https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 17:15:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook/page/2#post-1642432 Sun, 18 May 2014 00:35:36 +0000 indi 1642432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Same. Delivered, had plenty of new family time, and then the family was able to come visit. After that was all over, then we spread the word. </p> <p>DH's fam had JUST had an aunt do this to a cousin (birthdate, name, stats, all of it) and I felt so bad for the mama. Apparently, I'm a bit more mean, because no one even tried that with us. :-p </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook/page/2#post-1642407 Sat, 17 May 2014 23:27:15 +0000 Boheme 1642407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We never told anyone I was in labor and didn't allow anyone to visit until well after DS was born. Our parents were the only ones and they knew better than to post on FB. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642373 Sat, 17 May 2014 22:11:31 +0000 Anagram 1642373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom posted before I did on FB, but these things don't really bother me. I don't care if I make an announcement, she makes or, or neighbor Mary makes it. People are going to know I had a baby and I'm fine with it.</p> <p>*i would definitely be pissed if someone took a bad postpartum picture of sweaty, fat me and posted it. But just a word post? Fine by me.</p> <p>I don't think I said anything on FB till the day we left the hospital and we got some cute newborn pics outside. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642363 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:59:18 +0000 californiadreams 1642363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one outed but a few friends who live far started discussing under a wall post one of them started yah they thought i was in labour because I was MIA. I thought it was funny. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642327 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:31:29 +0000 birdofafeather 1642327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no one except our neighbors and family knew i was even in labor, much less that DD was born! we didn't even tell our friends she was here until my parents and in laws came to the hospital because we hadn't told anyone her name yet! so i had a bunch of friends that were shocked! that being said, my labor was quick, happened during the morning/afternoon and we didn't really want anyone waiting for us either way!</p> <p>i did find out a close friend had her second baby through another friend's instagram pic! i had somehow gotten left off the mass announcement message and was so confused when i saw the photo of the new baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642311 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:25:01 +0000 derevival 1642311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before I was pregnant, I was adamant about wanting to control the news. But now, I dunno. I figure: I'll be preoccupied and will appreciate how excited and happy people will be for us. </p> <p>I asked my DH though; he wants to post to FB first and will have no problem telling everyone not to post. So...I like idea of locking down FB. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642302 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:18:58 +0000 MrsB2012 1642302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After we delivered, we let family and a few close friends know. One of our friends must have told her mom because her mom wrote on my fb congratulating us. Usually it would have annoyed me, but I was so wrapped up with my precious bundle I hardly even noticed or cared. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642289 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:14:06 +0000 fussygal 1642289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was worried about this but told family not to post anything on social media before we did. I also did what @debbiei8 did and blocked tagging for FB. we didn't have any issue except for my step brother who posted something when I was in labor. I had him take it down. I feel lame for it bother me so much, but whatever - it was my experience to share! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642271 Sat, 17 May 2014 21:01:10 +0000 hellocupcake 1642271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We announced for my sister by congratulating her on FB. We asked first, and only did it because she said she knew everyone was waiting and she didn't want to go online just yet. She wanted to soak up baby time and gave us the go ahead. I would do the same. We waited to announce until later that morning, but if someone were there I would let them :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642262 Sat, 17 May 2014 20:51:35 +0000 cascademom 1642262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@elliebee: the day I disabled mine, I went into labor. We didn't announce until 8 hours after he was born. I sent my boss a pic and an email soon after his birth because I was supposed to call him with news of labor. I didn't get a chance to since my phone was held by my husband until after delivery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642259 Sat, 17 May 2014 20:50:57 +0000 Honeygold89 1642259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Didn't happen to us because nobody knew when he was born but my mom, dad, mil and SIL and none of them had a fb so me and DH was able to announce it when we got ready which was hours after LO was born and I didn't tell anyone what hospital we was at to advoid visitors other then our parents/SIL and two of my cousins and only because one of them worked there </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642255 Sat, 17 May 2014 20:47:21 +0000 avivoca 1642255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We specifically told family that they were not to mention anything about my pregnancy or birth until we announced first. It worked out well. My mom was upset because she couldn't talk to her friends ago it, but it was important to me that we announce first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642249 Sat, 17 May 2014 20:44:58 +0000 ShootingStar 1642249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup BOTH sides of our family did this to us. DH's cousi. Congratulated us and tagged us, so all of our friends saw it. And my dad posted about it but didn't tag. I told my dad flat out that it's bad etiquette to do that, but ultimately I was the cousin who really announced it. It was annoying but I had other things on my mind to dwell on something as silly as Facebook. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642239 Sat, 17 May 2014 20:36:09 +0000 MoonMoon 1642239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't announce on FB until he was 8 days old, and no one outed us! Phew :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642212 Sat, 17 May 2014 20:24:22 +0000 Applesandbananas 1642212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The circumstances around LO's birth were really scary and he was in the NICU and we told people very slowly (we only told close family) and I think out of respect for the situation, no one posted. I never even did because I was already being bombarded as the news made its way through the grapevine and I didn't want to answer any more questions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642204 Sat, 17 May 2014 20:21:55 +0000 MamaPhoenix 1642204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This happened to me and I don't even have FB, My DH and I just don't do face book. My sister is all about it. I like my privacy. As soon as our LO was born my sister was posting all over her board. We have a lot of friends in common since we are less than a year apart in age. I ended up getting phone calls to my hospital room from people I haven't talked to in like 10 years. I'm exhausted from giving birth like I needed this shit. We ended up in a fight a week later because I demanded that no one post pictures of my daughter on the internet/FB. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642149 Sat, 17 May 2014 19:58:43 +0000 luckypenny 1642149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes but only with DD2. FIL did and posted the first pic. So annoyed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642096 Sat, 17 May 2014 19:34:13 +0000 hellobeeboston 1642096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup, happened to me - but I wasn't that mad at that point - my SIL posted a photo of me with a very round belly - I was 30 weeks at that point so I was fine with it being on FB then --- I'm not a big sharer on FB in general. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642037 Sat, 17 May 2014 18:59:03 +0000 Ginabean3 1642037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@debbiei8: we did the same exact thing and actually didn't even announce we were pregnant.....all our close friends and family knew because we called them. We only announced our LO when she came home from the hospital. It was a shock to some people who didn't even know I was preggo haha.</p> <p>That being said, I just went thru my FB and deleted a bunch of people. I realize that if I don't care about saying "happy birthday" to them when their bday pops up I really don't care enough for them to see my profile and vice versa. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642033 Sat, 17 May 2014 18:57:25 +0000 artsyfartsy 1642033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had about 12 people in the waiting room the night T was born. As soon as he and daddy made their appearance in the nursery window pictures were taken and posts were made! I was still getting sewn up from my C and it was 3 hours later before I even could look at my phone. I didn't mind at all. It was sweet to read everyone's congrats and see the pictures especially since I didn't actually get to see any ofmy family since it was late and they left shortly after he was born. I posted my own announcement later but I didn't mind people announcing that he was here first. I wasn't hiding it or wanting to wait to do it myself.</p> <p>Everyone that was important that needed to know first (family and close friends) were either there or receiving a play by play from DH in a mass text. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642014 Sat, 17 May 2014 18:38:06 +0000 bookwormmama 1642014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JessKas: @elliebee: @HellOnHeels: it worked perfectly for us! I ended up with a c section so my mom told all of my extended family for me (which was totally fine with us but someone could have easily posted before I was out of the OR!). We got to spend time as a family and posted a picture and all of his info that night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642013 Sat, 17 May 2014 18:36:33 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 1642013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: this happened to some friends of mine. They live in Australia and their dad lived in the US. When he died, one of their cousins posted on FB before anyone had a chance to call them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1642004 Sat, 17 May 2014 18:32:04 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1642004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ChiCalGoBee: it was my brothers BFF. He was only 25. I read the post and called my mom crying, and she said my brother didn't even know yet. </p> <p>My mom &amp; his mom are very close, and she told my mom that her sister found out on Facebook too. Apparently his girlfriend told someone who told someone, who posted it on FB.</p> <p>But come on people, use your fucking head. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1641999 Sat, 17 May 2014 18:29:42 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 1641999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: I just don't even have words for this. I'm so sorry that happened:-(. </p> <p>We just had a friend lose a baby at 38 weeks ( :crying: ), and it's reinforced my thoughts that you need to tread lightly on Facebook with "big news," good or bad. I think waiting until baby arrives and is healthy and ANNOUNCED BY PARENTS is always a good bet. I've told everyone important, so no regrets here. You never know who is reading and what s/he had gone through when you post on FB. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1641990 Sat, 17 May 2014 18:25:32 +0000 mrs. 64 1641990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I posted a thread about this a while back because it drives me crazy. We will definitely be shutting down our walls before baby arrives! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1641988 Sat, 17 May 2014 18:23:27 +0000 BKCaribBaby 1641988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. Happened to me. Hated it.</p> <p>ETA: I turned off my tagging and disabled my wall, and this still happened. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1641986 Sat, 17 May 2014 18:22:18 +0000 HellOnHeels 1641986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: :shocked: that is... I don't even have the words. People are unbelievable in this day of social media...</p> <p>I love the idea of "shutting down" your wall. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1641972 Sat, 17 May 2014 18:12:18 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1641972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have my privacy settings set so no one but me can see what's written on my wall.</p> <p>Similarly, someone posted that a friend had passed (cancer), and wrote on their wall &amp; tagged the deceased in their post. FAMILY DIDNT EVEN KNOW YET. I'm super sure Aunt was thrilled to hear of her nephews passing from fucking Facebook. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1641958 Sat, 17 May 2014 18:05:33 +0000 BananaPancakes 1641958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also disabled my wall and set it so no one could tag me for my entire pregnancy. I just didn't want any outside opinions or comments from random people on Facebook. I re-activated just before I went in for my scheduled csection to ask for prayers/good thoughts. I can't stand when people post things on Facebook that isn't theirs to post! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-announcing-birth-on-facebook#post-1641950 Sat, 17 May 2014 17:55:19 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 1641950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we got married we turned off our walls so that this wouldn't happen, and I'm SO glad we did. We will *definitely* be doing the same thing for the baby. I am of the opinion that it is 100% the parents' decision how much to share about a baby and when. </p>