team Green so people stopped asking(or if they do I just answer it will be surprise) Part of the reason why I wanted to be Team Green was to avoid gendered ideas from my family (my friends would respect my desire for gender neutrals but my family would go crazy on the pink princess stuff it was a girl). We've decided to surprise my family with a gender reveal at my baby shower though and I can't wait to see their reactions! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2444310 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 09:09:49 +0000 skipper2010 2444310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I found out with my first and wanted to be TG with my second. While it was fun knowing and being able to "plan" with my first, nothing will EVER beat the moment we found out it was a girl in the delivery room. It was pure magic. For me personally, finding out at the u/s just didn't have the same level of excitement. No one gave us a hard time about waiting. It just added to the excitement/anticipation. I was a little worried that I wouldn't have enough outfits for the second baby, but people went CRAZY buying us stuff once she was born so it all worked out. That being said do you have a strong gender preference? A friend of mine was TG and was convinced she was having a boy, and admitted she was slightly disappointed when she gave birth to a girl. She'll be finding out with her next because it took her a while to bond with that baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2444284 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 08:43:52 +0000 sslm 2444284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We thought about doing the TG thing this time around (found out with our first)... but in the end we decided not to. I'm kind of glad. I had a bit of a preference for a girl (really wanted my daughter to have a sister!!!) and I felt strongly that it was a girl. Turns out it's a boy! Glad to know early so we can get used to the idea :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2444211 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 07:17:27 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2444211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was a TG drop out, but found out when it was the right time for me and in my own way. Just when I decided I wanted to know everyone around me became less vocal about their displeasure of not knowing. Ha! </p> <p>Stay TG as long as you want. You don't have to decided rightaway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2444205 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 07:08:15 +0000 BandDmommy 2444205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted to be TG but DH wanted to know so we found out. I didn't feel strongly one way or another. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2444152 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 00:10:23 +0000 rattles 2444152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wavered with our second (after being TG with our first). We moved across the country at 34 weeks, and orchestrating that with a 1.5 year old was crazy. I had an ultrasound at 32 weeks and debated finding out then and wondered if knowing the sex might make things feel more certain in one aspect of life at least! I'm glad we held out for TG. I love encountering each baby as an individual without preconceived expectations or gendered ideas from everyone. I love the moment after we find out, meeting this entirely new-to-us person. Zero regrets. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2444122 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 22:45:50 +0000 pregnantbee 2444122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were TG for our first, and I'm glad we did it. I will say that it caused me some anxiety due to needing 2 sets of names, not really being able to buy clothes, my brain having trouble envisioning what it would be like once baby arrived. This time, we knew we wanted to find out. Thought it would be easier to bond, focus on one set of names, tell DS about the baby, know whether we were reusing clothes or buying new, etc. For us, it was still a huge surprise to find out what it is ahead of time. If you do go TG, people around you will understand. xo </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2444101 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 22:32:54 +0000 pastemoo 2444101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@iheartleopardprint: :) Aww! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2444096 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 22:27:29 +0000 iheartleopardprint 2444096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: we have a 3D booked for a few weeks time! We didn't book it to find out the sex, just to have a peek at bub's cuteness, I think once we get past that I will be fine :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2444085 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 22:16:44 +0000 autumnlove 2444085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted to wait for LO 2 but my husband told me he wanted to find out around week 15. He doesn't ever have strong opinions about stuff like this and I was already impatient so we had an early ultrasound. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2444080 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 22:09:57 +0000 pastemoo 2444080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@iheartleopardprint: But you can't un-TG now, can you? The ultrasound is over, the chance to find out is gone, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2444076 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 22:00:40 +0000 Eko 2444076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: Made it to my anatomy scan at 20 weeks. One of the perks of being on the fence is that I wasn't anxious or counting down the days until I found out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2444062 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 21:42:24 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2444062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it strange that this thread makes me want a 3rd baby? lol I've never been team green but I think you should do it! It sounds exciting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2444028 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 21:02:50 +0000 iheartleopardprint 2444028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is my third pregnancy, FIs first bio child. I have a boy and a girl, so we are TG with this baby. </p> <p>Some days I find it harder than others, at the moment it's ok though. Leading up to the 20 week scan I just wanted to know!! We are almost 25 weeks now, so I really want to stick it out. FI is doing a lot better than me at TG. </p> <p>In my moments of weakness, I look videos up on YouTube where people were TG and find out the sex in the delivery room. It makes me so motivated to stick it out. I want a photo or video of my reaction when LO is born :)</p> <p>Everyone has been really good about TG, I get a lot of 'good on you' for not finding out from the older generation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2443976 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 20:32:52 +0000 pastemoo 2443976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Applesandbananas: I'll let you know. DH knows, and I don't. I'm 22 weeks right now... we'll see how long he/I hold out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2443856 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 18:21:07 +0000 petunia354 2443856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Applesandbananas: Emergency c section, I was under general anesthesia and DH wasn't allowed in the OR, so he found out as they wheeled DS down to the Nicu and I found out when I woke up in recovery. </p> <p>I so wish I could have experienced it in the delivery room with my DH! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2443847 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 18:17:37 +0000 youboots 2443847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Eko: how far along were you when you found out? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2443844 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 18:16:23 +0000 Eko 2443844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were TG and on the fence about it. We decided to find out at the last minute. DH didn't want to find out more than I wanted to know so I was giving it to him. </p> <p>I am really happy that we found out. I had a hard time emotionally connecting in my pregnancy and finding out the gender helped. Plus I think finding out the gender before the baby is born is the only time you get to truly celebrate if you are having a son or daughter. It's fun when you find out to imagine what your family will be like with him or her. If you don't find out you will be too consumed with just having a baby there.</p> <p>I told DH on the second one we can go TG since he wanted it, but decided not to. He liked finding out for all the reasons above. </p> <p>I wasn't TG but still feel like I had a lot of surprising and overwhelming emotional experiences that I don't feel like I would be missing out on if I wasn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2443838 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 18:06:08 +0000 tlcbaby 2443838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were team green last time and will do it again this time. You just don't get many fun surprises as a grown up and not knowing made it really special and exciting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2443834 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 18:03:19 +0000 Applesandbananas 2443834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@petunia354: why didn't you have the amazing experience? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2443830 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 17:57:23 +0000 petunia354 2443830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were TG with our first but didn't have the amazing experience of finding out the gender together at birth so we'll be finding out with our next one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2443828 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 17:48:35 +0000 Aandmklover 2443828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We found out with our first and we were team green with our second. I felt more connected to the baby when I knew before hand so with our third we decided to find out asap. Being team green was a fun experience and we are glad we are able to say that we've done it but prefer to find out the sex. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2443826 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 17:42:04 +0000 ms.line 2443826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were on the fence, but one of my good friends told me how much she enjoyed her TG experience, and how finding out the sex of her baby right at birth was such an amazing moment for her and her husband. She was so passionate and convincing we decided we'd for sure be TG, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2443824 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 17:41:02 +0000 Applesandbananas 2443824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: ahh you're a good salesman!! DH didn't want to find out with LO1, but I was desperate to know and this time, he's like eh let's find out and I'm like eh let's not, maybe? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2443811 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 17:15:58 +0000 Ree723 2443811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been TG for all three and LOVE IT!!! It hasn't really driven anyone around us crazy, they all think it's awesome as it's a fun surprise for them too - I mean seriously, how much more exciting is it to see "It's a ______!" than it is to see "Baby boy/girl is here!" :silly: As for the older sibling - my 3.5 yr old and 2 yr old know there is a baby in mummy's belly but haven't even asked if it's a boy or girl, nor have they expressed any interest when I've tried to talk about the difference.</p> <p>I know a few people who have been TG for at least one of their pregnancies and found out for another one, and every single one of them said they wished they had been TG with all of their babies as the excitement of finding out early doesn't even begin to compare to the level of excitement of finding out at birth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2443758 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 16:03:06 +0000 LovelyPlum 2443758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Applesandbananas: a little? But to be honest, my whole family didn't want to know until she was born, so it helped there. I do wonder about helping LO understand, though. That's the one reason I might not do it. But then again, maybe not? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2443753 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 15:57:19 +0000 youboots 2443753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were TG until about 34 weeks. I developed GD and was being seen by lots of new people and having weekly ultrasounds. I was worried we would find out accidentally. We told our parents and friends in person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2443749 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 15:54:01 +0000 Foodnerd81 2443749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Charm54: yes, old people love TG! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2443747 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 15:51:25 +0000 Charm54 2443747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was TG for both...was more on the fence for my second but ultimately stayed TG and am so glad that I did. No moment in my life will ever compare to the two times DH told me we had a baby girl. As for others, some people were confused and thought it was strange we didn't want to know but no one really bugged us. We got a lot of positive comments actually from older people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-about-being-tg#post-2443742 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 15:46:41 +0000 Foodnerd81 2443742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Applesandbananas: I have a few friends who were TG with their second and their 2 year olds just accepted that this is how it is- they were excited to find out if it was a brother or sister. On the flip side, my LO loves to tell everyone she was having a baby sister. When we were TG a few people got annoyed but since it's pretty common in my circle it wasn't too bad. </p> <p>@LovelyPlum: well Dh wanted to find out the first time and I said maybe the second time. But also the timing of the second pregnancy was a little surprising it was nice to know the sex at least. Plus all the usual reasons to find out (names, figuring it clothes, etc). </p>