https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 21:43:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2849583 Sat, 06 Oct 2018 12:12:47 +0000 Silva 2849583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>in the absence of family or a close friend watching the kids, I"d send my husband alone. But we have family that does this regularly for us, so I"ve never really had to consider hiring a babysitter for that long. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2849573 Sat, 06 Oct 2018 08:30:03 +0000 JCCovi 2849573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nana87: We use Urban Sitter whenever we’re trying to find an out-of-town sitter. You can see reviews and if groups your in or people you know have used them before. I’ve found the quality of people interviewed pretty high compared to sites like care.com </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2849533 Fri, 05 Oct 2018 19:02:12 +0000 maddyz 2849533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I could afford it I would totally leave my kids with their regular siter in NYC and head to boston. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2849334 Thu, 04 Oct 2018 20:02:25 +0000 lamariniere 2849334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If possible, I would leave the kids overnight with a sitter. I don’t think this is necessarily the most expensive option. If you brought them with you, you would still need to pay a sitter and you may potentially have to spend more on a larger room for everyone plus transport (if you aren’t driving), food, energy spent on logistics, etc. Also, it’s such a quick trip, maybe you could see it could see it as a mini getaway for you and your DH. Otherwise, send your DH alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2849331 Thu, 04 Oct 2018 19:54:12 +0000 dolphin 2849331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would leave my kids with family overnight but I wouldn’t trust a paid sitter. If I don’t have family around then DH can go alone if he wants to. If not, I would send a generous gift and I’m sure his friend would understand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2849125 Thu, 04 Oct 2018 01:21:31 +0000 bees_knees 2849125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’d either send DH alone...or neither of you attend and just send a generous gift. My thought is that if you want a kid free wedding (which is totally fine!!) you have to be ok with friends that have kids not attending 🤷🏻‍♀️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2849067 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 18:24:37 +0000 nana87 2849067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: @looch: yeah the invite to the rehearsal dinner we received is only addressed to dh and I, and we won’t go regardless since we will either drive up Friday after work if we take the girls or sat am if we don’t. </p> <p>Dh and I were just talking about it and the logistics seem so complicated and expensive, we’re leaning towards him going alone </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2849038 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 16:35:58 +0000 Foodnerd81 2849038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: with a black tie optional wedding in Boston, I wouldn’t assume that any of it was family friendly. Most rehearsals and brunches around weddings in Boston that I’ve been to weren’t really family things- maybe like a niece or nephew but that’s it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2849014 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 15:26:33 +0000 nana87 2849014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: yes to everything you wrote about what will happen if we used a sitter in Boston--it's a long drive (plus right before Thanksgiving, when we are also driving a long distance...) and we'd be cramped into a hotel room, I'd be nervous about how they're dealing w a stranger, etc. Major cons for the pro/con list-- thanks for bringing that up!</p> <p>@looch: good points! dh says he doesn't mind going alone--he'd rather do that than have both of us skip--but he'd def prefer us go together </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2848962 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 13:58:14 +0000 looch 2848962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would be important to me to make sure my husband could attend in the way he wanted to...so I would begin there. If he's fine going alone, I would do that, but if he felt like he wanted to make a weekend out of it, I would look into going up for the weekend, maybe participating in something like the rehearsal dinner , day after brunch as a family, not sure about the ceremony (given that the wedding is black tie optional, I might skip this with small kids) and then just sending my husband to the reception alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2848933 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 12:47:26 +0000 Foodnerd81 2848933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it’s a sitter in NY that you know and trust and has handled your kids before, I would definitely do that. NYC to Boston is a close enough trip that it will be pretty easy to keep it to 24 hours, and it would be so much more enjoyable for you to go away together without the kids. If you brought them, you’d be nervous leaving them with a strange sitter, worried about what time you get back, sharing a hotel room with them, and dealing with the kids during the travel time. I’m sure the kids would have more fun at home with the sitter too. </p> <p>My second choice would be have just your husband go and you stay home. If you don’t care that much about the wedding I think that would be fine too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2848931 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 12:41:20 +0000 nana87 2848931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: wow, that's so nice to have that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2848927 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 12:24:24 +0000 kiddosc 2848927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nana87: I have watched my best friend's kiddo a few times overnight and she's taken mine for evenings out. The kids entertain each other and it's not a huge inconvenience. If we're going to just be sitting at home that night anyway, throwing another kid or two in the mix doesn't impact us much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2848925 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 12:23:33 +0000 nana87 2848925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JCCovi: I haven't tried Urban Sitter, I was just trying to go by word of mouth through other parents I know there, or one of the groomsmen's wives is a Kindergarten teacher so I thought she might have teacher friends who would be interested, but no luck so far. Have you had luck with it before? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2848924 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 12:21:31 +0000 nana87 2848924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: yeah, friends seems like a really big ask since it'd be over 24 hours (sat early morning-sun afternoon at the earliest)! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2848923 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 12:20:07 +0000 JCCovi 2848923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would find a sitter in Boston. Have you tried using Urban Sitter? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2848921 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 12:15:28 +0000 snowjewelz 2848921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nana87: If you go daycare teacher route I'd totally just leave them then if you're okay with the cost! I feel like it's a lot to ask of a friend unless said friend is a very close friend AND can handle the kids no problem. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2848918 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 12:11:06 +0000 nana87 2848918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: hmm interesting about asking a friend, I hadn't thought of that... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2848916 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 12:08:38 +0000 nana87 2848916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: we could ask mil or sil, but they'd be coming from out of town too (live in DC) and I just...prefer not to deal with the strings attached of asking for favors, lol. we've asked them for help before and it becomes way too complicated or causes drama. I don't know who a paid sitter locally would be; we've asked friends and gotten no leads. If we leave the kids in NYC, we have a couple fantastic sitters who used to be our daycare teachers so definitely can handle both of our girls at once, plus our girls are really comfortable with them. I know one of our sitters has traveled with other families out of town before, but I'm sure it'd be really expensive. We also could look into her coming with us, but that'd be expensive too...I'm not sure which would cost more, actually? I'd have to ask her! If she came with we'd have to pay for an extra hotel room too, so prob more even though she'd only be watching them during the actual wedding... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2848915 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 12:07:57 +0000 kiddosc 2848915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first choice is option 1, but I would have a friend watch the kids and include a gift card for pizza that night. If there was absolutely no one to watch the kids, then I would send DH alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2848910 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 11:59:52 +0000 snowjewelz 2848910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted DH goes alone, generous gift, you stay home. </p> <p>So no family can babysit, the only possibility is paid sitter? I mean, if you've used this person before and he/she is good with both of them at the same time and can feed, put to bed and everything, I would consider going. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/oot-wedding-wwyd#post-2848906 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 11:50:44 +0000 nana87 2848906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The other thread about traveling away from a nursing kiddo got me thinking...I'm really torn about what to do for a wedding we're invited to in about 6 weeks and we need to RSVP soon. I'd love others' opinions!</p> <p>We're in NYC, the wedding is in Boston and it's an adults-only, black tie optional, evening wedding. </p> <p>Background info: the groom was one of dh's college friends who I had never met before our own wedding, but then let dh and I live with him rent-free for over a month when I was traveling for dissertation research (he had an extra room in his house), though that was about 5 years ago and I've still only seen him once since (dh has seen him more, but we don't live in the same place. So I don't know him well but he's been extremely generous in the past to us.</p> <p>Normally one or both my parents travel with us for weddings but can't this time,</p> <p>Wwyd? See poll below :)</p> <p>ETA: our girls will be 4.5 and 21months. 21mo still nursing now but can go without it</p> <p>ETA2: added an option for bringing our sitter with us to Boston; not sure if this would cost more or less than having her watch them in NYC though </p>