https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 27 May 2026 05:33:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897909 Sat, 11 Oct 2014 14:33:25 +0000 tororojo 1897909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thinking about holidays makes me especially want more than 1! I loved growing up in a big family with lots of cousins, and since my kids may not get any 1st cousins close in age I want them to have siblings to play with at family functions. And maybe my grandkids will have lots of cousins! I have always wanted 3 kids but after this not-so-easy 2nd pregnancy we may be done at 2. 1 seems lonely to me, but I'm sure there are lots of benefits as well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897862 Sat, 11 Oct 2014 13:13:26 +0000 Mrs. Chocolate 1897862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another only child here that hated it and wanted something different for my kids </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897582 Sat, 11 Oct 2014 01:41:11 +0000 FancyGem 1897582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both wanted to have 2 children, but now I'm afraid. If my husband could carry the next one, then we would have another. I found out I have some health issues after having my son. He is almost 3 and those issues still aren't completely resolved. I'm afraid to relieve everything, and start from scratch. Right now, I'm going to focus on my health and reconsider in about 2-3 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897476 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 21:37:51 +0000 Vegmama 1897476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: I could have written this exact same post. For now, it's all of the reasons you mentioned, and for the future, I want a big family (legacy). It's so tough ... Maybe like most things, time will give you an answer. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897465 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 21:20:34 +0000 brownie 1897465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This isn't necessarily logical but... It was the episode of glee after Finn died. And his mom says something about how do you continue being a parent when the child is gone. That really resonated with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897369 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 19:58:04 +0000 Anagram 1897369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For us, the main reason was just because we both wanted more than 1--so not something very "tangible". And the tangible pros/cons of having children , like finances, stress, time...we felt well equipped *enough* in those areas to keep to our original plan of more than 1. </p> <p>I think that's different for everyone though. Being a parent is hard and I wouldn't advise anyone to continue unless they really wanted to, you know? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897355 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 19:44:15 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1897355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Family just didn't feel complete with one. We are good with two though, lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897304 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 19:03:52 +0000 Ginabean3 1897304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am one of three siblings and I love having a sister and a brother. I currently have one LO and would like two more! However if my next pregnancy results in a premature birth again.....I will seriously consider stopping after two. I just don't think I could risk going through that again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897287 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 18:51:24 +0000 Tanjowen 1897287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's like you wrote what's in my head. My husband seems pretty adamant about we are one and done, and while I hate the idea of revisiting the newborn stage because it was not a good experience for me, I have a hard time not picturing at least adding another one to our family. I'm from a family of 4 and the older I get, the more I appreciate having my siblings.</p> <p>Can't someone just hand me a 3 month old for free? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897271 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 18:41:20 +0000 Mae 1897271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In my "pro 2 kids" column is: it feels "normal" to me (I was from a family with 2 kids, as was my dh), I think siblings benefit the kids more than being an only child would in childhood, I think it is nice for people to have siblings later in life-- family to fall back on and (morbid alert) the idea of my daughter some day being alone in the world without me or dh makes so sad I can't even hardly complete the thought. If she had a sibling I'd feel like they could look out for each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897266 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 18:37:54 +0000 Applesandbananas 1897266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could've written your post. </p> <p>No advice, just hugs &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897262 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 18:31:01 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 1897262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Growing up with siblings, as did my husband, neither of us would consider having an only child if it is up to us. That relationship and bond is so special and important and I can't imagine our child not having that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897218 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 17:25:34 +0000 Mamasig 1897218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted my children to have siblings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897216 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 17:20:03 +0000 AprilFool 1897216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are about to TTC #2 and I am so scared of having 2 little kids but I know the baby stage doesn't last forever and a few hard years is a small price to pay for the family I want. I just can't see myself with only one child when they are grown up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897211 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 17:13:34 +0000 sapphire 1897211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was essentially an only child (sibs WAY older than me) and I still really long for that sibling relationship that I see others have. I want my kids to have sibs and cousins and be aunts and uncles and their kids to have cousins....also I don't want to be lonely when I'm old! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897199 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 16:58:10 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1897199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I knew 100% that I wanted more than one. (2 maybe 3). I also knee that I would regret it the rest of my life if I never carried another child again. We decided to TTC when LO was 11 months old &amp; actually are expecting #2 in April. I'm scared &amp; nervous &amp; if we have a 3rd it won't be for another few years but I actually wanted to have the first two close together before I got complacent with just one &amp; forgot all about the baby stage. I just always knew I wanted more than one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897196 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 16:51:24 +0000 Willow 1897196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any kids yet, but we hope to have at least 3. We both grew up with a couple siblings and can't imagine our kids not having that relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897182 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 16:30:07 +0000 hellobeeboston 1897182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just have one for many of the reasons you mentioned. But we both really want our son to have a sibling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897179 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 16:26:30 +0000 Cherrybee 1897179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was an only child and I hated it. I know many people liked being an only but, for me, I longed for siblings. I want that for E. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897165 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 16:13:28 +0000 blackbird 1897165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well I'm pregnant so theres no going back :)</p> <p>I just can't shake the desire for a larger family. Having a bunch of little children stresses me out but I look forward to having older children</p> <p>I just feel like people are missing even though we have E. It's just a gut thing and I'm throwing the dice, I suppose. It's a gamble. It always is </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/on-the-fence-more-than-one#post-1897148 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 16:04:26 +0000 kiddosc 1897148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There are a lot of discussions about why you are one and done, but what are people's reasons for wanting more than one child?</p> <p>DH and I had agreed to have two, maybe three, children when we got married, but now he is very much on the fence about more than one. In my heart, I know I want more than one but when I think logically about it there are so many reasons to stop with one. More free time, less financial stress, avoiding the possible risks of a second pregnancy, risking having a difficult infant/child, etc... It makes sense to quit while we're ahead. But then, I think of never being pregnant again, all those baby clothes/supplies packed in the basement, the extra room in our new house, the ideas of holidays far in our future, what will happen when we are all older, and I am just so so sad about the prospect of all of that being done or changed. I would never have another if DH wasn't completely on board, but I don't even know how to begin to be ok with it if that's the final decision. </p> <p>I know that this has been discussed to a degree before, but I thought I would bring it up again. There are logical reasons not to have another, but I want one, it's all making me feel very conflicted. :bummed: </p>