https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 16:39:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom/page/2#post-1622547 Thu, 08 May 2014 19:34:26 +0000 Grace 1622547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, DH's mom isn't alive anymore, but even if she was, she wouldn't live nearby. I don't do anything for my grandma because she's not my mother. My mom is coming over for dinner that day, and the rest of the day is for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom/page/2#post-1622485 Thu, 08 May 2014 19:23:42 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 1622485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: that's an awesome perspective! In our families it is all about the grandmothers and new grandmothers. I do get pampered on MD because DH does a lot of the chores that I usually do/we split up on weekends. And we usually plan something for the moms that I enjoy also. But we definitely have to schedule the day around our moms and grandmothers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1622478 Thu, 08 May 2014 19:21:21 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 1622478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually I make time to see my mom. This generally means doing something with MIL in the AM, and something with my mom in the PM. But this year we totally blanked and scheduled a vacation! Whoops! Well at least we aren't going to see one but not the other! Because we are spending money to be at the beach I told DH no meal out or gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1622309 Thu, 08 May 2014 18:44:56 +0000 BabyMats 1622309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This year is a little different because it's my first mother's day but it is also my birthday. So they day will be about me...haha we already took mil to dinner for mother's day but she is also living with us right now so she will be getting her mother's day too. My mom is too far so she gets a card and a gift for now </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1622189 Thu, 08 May 2014 18:04:22 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1622189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would like for it to be about me. My family understands and recognizes it, but my in-laws don't. We try to split it as best we can, but really, I'd like to tell them that it's MY day and I don't feel like driving all over town... especially since we have a 7 week old this time who hates the car. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1622152 Thu, 08 May 2014 17:42:45 +0000 wonderstruck 1622152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We celebrate all the moms, but I do feel like the main people it's for is the moms who are down in the nitty-gritty part of child-raising and are spending every day caring for their kids. And right now, for the first year ever, that will be me! But we certainly don't ignore our moms either - luckily it's pretty easy since they all live nearby.</p> <p>Last year no one got celebrated because I was in labor, haha. So that was an exception! This year my mom and I are going to the spa for a couple of hours, which is my gift to her and my DH's gift to me. While I'm gone DH is taking his mom out to lunch, and he always gets her some flowers for her garden. Then once we're both home it's all about whatever I feel like doing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1622123 Thu, 08 May 2014 17:31:43 +0000 luckypenny 1622123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do a brunch on Saturday and we spend Sunday alone as a family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1622100 Thu, 08 May 2014 17:14:40 +0000 photojane 1622100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't do anything for my grandma on mother's day &amp; Sadie doesn't do anything for our moms - we do those things on grandparent's day. Dan is working on mother's day, so we're celebrating on his day off tomorrow with a family day! :grin: I'll do dinner with my mom on Sunday night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1622098 Thu, 08 May 2014 17:13:41 +0000 Lindsay05 1622098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I should add that DH asked when Mother's day is. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1622072 Thu, 08 May 2014 16:57:29 +0000 dolphin 1622072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We celebrate all together! Usually brunch or dinner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1622068 Thu, 08 May 2014 16:51:23 +0000 swurlygurl 1622068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is what upsets me so much - I want to spend time with all the moms! I could care less about me, so that makes it a little easier. We're spending this Mother's Day driving 2+ hours to Western Kansas (wooo) to spend the day with DH's grandmother. It's really for her birthday, but it's going to be a big combo Mother's Day. </p> <p>But usually, it's been about DH's mom (since I don't live near my family). The kids make lunch or dinner for her. Usually grilling, so me and SIL can get in on a little of the pampered action. Then the men serve and clean up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1622061 Thu, 08 May 2014 16:47:18 +0000 Boheme 1622061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH hasn't said anything about what we're doing, so I don't know which way it will go. I am actually not sure if he knows Sunday is Mothers Day lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621997 Thu, 08 May 2014 16:10:30 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1621997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's all about my mom and my MIL. Blah...</p> <p>I would also love to have a day to just enjoy my little guy, but I always host Mother's day with my ILs, my parents (Oh, who by the way hate each other), my siblings and their SO's parents. So it's a full house AT my house and I'm usually doing all of the cooking/cleanup. My DH tries really hard to get me to relax, but it's definitely difficult when you're hosting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621979 Thu, 08 May 2014 16:02:41 +0000 Lindsay05 1621979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Last year, DH took LO to my MIL's and left me home alone. He figured I wanted a day to myself but really, I felt unloved lol. So apparently I want the day to be about me. So selfish! But I know my mom and MIL deserve some time as well :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621963 Thu, 08 May 2014 15:52:51 +0000 Running Elley 1621963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babyjmama: I agree!! Things have been so busy that I would LOVE a day just to enjoy my little family :(</p> <p>I'm actually kind of bummed about it but I feel rotten for it so I'm trying to focus on how thankful I am to have our moms to celebrate with. We're doing lunch on Mother's Day with my mom and dinner at MIL's house. I was hoping that we could have a "family day" (JUST DH, me and the kids) on Saturday but then we found out that BIL is graduating from college on Saturday so that day is going to (understandably) be all about him.</p> <p>A lady on the radio summed it up for me really well this morning. She said that she feels so busy in the day to day of everything with kids' activities, work, etc that she doesn't get time to just stop being "on" and just enjoy being a mom/her kids. I feel like MD is going to be just shuttling ourselves/kids around, trying to sneak in naps....when all I really want is to just relax and enjoy them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621892 Thu, 08 May 2014 15:19:03 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 1621892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My family (parents, sisters, sister's family, DH and LO) are all going to brunch. The "grandkids" got my mom framed pictures and my sisters and I got my mom a present. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621869 Thu, 08 May 2014 15:12:13 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1621869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've realized that one of the perks to living in another country is that the holidays sometimes don't coincide with each other. We celebrate American Mother's Day how I want because Swedish Mother's Day is 2 weeks later! Woot! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621775 Thu, 08 May 2014 14:44:10 +0000 Ra 1621775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We (me, DH, LO) are celebrating Mother's Day on Saturday by having a picnic in the park. I still want to keep the actual holiday about my mom. I don't know how many more Mother's Days I'm going to have with her, I don't want to look back one day and wish I'd spent more holidays with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621704 Thu, 08 May 2014 14:21:14 +0000 illumina 1621704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This year, my first as a Mum, we made it about our family (DH, LO &amp; I) and didn't see either of our Mums. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621685 Thu, 08 May 2014 14:13:50 +0000 Smurfette 1621685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always spend the day with the whole family. So I get to spend time with my grandmother, Mom, Aunts, etc. DH and I are making Sat for family time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621678 Thu, 08 May 2014 14:10:13 +0000 ShootingStar 1621678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents don't live near us so we won't see them, however they'll be with mom's family and we'll FaceTime so everyone can see the baby. </p> <p>As it turns out, this year we'll see MIL on Saturday and I guess Sunday will be "my" day. I was totally fine sharing, I didn't want MIL to not get to see one of her sons on Mother's day because it's my first mother's day and it had to be about me. But she's doing something with BIL so we'll see her Saturday. I have no idea what DH and I will do for me. Honestly, letting me sleep in and a card is sufficient. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621635 Thu, 08 May 2014 13:51:56 +0000 prettylizy 1621635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We sent flowers to both of our moms, and invited them to brunch with us. My folks are comings ILs will be with SIL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621621 Thu, 08 May 2014 13:47:25 +0000 Kimberlybee 1621621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually celebrate with different people on different days of that week. On the day of I am saving dinner time for myself with my own little family. My MIL is deceased but we usually have brunch with DH's aunt who helped raised him on Mother's Day. Saturday night we will spend it with my side. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621566 Thu, 08 May 2014 13:27:37 +0000 doodlepoodle 1621566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Love seeing all of the different plans! </p> <p>I honestly don't feel like I need the day to revolve around me, I just want a day home with my boys-not necessarily Mother's Day, but we've had SO much going on!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621555 Thu, 08 May 2014 13:24:40 +0000 travelgirl1 1621555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We live overseas so I get it to myself :) When we do eventually move back though, I imagine we'll have the morning at home and go see one of the grandmothers in the afternoon, and probably see the other one the night before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621526 Thu, 08 May 2014 13:16:07 +0000 JerricaBenton 1621526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom is the only other mama around. We're going to church and brunch with our little family, then I get some alone time, then we're having dinner with my parents and brother. When my grandmother was alive she'd come to dinner too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621502 Thu, 08 May 2014 13:05:44 +0000 MamaMoose 1621502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't live near either of our families so it will be all about me : )</p> <p>But quite honestly it will be all about last minute prep to leave town in the middle of next week! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621488 Thu, 08 May 2014 12:59:00 +0000 snowjewelz 1621488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since my grandmother (only one on both sides) is in another country, we don't usually do much for her; I'm sure my mom calls her. </p> <p>We've celebrated both mothers on different days, usually 1 Sat and 1 Sun. No one really cares so it's good.</p> <p>Next year will be my first mother's day as an actual mother, but things will stay the same; I'm not celebrating myself and DH doesn't need to celebrate me since I'm his wife, not mother! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621487 Thu, 08 May 2014 12:58:47 +0000 cheert16 1621487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I still don't feel like mothers day is for me- even though I have LO. I planned a brunch with my mom and dad and my little family (we are going to tell them we are expecting another) and we are seeing MIL on either Sat night for dinner or Sunday night for dinner. Its up to DH to make those plans with his mom since she hates me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/once-youre-a-mom#post-1621479 Thu, 08 May 2014 12:55:45 +0000 regberadaisy 1621479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never been a me me me person. So just because I'm a mom now doesn't mean our moms no longer exist. </p> <p>MIL is local again do Sunday we are spending half a day with her and the other half just the three of us. As long as I get a portion of the day just our own little family, I'm happy. </p> <p>My mom is 7 hours away. :( But next year for my mother's day gift I want to surprise her for Mother's daY </p>