https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 05 Jun 2026 06:02:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1768847 Sat, 19 Jul 2014 07:45:49 +0000 Dandelion 1768847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tanjowen: My MIL would think it was hilarious to kiss D on the head with her lipstick on. I hated it, and so did D. So, I've already made a rule about it this time with M. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1768825 Sat, 19 Jul 2014 07:12:32 +0000 travelgirl1 1768825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only kiss my own baby on the lips, I would never kiss anyone else's baby on the lips so I expect people to behave the same way around my child. I think in that instance, you can't really blame the man with Alzheimer's for doing it, I might be annoyed at your mum for making it so easy for him to do though. If I think someone I don't know is going to try touch LO, I try move the stroller away a little to make it harder for them, not lift her up to them. Obviously she didn't know what he was going to do but maybe having a word with your mom about how you feel might mean in future she's more aware. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1768821 Sat, 19 Jul 2014 07:10:24 +0000 Tanjowen 1768821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everybody is different. I would be uncomfortable if anyone else kissed our baby on the lips, so I don't think you are out of line...the crying on the way home might have been hormones, but I cry when I'm tired too! :D</p> <p>I always ask my family to wash their hands and had a chat with my mom about not smearing her lipstick all over my LO as it caused a rash. They all think I'm ridiculous but they respect the fact I'm his mom and we all get through it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1768800 Sat, 19 Jul 2014 06:42:24 +0000 Dandelion 1768800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't like lips or hands. M has his hands in his mouth 24/7 so I've had to ask people to help keep his hands clean. I know I sound annoying, but I don't care.</p> <p>I'd be really upset about the car seat. My parents did stupid things with mine when they were watching M during my hospital stay. I was steaming mad they had adjusted it the way they did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1768766 Sat, 19 Jul 2014 03:04:47 +0000 Mae 1768766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't even like when other people kiss her on the head...that head is mine and dh's to kiss and I don't want their slobber all over it! Lol so obv I'm more than with you here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1768721 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 23:24:39 +0000 MamaJ 1768721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would totally be weirded out if it were a stranger. </p> <p>Other family members/close friends kiss LO (19 months) on the lips and it doesn't bother me really. 99.9% of the time they ask LO for a kiss. He either leans his head out for a kiss on the cheek or makes a kissy face for a kiss on the lips. Sometimes he even says no and I say "ok you don't have to if you don't want to". Most of the time he wants one on the cheek. I feel like because it's on his terms I am ok with it. Sometimes when I drop him off with MIL he doesn't want to give me a goodbye kiss and she presses him to give me one and I tell him he doesn't have to.</p> <p>Though if they were sick/cold sore I would not let it happen. And for sure not a stranger! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1768710 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 23:16:02 +0000 Kimberlybee 1768710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't like anyone kissing my baby on the lips! We were kissed on the forehead a lot growing up so I always assumed lip kisses were for romantic kissing until I met my inlaws. A few of them like to give lip kisses which I don't like for DD. My inlaws have major blister outbreaks, especially when they are stressed, including DH so I have been teaching DD to give "high fives" and "fist pumps" instead. It's been working because she will shake her head no when someone asks her for a kiss. She likes to kiss on the cheeks anyway because that's how we kiss her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1768680 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 22:29:50 +0000 mamimami 1768680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not LIKE that but I do not think you can get mad at a man with Alzheimer's for doing it. So, I think you did overreact if you cried the whole way home. Maybe try and think of the moment of joy that man had, he probably doesn't have many. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1768669 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 22:20:05 +0000 catomd00 1768669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No you Are definitely not crazy!!! We do not lip kiss in our house (except me and DH of course!) I would have zero issues being blunt about both of those topics. If anyone is lip kissing my daughter it's me (and no matter how much I love her slobbery kissed, I contain myself to keep her healthy so everyone else can too!!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1767420 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 10:43:10 +0000 Aimed 1767420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't even know people did this until HB! In my family, DH's family and our circles, kissing on the lips is for romantic partners only so if anyone kissed lo on ths lips I would find it unsettling to say the least so I totally understand. You could do what I used to do when my LO was little and strangers used to try to reach into his stroller to touch him (nutters!) and say - Oh don't touch him, he's a biter!" and laugh it off. I get that it's harder with family though, I think @sorrycharlie's suggestion is a good one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1767151 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 08:46:04 +0000 mrsjyw 1767151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't like it when grandparents or extended family members do it just because of the germ issue. Let alone a stranger.</p> <p>You had every right to be upset. Pregnant or not! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1767146 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 08:44:46 +0000 sorrycharlie 1767146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>as far as the kissing on the lips, I've posted about that a few times myself, lol. I just started telling people (my family outright, and more gently to ILs) about how I'm teaching her to kiss on the cheek because of the new baby coming, that is how germs are shared, etc. so far they are following the rules! I was more blunt with my family but there's serious history of draaaama with the ILs so I had to be careful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1767100 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 08:30:41 +0000 LulaBee 1767100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JerricaBenton: I totally agree! Her body, her rules. I never make her kiss/hug relatives or strangers if she doesn't want to. And I hate it when people pressure her to do that stuff. Just because she's tiny and cute doesn't mean she is yours to touch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1767093 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 08:29:47 +0000 swedishfish 1767093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get very upset when my FIL kisses LO on the lips because we don't. I totally understand why that upset you. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1767086 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 08:28:39 +0000 JerricaBenton 1767086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LulaBee: that stinks. My mom was incredulous about stuff like extended rear facing until I sent her some articles and videos. Maybe try showing her some videos about car sear safety. It sucks when our parents are stubborn about that stuff. My mom loosened our dogs collar so much he could wriggle right out of it because she thought it was 'too tight in his neck' uggh! </p> <p>Does LO understand if you tell her to kiss someone else on the cheek? Maybe that's another idea, teaching her to kiss on her own terms rather than be kissed. I'll ask LO if she wants to give someone a kiss or hug, and if she resists I pick her up right away so no one grabs her. I don't think it's right to force them or make them think they have to choice but to kiss or be kissed by anyone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1767025 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 08:17:23 +0000 blackbird 1767025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>haha, i see you added the disclaimer that you're pregnant because i thought the fact that you cried over it was a bit of an overreaction :wink: ! But that being said, I DO think it's inappropriate for strangers to kiss LOs on lips. Just...yuck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1767010 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 08:11:48 +0000 LulaBee 1767010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.Panda: That's a great idea, her 2 year appointment is coming up so we can use that. </p> <p>We sat down with LO last night and talked about it, and tried to teach her to turn her cheek, but I'm not sure anything stuck. </p> <p>@JerricaBenton: Ugh, that's the thing- I have sat down with my mom numerous times to show her the correct way to do the car seat. She still occasionally shows up with the straps not tight enough. She says they're too tight for LO. Um, nope. That's what is going to keep her safe in a crash. I'm just kind of at the point where I want to put her in daycare full time (currently my mom watches 2x a week) so that I don't have to deal with this kind of stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1766990 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 08:05:44 +0000 Mrs.Panda 1766990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LulaBee: Now that I think of it, my mom rarely kisses us on the lips. She says it's unhygienic. Maybe you can just tell them that you spoke with her pediatrician and there are so many diseases that can spread very easily to your LO that the adult carrier may not even know they have, which is true. Like Whooping Cough for example (or herpes, but I doubt you want to tell your mom that). Just be firm, there will likely be hurt feelings, but just come at it from a medical and hygiene standpoint.</p> <p>If LO is old enough, you could also teach her to say no kissing on the lips :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1766978 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 08:00:20 +0000 LulaBee 1766978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay, thanks. So I'm not crazy. Now to figure out how to tell everyone no kissing on the lips. I guess the best way is just to come out and say it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1766976 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 07:59:54 +0000 Mrs tartan 1766976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Family members such as my parents or siblings I'm happy to kiss on the lips. Friends etc if they ask for a kiss goodbye or something Id say "kissy on the cheek when it's not mummy or daddy remember" to my LO, people would catch on its something I'm unhappy about.<br /> A complete stranger I would definitely state not to kids LO on the lips, if I didn't want to be impolite I'd say s/he is recovering from a horrible cold or something, but I'm honest I wouldn't feel rude telling someone not to kiss LO anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1766974 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 07:59:17 +0000 JerricaBenton 1766974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both of those things would bother me. As far as the carseat, next time you're with you're parents, you should take them outside with LO and show them exactly how to use the carseat. Make sure they know how important it is to do it correctly for any drive. I had to do that with my parents. </p> <p>The kissing is trickier because people will think you're nuts or get offended but I think it's worth a conversation with your parents and anyone else who's with LO often. I'd start by bringing up the nursing home incident and explain why it bothers you and explain that you'd like for them to not 'offer LO up' for mouth kisses, most especially to strangers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1766969 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 07:56:06 +0000 Mrs.Panda 1766969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um ew no, I don't like the idea of other people kissing your baby on the lips. Especially not a stranger! Since it was on the Alzheimer's ward I would give the man the benefit of the doubt as he may not be in the most appropriate frame of mind and he also grew up in a different time. Your mom shouldn't be offering your LO up as a sacrificial lamb to the Kissing Gods though. Talk to her. My friend suffers from herpes simplex 1 because her grandmother kissed her on the lips when she was an infant and transmitted the disease. It's just not fair. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1766967 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 07:54:22 +0000 MrsTiz 1766967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't even kiss LO on the lips, so you can imagine how I would feel about that!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1766961 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 07:51:33 +0000 jhd 1766961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not be comfortable with anyone kissing my LO on the lips! I would also be worried about germs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-people-kissing-lo-on-lips#post-1766945 Fri, 18 Jul 2014 07:40:25 +0000 LulaBee 1766945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been thinking lately about how I don't like it when her grandparents/other family members kiss DD on the lips- diseases can get passed on (2 grandparents frequently get cold sores). I had been meaning to say something to everyone (how do I do that, individually? Mass email? kind of at a loss).</p> <p>Well last night my mom and I took my DD to the Alzheimer's ward of a nursing home where my grandmother lives. My mom was holding DD in her lap when an older man who sits at my grandmother's table walked by with his daughter. He stopped to say hello to LO and my mom held her up to see him. THEN HE KISSED HER ON THE LIPS!!!!!!!!!!! My mom actually held her up and everyone at the table said "awwwww". I tried not to lose my shit, but I think everyone could see my face. I cried all the way home because I was so upset about it.</p> <p>Am I totally out of line to be upset by that? I don't know that man, he could have some disease or even a freaking cold. It's just not appropriate. I am going to say something for sure at this point but didn't want to do so in the heat of the moment.</p> <p>Also, when I met my mom to get DD yesterday only the chest clip on her car seat was buckled. My mom said "oh I thought your dad buckled her in". I'm livid about that too, my mom knows better but that's just not something you can let slide/not check. My dad can't put a diaper on correctly, how the hell will he know how to buckle the car seat.</p> <p>Disclaimer: I'm pregnant so could be overreacting to these things. </p>