https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 00:00:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1853096 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 10:45:52 +0000 Pirouette 1853096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we are going through the same thing, so thanks for asking this! if she's not standing, we lie her back down, put the paci within reach and give her her lovey and pat her back. almost always works immediately. but if she's standing, i know when i am the one to go in, i basically have to nurse her. i can't rock her to sleep, because she won't take that from me (maybe when i actually wean?) I'm trying to avoid having DH do night wakings, but i don't see any other alternative. i've succumbed to night nursing way more lately because i'm at a loss as to how else to get her back to sleep quickly, especially after she's been sleeping a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1853022 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 09:58:42 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1853022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used the dr jay Gordon method for night weaning. You can ind it online. It's a bit gradual. I cosleep but you can use it when you don't as well. There is crying involved but you are there with child and you are allowed to soothe in certain ways and nurse in small bits but only in a certain way. The first few nights were hellish but after that he got so much better. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852960 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 09:24:28 +0000 Pumuckl 1852960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: We also just switched to water overnight because he'd be too busy during the day and forget to drink and get thirsty at night. So we do let him have a sippy of water in bed. Especially in summer when it's warm in his room I had to refill it once I went to bed.</p> <p>@lawbee11: I have also found that once we were done nursing that those 5am/5:30am wake-ups got less frequent. I don't know whether aformentioned sippy cup of water in bed had anything to do with it or not. Now usually (when we have a normal night) the earliest he wakes is 6:15am but then he really is up for the day. Usually he wakes at 7am sharp though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852949 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 09:19:54 +0000 skibobrown 1852949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We would giver her a pacifier, turn on her white noise, and pat her back. If she was sick, or especially worked up, we would pick her up and rock her back to sleep... or sometimes just bring her in bed with us to co-sleep for the rest of the night. I didn't nurse, so the boob factor wasn't an issue, but I think if your baby is used to nursing in the night, you might need your husband to deal with the MOTN wakeups for a while, so your LO doesn't mistakenly think it's time to nurse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852940 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 09:14:59 +0000 .twist. 1852940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually go in and give him back his soother. If that doesn't quite work I will pick him up and rock him until he calms down and then I will lay him back down. Sometimes he goes back to sleep immediately, and sometimes he protests for a few minutes and then quiets down and goes back to sleep. </p> <p>I was super worried about this too, but it's ended up not being a big issue and I've found that I DO have other soothing techniques other than just a boob. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852916 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 09:00:35 +0000 immabeetoo 1852916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always have water in the room and offer that to him, and rock. DH will often keep him in his crib and sing or pat, but I never have success with that. I will sometimes lay on the floor with him, with his head on a pillow. Knock on wood, once he got his last teeth in, we haven't had more than one or two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852913 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 08:56:44 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1852913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveisstrange: do you let her keep it in her bed with her? Cause I've thought of that too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852892 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 08:35:51 +0000 loveisstrange 1852892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I give her a sippy with water in it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852864 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 08:26:22 +0000 mrsjyw 1852864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: we've also had times where DS will cry/whine once we leave the room. we'll wait a min or two usually. maybe CIO up to 5 min, because it usually is in spurts, and go back in then. and repeat cycle. at some point, he usually falls asleep again. good luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852863 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 08:25:19 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1852863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We kind of have the same problem. Any wake up before 4 am I just go in, pick LO up &amp; sing her nite - nite song &amp; lay her back down but any time after 4 am is so close to when she gets up (between 6 &amp;630) that she just can't settle unless she nurses. She will be one on Friday so I've been thinking about what we should do about it a lot lately. Folloeung! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852860 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 08:24:39 +0000 lawbee11 1852860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: DH went in two nights ago and rocked her and she calmed down. Then he put her in her crib and she was fine for a couple of minutes, but then started crying again. I don't know if at that point we should just let her CIO because I don't think anything was wrong otherwise she probably wouldn't have calmed down in the first place. She's having bad separation anxiety so it's just difficult to know what to do. </p> <p>@mrsjyw: @Smurfette: Yeah, I'm thinking milk is a bad idea and will just create more bad habits. Rocking it is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852851 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 08:20:49 +0000 Smurfette 1852851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I weaned early but when she did wake up, and still do, just rock her. We don't give her formula/milk overnight. Will do water if she has been coughing. But otherwise we just rock her till she falls asleep or now she calms down and points to the crib, and we put her back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852845 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 08:19:44 +0000 mrsjyw 1852845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: yea the times that he's actually awake and standing up, we almost always have to hold him/rock him, and even try to just sleep with him in the glider. if it was just an hr before his normal wakeup time we'd just start the day realllllllllly early. but for most MOTN wakeups he would still be lying down and we would do whatever we could (without milk) to get him back asleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852840 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 08:17:48 +0000 lawbee11 1852840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: @mrsjyw: We will have to try patting her back. If your LO was sitting/standing would you lay them down? She was standing in her crib when I went in this morning and I think she would've become hysterical if I tried laying her down, but I've never done it so maybe not. </p> <p>@bushelandapeck: Yeah DH will definitely be the one going in at least until we've been done with nursing for awhile. </p> <p>@jetsa: I think she wants to go back to sleep, she just has a hard time. We've done that before where she wakes up at 5:30 and we treat it like the start of the day, but she's so cranky when we do that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852839 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 08:16:58 +0000 hilsy85 1852839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Once we weaned, I found that he was comforted by rocking and singing. And this was a kid who demanded nursing whenever he woke previously. But we didn't night wean until we weaned altogether. Another words, he started sttn at 13 months but if he did wake due to sickness or whatever after that I would nurse. I only stopped doing that when we weaned completely at 18 mos. and at that pint I could just rock him til he was calm. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852821 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 08:09:14 +0000 jetsa 1852821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS gets up for the day at 5:30-6 and has been waking at 4:30. We normally get up and treat it like the beginning of his day because it's so close to normal wakeup time. it kills me I thought 5 was bad!</p> <p>MOTN wakeups DH or I go in and rock him back down and he goes right to sleep. The reason we treat this differently is because he won't go back to sleep with rocking </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852820 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 08:09:12 +0000 bushelandapeck 1852820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH ended up having to be the one to go in to soothe DS during MOTN wakeups because he would get too upset if I went and didn't nurse. It still took a couple of months before he STTN though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852819 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 08:09:11 +0000 mrsjyw 1852819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For MOTN wakeups, we would pat his back. If he was still upset, then we'd pick him up and rock him for a few minutes and he'd usually go back down. There have been rare instances where I'll sleep the rest of the morning/night in there with him because he'll cry if I try to leave the room (when he's really sick/teething/etc.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852799 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 08:00:10 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1852799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a rule that we didn't pick her up out of the crib. I knew of I picked her up it would just be a battle not to nurse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-you-night-weaned#post-1852798 Mon, 08 Sep 2014 07:59:10 +0000 lawbee11 1852798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How did you deal with MOTN wakeups? LO has woken up crying around 5 or 5:30 the past couple of days. I've ended up nursing her and she goes back down, but I'm planning to stop nursing altogether in about a month, and I have no idea what we'll do about wakeups after that. </p> <p>She's teething so I'm not comfortable letting her CIO as it's more than just whining. I feel totally incompetent because nursing has always worked so I'm not sure what to do now. Bringing her into our bed isn't an option as neither DH nor I are comfortable with that. She drinks WCM...do you ever warm up a bit and give it to LO? (I worry that this will create bad habits like waking up to nurse did, though.) </p> <p>DH has tried going in a rocking her with her seahorse which calms her down, but she's usually really restless and has a hard time going back to sleep since it's so close to her wakeup time. </p> <p>Any advice/tips would be great. Thanks! </p>