https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Jul 2026 05:41:41 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060758 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 12:34:36 +0000 looch 2060758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you're fine to combine for family parties at any and all ages, but when it comes down to friends, at a certain point, the oldest might not want the youngest and their friends at their party. I would guess by kindergarten they'd start to want their own thing, or as soon as they see their friends getting their own party...peer pressure, you know? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060696 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 12:06:44 +0000 LuLu Mom 2060696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think when they are this young go for it, but any older your oldest could get upset, so enjoy while you can but eventually you will have to move to separate parties. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060639 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 11:49:22 +0000 Mrs. Train 2060639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This year Lilly wanted sleeping beauty and James wanted Phineas and Ferb. When they were 4 and 1 we did Peter Pan and the fairies. Then when they were 2 and 5 we did Spiderman and the Little Mermaid. </p> [attach=2123/15/njik2b.398x600.DSC_1126.JPG] [attach=2123/15/njik2c.600x398.DSC_1121.JPG] [attach=2123/15/njik2e.600x398.DSC_1029.JPG] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060620 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 11:45:48 +0000 birdofafeather 2060620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Yeah, 6 weeks apart isn't close together in my eyes either! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060600 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 11:38:29 +0000 BunnyDragon 2060600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kids' birthdays are 9 weeks apart. I threw a joint party for their 2nd and 3rd birthdays last year. I'm going to do a joint birthday party as long as I can! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060562 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 11:21:07 +0000 MamaBehr 2060562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My two oldest have birthdays about 14 days apart. For the 1st and 3rd birthdays, they were together, for the 2nd and 4th birthdays, they were separate (but the 2 year old party was super small) and this year, 3rd and 5th they will be together again. This will probably be the last year of a combined party, since DD will be in Kindergarten next year.<br /> We do separate decorations (the first and third party was cowboy and princesses, this year is its firemen and ladybugs) and separate cakes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060548 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 11:16:19 +0000 Mrs. Train 2060548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My oldest and youngest are two weeks apart and we do a joint party, they each get to pick their theme and they each get their own cake in the flavor they pick. They also each get to pick some friends to invite. We have a huge family and they want to be there for both so I would hate to ask them to come two weeks in a row plus Halloween is right in the middle of the two so it is already a busy time. I will post some pictures when I can get out to the computer. </p> <p>I also celebrate each birthday just with our immediate family. On their birthday they get to pick their dinner and small dessert plus that's when they get their presents from us so they get to open something by themselves on their own day.</p> <p>My other two are twins and share a party so I think my oldest and youngest think it's fine. The twins share a party then they share a party. Maybe it just seems normal to them? I think as they get older and maybe choose an outing instead of a party then it will be different but last year at 6 and 3 they didn't mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060413 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 10:03:52 +0000 Anagram 2060413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's fine to have joint parties, maybe every other year or so? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060412 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 10:02:43 +0000 Mrs. Bee 2060412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would do it together at that age. we went to a joint 2 and 5 year old party this weekend and it was a blast! they had separate cakes though - hello kitty and lego. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060411 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 10:01:55 +0000 Smurfette 2060411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have separate parties. 6 weeks isn't that close together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060406 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 09:58:55 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2060406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Throw them together, but separate cakes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060386 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 09:40:44 +0000 regberadaisy 2060386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think at 1 &amp; 3 it's totally fine to do it together! Maybe the bigger cake is for the 3yr old and smash cake for 1 year old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060378 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 09:37:40 +0000 mrs. bird 2060378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we have a lot of close birthdays in our families and everyone has said that they resented having joint parties as kids. my mom was born on my uncle's birthday and i think taking away his only child status and his special day had a negative impact on their relationship as kids, he used to call her his worst birthday present. mr. bird and his brother are a wk apart and both were envious that their sister got to have her own birthday celebration while they had to share. while they're still too little to understand, i don't think it matters, but once they start going to other birthdays where someone gets their own special day, i would do one for each so they don't feel slighted. doesn't need to be a huge, expensive event, but something where it's all about them and they get to feel like the center of attention for a day. a month and a half isn't that close and if you did one the wk end before the birthday itself and one the wk end after, the parties could end up two months apart which isn't close at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060361 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 09:26:58 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2060361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: dang it, I better prioritize my list of themes. I was hoping I could do joint until they were like 12 and 9! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060355 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 09:25:05 +0000 autumnlove 2060355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: 4 or 5? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060349 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 09:23:10 +0000 mrsjyw 2060349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think when they're young, joint parties are great! I would do a separate one for the one year, but that's just a customary thing for us to do in our culture.</p> <p>DH's bff's two sons are a week apart birth date wise and they've done joint and separate as his oldest son got older/school age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060348 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 09:23:00 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2060348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: at what age do you think they will start to care? I've already got a huge list of joint themes I want to use! </p> <p>Pirates and mermaids<br /> Mickey and Minnie<br /> Princess and Knights<br /> Cowboy/cowgirl (woody and Jessie)<br /> Butterfly and Bugs </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060340 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 09:16:22 +0000 autumnlove 2060340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is fine at their age but I always hated it when I was old enough to care. My bro's day is 3 days after mine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060311 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 09:00:27 +0000 mamimami 2060311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been to one. The only things I think you should keep in mind are 1. presents (do you want people to bring them? The one I went to said no presents -- I think they thought it would be a lot to ask for two presents?) and the other is, how do you make sure the kids are equally represented? The one I went to seemed like one kid's birthday with another kid added at the last minute (the younger one of course). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060306 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 08:58:38 +0000 chopsuey 2060306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We went to a joint bday party on Saturday. Was fun!<br /> My friend's kids are 2 and 4 (january and February birthdays).<br /> She threw them a joint party last year too. </p> <p>I would do a separate 1st birthday, but I think a joint is ok too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060298 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 08:55:14 +0000 Alivoo01 2060298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My brother and I shared the same birthday although we're 4 years apart. I wasn't a fan, but we had our own friends hanging out so it was okay. At the age of 1 and 3, I'd totally do joint to save planning and logistics headaches. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060297 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 08:55:05 +0000 blackbird 2060297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While they're this little, I would. When they're older, I don't think it'll go over as well. My kids will be about 4 weeks apart, but I plan on separating them out a bit. Maybe one a week early and one a week late or something </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060296 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 08:54:27 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2060296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kids are a week apart.</p> <p>For this first year (1st birthday and 4th birthday) I think I am going to do something separate. The 4 year old party isn't going to be a big deal though. Maybe swimming at the local pool with some snacks, dinner and cake at home with family. </p> <p>After this year (2nd and 5th birthdays) I will do them together for a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060292 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 08:52:29 +0000 MrsBananaGrabber 2060292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My brother and I had birthdays less than a month apart, and the one time we had a "joint birthday party" we both hated it. Your 1 year old won't notice or care right now, but the 3 year old might. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060284 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 08:49:21 +0000 lamariniere 2060284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My two LOs are one month apart. So far we have done separate celebrations, but they have just been family celebrations and not actual parties. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060280 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 08:46:59 +0000 Peasinapod 2060280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@GrapeCrush: agreed! Right now I'm sure joint is fine, but when they're older and have different friends it might not work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060272 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 08:42:58 +0000 GrapeCrush 2060272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My brothers birthday is 12 days after mine...and we hated having joint parties. I completely understand why my mom did it, but we would have liked separate ones. BUT...at 1 and 3, I didn't give a crap...I say until they are a little older and can really ask for what he wants do them together :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060265 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 08:38:26 +0000 Mamaof2 2060265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do them together! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opinions-on-joint-birthday-parties#post-2060263 Mon, 09 Feb 2015 08:37:48 +0000 stargal 2060263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>D and p birthdays are 6 weeks apart, should we throw their birthday parties together or separate? They will be turning one and three. My thought was that people will not want to go to two birthday parties so close together. </p>