https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 17:25:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828553 Thu, 14 Jun 2018 20:00:51 +0000 lady baltimore 2828553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was always naked around us when we were growing up (she even startled a teenage friend or two over the years! :silly:), and she and I will still see one another naked from time to time. I can't remember ever seeing my father naked. </p> <p>LO is only 2.5, but she showers with both my husband and me, and we won't be the ones to cut that off. If she wants more privacy some day, she can have it, but I'm not going to go out of my way to cover myself up around the house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828551 Thu, 14 Jun 2018 19:48:40 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2828551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mama Bird: +1, feel the exact same! I always feel like kind of a weirdo because I LIKE being dressed!! Haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828518 Thu, 14 Jun 2018 15:09:40 +0000 snowjewelz 2828518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jennlin821: I can actually see that the comfortable with nudity actually complimenting discouraging sex at a young age! I wonder if sometimes kids are just SO curious about bodies/nudity and part of that motivates having sex at a young age. Of course, there are SO many other factors but I can see how because being naked/comfortable is nbd in the household, it doesn't leave curious kids even MORE curious... Very interesting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828405 Thu, 14 Jun 2018 09:05:10 +0000 Mamaof2 2828405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I follow my kids lead - I could care less if I am changing and my kids see me but DS started to prefer privacy (me seeing him and vice versa) around age 8.5. DD who is 7 likes to change in private but will let me see her naked when helping with bath/shower.</p> <p>DD will walk in on me when I am peeing but DS will not.</p> <p>DS will NOT let his little sister see him naked - he locks the door!</p> <p>My DH has never been comfortable with DD seeing him naked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828403 Thu, 14 Jun 2018 08:59:39 +0000 Sams Mom 2828403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jennlin821: I have 2 sisters, I totally get the one in the shower, one at the vanity, and one on the toilet thing. We remodeled part of the house when we were all in high school/middle school and that took us down to 1 bathroom for 3 teenage girls, and mom &amp; dad. My dad (vocational teacher) would wake up at the buttcrack of dawn to get ready, then he would wake all 3 of us up to get ready for school. He tells everyone once our feet hit the floor he was peeing outside for the rest of the day. :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828376 Thu, 14 Jun 2018 08:22:59 +0000 Ajsmommy 2828376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jennlin821: I like the thought that naked/underwear does not equal sex. Thanks for sharing.</p> <p>I find it odd too that I'm so ok with it since I came from a so not naked house..... and I wonder if it's odd that I want my house/kids to feel more free about it.... but I guess it is what it is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828368 Thu, 14 Jun 2018 08:09:08 +0000 jennlin821 2828368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm always on the extreme end of these conversations, so here is my input! </p> <p>I'm a dancer and so is my mother, so from an early age to now (i'm 32) we are very comfortable changing in front of each other. When we go shopping, we always go into the same dressing room. </p> <p>Growing up a family of 4, we had one full bath, which was upstairs where everyone got ready together. Someone was showering, while someone was on the toilet and someone was using the vanity (and someone else usually frustrated because they needed to use one of those things!) </p> <p>We also did many day trips to lakes, with few bathrooms. So while I stopped seeing my dad fully nude around 7/8ish, I would still see his butt as he whipped off his shorts and put on his bathing suit while facing the car. This is probably the same for my brother. </p> <p>I felt comfortable with my dad seeing me in my underwear all through high school, the embarrassment was more on his end.</p> <p>I should also add that I did not grow up in a sex positive household, it was a very strict house with expectations of no sex until marriage. So this could present as a bit of a contradiction, but boils down to we should be comfortable in our bodies in their natural state and naked/underwear does not equal sex. </p> <p>I hope this helps from the extremely comfortable side! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828336 Thu, 14 Jun 2018 06:30:13 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2828336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Littlebit7: my LO is two and he’s never been semi or completely naked in public. If we are gathered at someone’s home we have always gone to a private area to change him, if changing in our car is an alternative to using a public restroom we will do that. Even when he plays with his water table in our backyard he had a shirt on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828335 Thu, 14 Jun 2018 06:25:45 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2828335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are not a naked family and it’s always been a big deal to even see LO’s exposed belly even as a little baby. That being said we change in front of him, shower in front of him because he has free reign of the house. LO takes showers with me and accompanies me to the restroom. He’s aware we have different private parts. I’ll probably stop showering with him once I’m confident he won’t skip in the shower and I’ll probably exert some need for privacy in the bathroom once he’s potty trained. Right now use my potty needs to teach him about the potty and hygiene. I can’t imagine still changing in front of him at 7 or 8, but the moment he says eww about my naked body that will stop too. I refuse to let him body shame me. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828327 Thu, 14 Jun 2018 05:56:52 +0000 catgirl 2828327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is 3.5. We don't hang out naked or spend a lot of time naked but she sees us both when we get out of the shower or are changing. We never intentionally hide. No immediate plans to stop for either of us. If/when anyone is uncomfortable (me, DH, or DD) we will stop. Sometimes she wants me in the bathroom with her when she goes and other times she asks for privacy. We try to respect her requests. </p> <p>When I visit my mom I'll hang out the bathroom with her while she showers or she'll change in front of me. Doesn't bother me at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828324 Thu, 14 Jun 2018 05:18:16 +0000 Littlebit7 2828324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: yeah very true. It’s still super scanty bikinis here and topless adults but seems like parents are maybe more conscious of sun exposure in their kids? I can’t tell. Either way I don’t really have a problem with nakedness. There was just way less child and tween nakedness than I was expecting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828318 Thu, 14 Jun 2018 02:02:14 +0000 lamariniere 2828318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Littlebit7: I think this is really cultural/regional, and I follow local cues. Where we live now, the locals are much more modest (many kids and women wear long sleeves and swimming leggings here, and I actually do too sometimes for sun protection, whereas before in Europe, it was a lot of scanty bikinis, top optional). But with topless beaches in some places in Europe, I wouldn't bat an eyelash at a tween going topless, and I imagine the parents would also not allow their child to walk around like that if it weren't ok. The city beach we used to go to had a whole nudist section, and it was actually very family-oriented, so my view is, when in Rome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828315 Thu, 14 Jun 2018 01:44:09 +0000 Littlebit7 2828315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Along the same vein...at what age would you no longer feel comfortable with your child changing in public or being fully or semi naked? We are living in Europe and while I’ve seen less naked children at beaches than I expected, there are still some. We saw a girl, probably 10-12 and she definitely had started developing breasts and my husband and I were both like “ummm too old to be naked from waist up”</p> <p>We definitely walk around naked in the house after showers, if I have to run to get something in another room, etc. I also go in and get the kids in the morning while naked or just wearing underwear. (They are still little tho, 3 and 5 months) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828313 Thu, 14 Jun 2018 00:45:16 +0000 lamariniere 2828313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents never walked around naked. I think I accidentally saw my dad naked once when I was maybe 5, and everyone freaked out. </p> <p>In our family, we don’t cover up or hide nakedness. I mean, we also don’t lounge around on the couch naked, but the kids see us naked when showering/getting dressed all the time. And my kids basically just run around in undies at home since it’s so hot where we live. My kids are now 7 (boy) and 4 (girl), and I currently don’t feel like my husband or I need to change anything. Being naked is just normal. I will, of course, absolutely respect my LOs’ privacy when and if they want it, but for now, I’m glad we are all comfortable. Also, my kids shower together almost every day, and it’s just normal. My son has gotten a little more interested in privacy when changing in public (like at the pool), and he’ll go in the bathroom, but he decided on that on his own (we lived in Europe until recently and it was NBD for kids to just change outside). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828274 Wed, 13 Jun 2018 19:40:21 +0000 Ajsmommy 2828274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: agree. And my kids are the same as yours age discrepancy wise and gender wise too </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828272 Wed, 13 Jun 2018 19:33:30 +0000 Litebrite 2828272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: Same about my expectations before having kids. I think the whole pregnancy/ childbirth / nursing thing made me less uptight about modesty. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828270 Wed, 13 Jun 2018 19:24:19 +0000 Silva 2828270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't hang out naked, but I don't hide myself when I"m dressing or showering or going to the bathroom (pretty much open door around here, at least when I"m just home with the kids during the day....).</p> <p>My daughter (5) and son (2) bathe together, play outside naked, and hang out naked after bathtime. We have an undies for dinner rule. </p> <p>I will let them determine when they want more privacy, or if they are uncomfortable with the way I do things. I'm fine with whatever. I think kids naturally develop shame/modesty as they get older. I could be wrong, but right now its not an issue for us and I'm not planning to make it one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828269 Wed, 13 Jun 2018 19:14:51 +0000 Ajsmommy 2828269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Litebrite: and I'm probably dating myself...with the title :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828267 Wed, 13 Jun 2018 19:01:49 +0000 Ajsmommy 2828267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sams Mom: I never saw my mom naked.... Maybe half naked once when I barged in on her in the bathroom...... I do recall seeing my dad once. Lol hr forgot his clothes and ran from the bathroom to the bedroom. I remember it being funny and not scarring... I kinda think I'd prefer to be like you and your mom are. And for both my kids, boy and girl<br /> @mrsrain: dd is 4.5 and its still totally comfortable.... If I'd had to guess at an age prior to having kids I would have said 3-4 to stop but she's over that and I don't feel the need to stop.... And maybe we won't. Maybe we'll always just be comfortable about it..<br /> ..@Litebrite: maybe it'll be in their teens....?? I'm really going to try to follow their lead but also try to make it OK too </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828266 Wed, 13 Jun 2018 18:58:44 +0000 bhbee 2828266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kids are 6 and 3 and are definitely not bothered by their own nudity. They shower together a lot. When older asks for privacy she can have it. We just talk about dressing appropriately away from home for now and private areas and such. </p> <p>I’m pretty self conscious and just don’t want to be naked around them, but as a SAHM I often take us all to the bathroom together, so they see some of it. And I’ll soon be nursing a baby so they’re going to see that. My only real concern is that my 3yo (who weaned himself at 13m) still really loves my chest and might be too interested :silly: </p> <p>DH is way way less body conscious than me so he’s frequently around in just his boxer briefs but I think we’re at the point where my 6yo girl doesn’t need to see him totally naked even though she sees her brother’s penis regularly. The boy is interested in daddy’s equipment for sure! We have a big shower so lately dh helps them shower wearing shorts. </p> <p>I don’t see it as a certain age but just a judgment call when/if you feel like changing it. Every family is different! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828265 Wed, 13 Jun 2018 18:45:58 +0000 Litebrite 2828265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I also like your thinking that it's something that will evolve naturally as they grow... and also your post title made me :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828264 Wed, 13 Jun 2018 18:44:15 +0000 Litebrite 2828264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wonder about this too. I figure when it gets uncomfortable for one of us it's time for privacy. I dont have a specific age in mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828254 Wed, 13 Jun 2018 17:22:16 +0000 wrkbrk 2828254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: Yup agree. DS is 2.5 and we do whatever around him now haha. Given that he has two moms we may get more questions earlier? Not sure. Good topic to think about - when to start letting him be alone to bathe, dress, etc. My guess is around first grade? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828252 Wed, 13 Jun 2018 17:12:23 +0000 Mama Bird 2828252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not comfortable with anyone but DH and nursing babies seeing me naked. I don't think it's inappropriate for really young kids, it's just... not my thing. Plus, not being dressed (or being dragged out of bed in just my undies) makes me feel kind of messy and unkempt. I feel too messy as it is :silly:</p> <p>As for the kids, I think when they're old enough to bathe alone they can ask for more privacy. Right now running around naked doesn't seem to bother the five year old, or the two year old... they actually have a running joke where they'll troop into the kitchen naked at bath time and do a little dance, while we're going crazy trying to herd them back into the bathroom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828219 Wed, 13 Jun 2018 15:13:04 +0000 mrsrain 2828219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good topic for discussion. I’m interested in getting others’ takes on this. I have a 4yo daughter and a 2yo son. Both children still regularly see DH and I naked, and of course we both still see them naked since we are bathing and dressing them. I don’t know what age I feel it becomes inappropriate for opposite sex child/parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828191 Wed, 13 Jun 2018 13:33:32 +0000 Sams Mom 2828191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm closing in on 30 and still walk into my mom's bathroom for something if she is going to the bathroom, in the shower, or in the tub. Myself, she has come and got my son out of the shower when I'm at their house to dry him off and get him dressed so I can shave my legs or finish washing my hair or whatever. </p> <p>Now my dad on the other hand I have no memory of ever seeing him in anything less than shorts and no shirt. I would say the last time my dad saw any of us girls naked was when we didn't need him to wash our hair anymore. Honestly I think I remember telling my dad he couldn't wash my hair anymore and only mom could. I would say I was 6 or 7, not sure. </p> <p>My son is just over 2 and still showers with me or my husband, and sees us get dressed and undressed. I don't know how long this will go on, but I don't forsee it stopping anytime soon. I'm thinking there won't be any reasons for me to see my son naked once he showers and dresses on his own... But who knows. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/opp-as-in-naughty-by-natures-song#post-2828187 Wed, 13 Jun 2018 13:26:20 +0000 Ajsmommy 2828187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Or nudity..... There have been posts about this in the past but I was wondering what everyone's takes on it were now. Reading over the older posts I saw a lot of hard cut off ages and also a lot of differences for mother/son vs mother/daughter and father/daughter vs father/son...</p> <p>I'm talking parental nudity with your own kids. Do you feel there is a certain age or time frame that you should stop being naked in front of your kids? Is there a certain age you think kids should stop being naked in front of their parents or siblings?</p> <p>This is a tough call for me. I am very comfortable in my body and with my own nudity. Not that I am prancing around the house naked but I do tend to be naked for a bit while getting ready or after getting out of the shower or when changing after work and I do not shy away from being in front of my kids when naked. Of course my kids are young....... I grew up in a NOT naked house and I know my mom had/has body issues and I suspect that is why she wasn't naked around us ever. </p> <p>I am fine with being naked around my kids until they voice an objection. I don't want them to think there is anything wrong with being naked or with the human body. </p> <p>DD prefers to sleep naked and is quite comfortable and free. I'd like to keep it that way and teach her that the human body is beautiful and natural. She has asked some questions that I've answered truthfully and honestly and it's no big deal.</p> <p>In some of the older posts there were age limits and also comments like "I saw my mom naked and it scarred me" I hope to avoid that with my kids..... I think that this might be something that naturally evolves as my kids get older and boundaries change</p> <p>ETA: I don't think I'll approach it any differently with my son vs my daughter either.... I'll try to be aware of both of their changing boundaries and hopefully accommodate them as much as possible.</p> <p>What say you?? </p>