https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 21:21:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/5#post-2447005 Tue, 02 Feb 2016 22:22:34 +0000 SweetiePie 2447005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Astro Bee: I had a really really hard time with the newborn months. In hindsight maybe a little ppd? I really needed some time to recharge my batteries each week so that I wasn't a resentful, emotional mess. And I had a lot of anxiety around taking him out of the house so I truly was a hermit. So that was the impetus for getting a "nanny". I felt fine by 6 months but it's still really nice to have that time at 17 months since he really keeps my hands full. I truly did feel like it was time to get rid of her at one point (i.e. I didn't need the help anymore) but I actually felt bad because I know she needs the hours and she adores my son. So I'm keeping her till he's in preschool.<br /> Anyways, my point is, she was hired out of necessity but it's become a very nice luxury. And I think I would do it for any subsequent LO's.<br /> Good luck going back to work! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/5#post-2446971 Tue, 02 Feb 2016 21:44:01 +0000 Astro Bee 2446971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: Yes, exactly! I'm going back to work in 2 months, and am looking at licensed home daycare, but my family back home asked if we were thinking of hiring a babysitter, in essence, a nanny. If we ever went that route, I don't think I could ever refer to her as such to my aunts; they already think some of my ideas are high-falutin' - babywearing, cloth diapers, etc.</p> <p>And someone coming in twice a week sounds heavenly! I would love to have someone come in during the week, even for one day, so I could step out of the house for a haircut or clothes shopping (both are much needed right now) or any of the things I can't manage with my super active little guy in tow. As it is, I have to schedule things with DH for the weekends. It's a little late now, but I will remember it for future LOs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2446928 Tue, 02 Feb 2016 20:50:25 +0000 sunny 2446928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I've seen/heard of almost everything listed except I've never heard of anyone refer to themselves as being on "team green". If they don't want to share the sex of the baby (or they don't know), they'll say "it's a surprise". </p> <p>I can't say that I've had actual conversations regarding things like anywhere chairs, matching stockings, etc. but I've seen them at various friend's homes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2446919 Tue, 02 Feb 2016 20:41:20 +0000 SweetiePie 2446919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Astro Bee: I think saying "nanny" is confusing too. Nanny does sound pretty high brow, but it usually just means babysitter! I have a woman who comes 2 days a week and those are days I schedule doc appts, get my hair cut, grocery shop, or even do housework without my toddler hanging on me. And yeah, sometimes a mani pedi and lunch, because parenting is hard :-) But she still calls herself (and everyone in my city refers to it as) a nanny. I feel weird saying it to my friends and family from home because nanny implies to me that the individual is a primary care giver. Though I am still very much his primary care giver, even on days she's here.<br /> I think it's another example of something pretty basic having a fancy name. But I don't think that's HB, I think it might be a regional thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2446895 Tue, 02 Feb 2016 20:25:42 +0000 FaithFertility 2446895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: Yes! I found HB searching for IF information! It seriously was a saving grace at a time I felt all alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2446893 Tue, 02 Feb 2016 20:24:12 +0000 BandDmommy 2446893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before HB, I knew nothing about infertility treatments. I also didn't realize how common miscarriages are. It has really opened my eyes and hopefully I have become more sensitive as a result. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2446890 Tue, 02 Feb 2016 20:21:54 +0000 FaithFertility 2446890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: ditto!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2446674 Tue, 02 Feb 2016 16:38:50 +0000 mrsjd 2446674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Until HB, I had no idea that adult people actually used the PNP method as a form of birth control. Took me a while to figure out the abbreviation here, actually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2446641 Tue, 02 Feb 2016 16:20:47 +0000 daniellemybelle 2446641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: &lt;&lt;For me, almost all my IRL friends consider finances very heavily when deciding how many children to have, so to me it's a very HB idea that you're basically a rich heartless asshole if you think contributing to your 401k and a 529 for the kids you already have should take precedence over having a third kid. I'm in finance though so people tend to ask my opinion on these types of things so I probably know a lot more about the finances of my friends and family than the average person.&gt;&gt;</p> <p>Hmm, that's not the impression I got, or what I meant at all when I said that I think HB is more affluent than my own circle. By affluence, I mean focus on brands and financial status. So maybe affluence is the wrong word to use but I was going for something neutral... :happy: </p> <p>For example, we have a PBK Anywhere chair (it was a gift) but they are definitely not a Big Deal with anyone I know offline! The OP asked if there was something in your life that seems to be "only on HB" and not IRL. The discussions of anything high-end or brand name only happen here for me. IRL, if I am discussing shopping with other moms, it is about getting good deals at Target. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444535 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 11:17:25 +0000 snowjewelz 2444535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: At the time I was pretty new so I wasn't really sure what was happening and it didn't affect me. I def remember Mr. Bee having to step in, and there was a time when a lot of people left. I don't even know what it was about anymore! </p> <p>I'm seeing major drama unfold in my local babywearing group right now! It's craaaazy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444528 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 11:14:20 +0000 josina 2444528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: definitely; I have one friend I talk to a lot about our kiddo's and she makes the comment a lot about how I know so much more because of the blog I read. ;)<br /> At the same time I have to be careful about just assuming that other people know what I do!<br /> @snowjewelz: I think I missed out on the drama in the past! Glad to hear it's changed though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444517 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 11:06:32 +0000 snowjewelz 2444517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A lot of my IRL friends always say I am such a great parent, in that I seem to know what I'm doing, I'm comfortable and confident in my decisions, etc. While it's probably 50% flattery , I attribute so much of my confidence to HB! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444510 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 11:01:54 +0000 LovelyPlum 2444510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: LOL, I just accidentally did this to my sister. WHOOPS :silly:</p> <p>And I agree with you and @josina: and @runnerd: I really love all that I've learned and seen. I think it helps me be a better parent and a better listener. I never knew there was so much to know about TTC, birth, and parenting in general! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444509 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 11:01:13 +0000 LovelyPlum 2444509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: I think your second paragraph is spot-on. The research thing is one of those things I love about HB, but it's not always good for my overly-obsessive brain. Sometimes, good enough is good enough :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444499 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 10:49:48 +0000 snowjewelz 2444499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: YES! I think drama here &amp; there are unavoidable. I feel like we've been more civil to one another amidst disagreements recently! It's that, or the drama I saw "back in the day" was reaaaaally bad... </p> <p>I def got over excited when a friend was TTC-ing last year and I started going off on OPKs and charting and she was like..........? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444494 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 10:45:11 +0000 runnerd 2444494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: @josina: even if we get a little snarky on this thread here and there, I think we can all agree that we probably fall into a "knowledge nerd" category compared to the general public. I am always trying to find ways to not sound like a total info-junky nerd when trying to explain to people IRL where I learned something or read it when diving into my info I have to share :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444489 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 10:42:21 +0000 snowjewelz 2444489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: So well said! Ditto! :happy: </p> <p>Seriously, my friends are confused why I know so much. A close friend is going through IUIs right now and I am like babbling off about all this stuff and she's like, how do you know all this?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444354 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 09:30:56 +0000 josina 2444354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Extended rear-facing car seats for sure... brought this up among my friends and they were all surprised this was a thing! (as well as one friend who switched to ff at 6 months with both girls!)</p> <p>While this thread has gotten from where @FaithFertility: intended it; I have to say I LOVE the Bee because of the diversity, etc. I would be on the lower end of the wealth spectrum on here, but I appreciate all view points, opinions, etc. and will live vicariously through those who are able to buy the 'name brand' baby clothes. ;)<br /> I do feel sooo much more educated about everything because of the bee and I'm glad I have this place to turn to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444322 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 09:18:16 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2444322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think most things I know "someone" that has done most of these things but my friend group seems to very widely from wealthy to crunchy and everything in between. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444302 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 09:01:15 +0000 Truth Bombs 2444302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that I don't think HB is particularly affluent. Every time we have one of these threads it's mainly people complaining about affluence, so that seems to be the sentiment of the majority. For me, almost all my IRL friends consider finances very heavily when deciding how many children to have, so to me it's a very HB idea that you're basically a rich heartless asshole if you think contributing to your 401k and a 529 for the kids you already have should take precedence over having a third kid. I'm in finance though so people tend to ask my opinion on these types of things so I probably know a lot more about the finances of my friends and family than the average person. </p> <p>I would say that HB just tends to be much more researched and methodical about every little aspect of parenting. My IRL friends tend to go with the flow more, or just talk with each other when we need advice instead of reading 9 studies and 12 books by experts. For example, Following a potty training "method" is not something I've seen from anyone outside of HB. I don't think being researched is a bad thing at all, but I do think the women of HB put a lot more stress on themselves about doing parenting "right". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444301 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 09:00:46 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2444301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What an active thread!</p> <p>Only on HB for the most part- TG, not having a baby shower, SAHM, extended BF, alot of "crunchy" stuff- although when actively seeking IRL I can find it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444283 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 08:43:37 +0000 JoJoGirl 2444283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Obsession with LO fashion, honestly. I'm always surprised here by threads about 'brands' and whatnot. I don't think it has anything to do with wealth because my network and friends span the socio-economic spectrum. For us, I'm not throwing money at something that's going to a) fit for 5 minutes and b) get destroyed at daycare/on the playground/by art projects anyway? My friends on FB are constantly exchanging literally trash bags full of kids' clothes they don't use anymore for subsequent kids.</p> <p>Otherwise, not much surprises me! CD is not unusual around here, I have no idea about car seats, and I know moms who run the gamut from SAH to work 80 hr weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444261 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 08:16:01 +0000 looch 2444261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: I know! Barnes and Noble has a whole table of coloring books, so I feel like someone must be buying them, but then I talk to the moms around me and they're like what are you talking about? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444236 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 07:52:38 +0000 Nutella 2444236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Main one I notice is the TTC world is definitely sooooo different here than in my real world! Just not a topic my friends really chat about until AFTER the baby is conceived. If that! Also...miscarriage, troubles conceiving &amp; infertility. A huge eye-opener here as to just how common it all is, I would have had no idea otherwise. Sometimes I feel sad that the innocence has gone, but mostly grateful that I can appreciate the good things when they do happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444220 Mon, 01 Feb 2016 07:32:46 +0000 Adira 2444220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Extended rear-facing is definitely NOT a thing here. Everyone thinks I'm CRAZY for still having Xander rear-facing at almost 3! I don't even know anyone that lasted more than a few months past 1. Add in no puffy-coats, and now I'm not only crazy, but I'm cruel and my kids are freezing to death in the car! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444077 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 22:04:49 +0000 catomd00 2444077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Between DHs large family and out diverse circle of friends, there's nothing I can really think of that's big on Hb that i don't know of at least a handful of people do in real life. Even my local moms group, which is pretty homogenous as far as lifestyle and background goes, is pretty diverse when it<br /> Comes to parenting stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2444029 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 21:05:38 +0000 Reese 2444029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Puffy jackets in car seats - people always look at me like I have 3 heads.</p> <p>@yoursilverlining: Yes. This. It makes me chuckle :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2443945 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 20:07:36 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 2443945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: We can chat...expecting number 3 and definitely not well off.</p> <p>I feel like I've seen it all, but only because I've lived in three different places with totally different demographics since having children. I do like the opportunity to discuss topics on HB that I can't or don't really come up IRL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2443833 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 18:03:19 +0000 Happygal 2443833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: @Bao: I saw this and laughed. </p> [attach=2722/16/o1uapj.337x600.Screenshot_2016-01-31-17-57-42.png] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/only-on-hb/page/4#post-2443831 Sun, 31 Jan 2016 17:57:27 +0000 MCD919 2443831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A lot of what I see on HB is pretty close to my real life experience, but there are individual differences and preferences just like on here. Some people I know EBF, some formula feed. Some practice attachment parenting, others don't. Some spend a lot on clothes, others bargain shop, etc. My sister had 3 natural births (2 were water births), and is definitely on the crunchier side of the spectrum. My background is in child development, but some of the parenting books/ websites mentioned on here I haven't seen before, so those have been really helpful! Also, I didn't know much at all about ttc before reading the boards on WB and here, so I'm grateful for that info, too! </p>