https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 03:20:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc/page/2#post-616013 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 21:15:46 +0000 hazelnut 616013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: it is refreshing to hear the other side! I guess you should just be prepared for it to happen at any time and be patient! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc/page/2#post-615968 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 21:05:17 +0000 googly-eyes 615968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know others have said how long it can take, but I'm going to say the opposite: how quickly it can happen. I have no regrets but was shocked when we were blessed on our first month. Life changes instantly, and it never goes back! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc/page/2#post-615938 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 20:57:41 +0000 hazelnut 615938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for all these responses! This is super helpful as we are going to start trying this spring! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc/page/2#post-615620 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 19:11:41 +0000 MrsStormy 615620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hummusgirl: Agree. Everyones journey is different. When I told my Dr. we would be trying within a year he gave me great advice, don't pull the goalie until you are TOTALLY ready to be pregnant because it can happen that next day, but be prepared to be patient because it often takes a lot longer. I had seen so many people struggling with fertility I was totally convinced I wouldn't get pregnant the first month (or probably the first few months) and when I did it was a big surprise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc/page/2#post-615360 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 17:38:42 +0000 Sprite 615360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is such an interesting thread! Makes me almost think we should start trying sooner, since the amount of time it takes seems to be the most common thing people wished they knew.</p> <p>Dang it, but I really want to enjoy the included drinks on our TTC moon in 2 months, so I suppose I can wait until then. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-613845 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 11:17:39 +0000 whatsarahsaid 613845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say that I wish I knew that it would be OK to be 35 and TTC! For the longest time I stressed myself out thinking 35 was like the point of no return and if I didn't get pregnant by then the world would end! lol! YES...I have more things to consider but honestly most of the women I am super close with were/are 35+ when they had their first LO or were pregnant with their first. One of my closest friends just had her first baby at age 37. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-613250 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 01:26:18 +0000 lemondrop 613250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsScottish: omg, that is the sweetest thing ever! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-613249 Tue, 05 Mar 2013 01:25:27 +0000 lemondrop 613249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, it took us nearly a year for our BFP- that I'm fine with, I truly believe that we were waiting for the baby that was right for us. We were also able to gain more career and financial stability in that time. I'd wait for him a million times over again. </p> <p>I think the biggest thing I wish I knew was how to learn to give up control. TTC feels like you have so little control on everything, but it only gets worse during pregnancy and parenting. It is his world, we just live in it now ;) For much of pregnancy and the first year, I needed my husband's help with the house just to keep my head above water. Things didn't get done the way I would have done them- too bad for me, but at least they got done. </p> <p>From the time that stick changed color, the baby has dictated my world- if I threw up, what I felt like eating, how tired or not tired I was, and it hasn't changed since the day he decided to finally grace us with his presence. We may make the most careful plans, but if he's sick, tired, or in a crappy mood- it doesn't fly. I may have to work the next morning, but babies don't care. It hasn't always been easy, but it has been an absolute blast these past two years (from bfp) getting to know him. He was adorable as a baby, but he is amazing growing into a real person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-608090 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 12:59:31 +0000 MrsScottish 608090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>this is the text that I got from my DH this morning " just wanted you to know that more and more every day I want to be a dad. I cant explain it, but I do. I want to be a dad." I had the cheesiest grin on my face!! To funny on the timing considering that we have not talked about TTC in a few months. We are working opposite shifts today, but we are both off tomorrow, so are going to have a chat.<br /> Arg! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-608084 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 12:55:45 +0000 Grace 608084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I had known that once starting to TTC, I would become so in-tune with my body that I would pick up every single AF symptom known to woman. And that they would NOT turn out to be pregnancy symptoms! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-607721 Sat, 02 Mar 2013 09:58:50 +0000 Pirouette 607721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lately: hahaha. On a similar note, I wish I'd known how personally dh would take a bfn! He was almost in tears last night when I told him I felt like AF was coming and that it might take a long time. Made me feel like a failure :(</p> <p>I wish I'd known how much AF symptoms mirror pregnancy symptoms! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-607308 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 22:01:30 +0000 ninja 607308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I had started charting to begin with. Oh, and using the clear blue ovulation sticks (with the smiley). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-607305 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 22:00:54 +0000 Emsmems 607305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lately what you said about your DH is right on! I recently learned this too!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-607299 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 21:55:52 +0000 Lately 607299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@marionberry: Very well put. Concise and enlightening :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-606793 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 17:49:28 +0000 MrsH 606793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agreed on the "that it took so long" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-606789 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 17:47:40 +0000 hummusgirl 606789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like others said, be prepared for it to take longer than expected, but also for it to take no time at all. We'd been all prepared for it to take months, so we were taken off guard when it happened the first time we tried. Make sure you're ready no matter when you get your BFP! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-606516 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 16:02:11 +0000 MrsScottish 606516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The mini pill is progesterone only no estrogen. I have been on every normal BCP my doc could think of since I was 15, I did the shot, the mirena. Nothing worked for me or I had major side effects that I was not willing to live with. I have been on the mini pill now for 2 years and it is ok. Still some side effects but they are bearable. I can't wait to be off of them- but not to have a baby just to be off drugs!!<br /> We have had some interesting conversations on ttc, pregnancy and having a baby. My husband has very limited exposure and experiences with babies. I am interested to see how he does with our coming nephew. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-606400 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 15:32:13 +0000 marionberry 606400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh gosh so many things...so I picked 10 for now, lol.</p> <p>1) it can take forever - it did for me; 2) chart from the beginning - you become more educated than your doctor this way and can pinpoint problems like PCOS early; 3) if you've done everything you can and 5-6 months in you still aren't pregnant, see someone for help - personally I prefer REs but you can go to an OB first; 4) your need for a baby so badly can give your DH performance anxiety - be patient with him; 5) research all of the vitamins you need once pregnant and start taking them months before you want to try; 6) you can drink while you try - your baby isn't linked to your blood supply right away; 7) try to avoid ibuprofen and other nsaid pain relievers; 8) buy wondfo pregnancy tests until you actually get something that looks like a positive - don't waste your money on the expensive ones; 9) a friend or family member will undoubtedly reveal they're pregnant while you're trying, causing a lot of frustration or anxiety; and 10) you're never fully "prepared", so don't put it off for too long waiting on financial security or that 100% readiness to be a parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-606316 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 15:13:31 +0000 SweetMamaM 606316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have started sooner... And probably have eaten paleo/whole food from immediately after the wedding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-606281 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 15:05:14 +0000 chibee 606281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsScottish: I wish I had taken the time to truly know where DH and I stood on the issue of getting pregnant - he really wasn't ready, but said he was just to appease me, and it led to a lot of problems. We are finally on the same page I think - but we went through a lot of unnecessary stress before we got to this place. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-606124 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 14:24:24 +0000 Lately 606124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On the subject of husbands, I wish I knew that DH was not really interested in my journey of discovering how my body works (or doesn't), but that doesn't at all mean he doesn't really want a baby at least as much as I do. In fact, he's been talking about it for a long time.</p> <p>He's very excited about ttc, but any explicitly ttc-related talk really turns him off and creates performance anxiety. Apparently this is common enough, but I didn't anticipate it. I wish I had been more sensitive to the possibility that DH wants a more spontaneous, fun-filled ttc experience, and not the biology experiment I currently find fascinating and a little terrifying. It has created some tension between us off and on in the past few weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-605806 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 12:58:10 +0000 meganmp 605806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ditto what JustDarling said about enjoying being with your husband. Two years of timing when you will have sex and then laying with your hips up in the air really takes its toll. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-605802 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 12:57:23 +0000 Modern Daisy 605802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm, for me - nothing really. I was lucky that I allowed myself a period of 'preparation' for TTC in which time I stopped taking BC, found out I had PCOS, was referred to an RE, and tested for every little thing the RE could dream up. By the time all that was finished, I was ready to start TTC and had all the facts about what type of road it would be and why. I was lucky that it only took me two tries, but i do not think it would have been so easy if I weren't prepared. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-605778 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 12:48:48 +0000 justdarling 605778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with everyone who said to be prepared if it takes longer than expected. Also, trust your instincts when it comes to this. If you think something may be wrong, don't wait to see the doctor. I know that most people say to wait for a year of trying before seeking medical help, but really, if you think something is wrong, go to a doctor. </p> <p>Also, take time before TTC to really enjoy being with your husband. My DH and I took trips, went wine tasting, did a bunch of fun stuff. We really solidified our connection. TTC is hard on both of you and really can take a toll on your relationship. If you are not in a good place, TTC will make it worse. I saw this with my BIL and his wife. I made sure that this wouldn't happen with me and DH. DH is the biggest support that I have (we have been TTC for 15 months now) and I couldn't imagine going through this with anyone else. Even if you don't have issues getting your BFP and get it right away, you will treasure this time that you had with your DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-605732 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 12:30:31 +0000 Caly 605732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @Bluestriped Bee, that it can take a long time &amp; infertility suck. Hopefully, it won't for you!<br /> Like @crumbs said, don't bother with the pregnancy tests til you're late, they will just depress you. The Clearblue Fertility Monitor is very helpful to use though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-605731 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 12:30:24 +0000 Alivoo01 605731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As others have said, I was surprised at how long it would take to become pregnant. Everyone I knew got knocked up within the first 2 months so I didn't think it'd take us close to a year to actually have a sticky baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-605720 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 12:25:17 +0000 fussygal 605720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MRSSCOTTISH I've never heard of the mini pill! What is the difference? Just lower levels than regular pills? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-605717 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 12:23:16 +0000 alayaya 605717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: Me too. Exactly that. </p> <p>1 year later and still not pregnant. I wish I knew how long this would take us. We would have started earlier. It doesn't help that we're in our late 20s and totally healthy. Unexplained infertility is the worst </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-605711 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 12:22:20 +0000 Foodnerd81 605711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you are totally right to enjoy your "selfish" time! If that's what you want right now- enjoy it for a few more months! </p> <p>I just wanted to know things that were unpredictable- like how long would it take to adjust to being off the pill, how long would it take to get pregnant? But not everyone does have trouble- you are right that you have to be ready for it to happen right away OR take a while. I went off the pill and started charting a few months before ttc which helped put my mind at ease. Cycle returned to normal in less than two months and once we ttc, it took about two months of trying. I was 31 and very nervous it would take longer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/one-thing-you-wish-you-knew-before-ttc#post-605708 Fri, 01 Mar 2013 12:19:08 +0000 MrsTiz 605708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I knew it would take forever, and make you jealous and grumpy.</p> <p>I used to be so excited when other people got KU. Now? I have to fake it, I am so jealous I can't find happiness. </p>