https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 15:45:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-28115 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 15:37:41 +0000 ustechie 28115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love how you handled this situation. Calm, yet authoritative, and no messing around. It drives me CRAZY when parents just ignore bad behavior. Well done! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-28036 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 13:43:34 +0000 .twist. 28036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do hope to be this kind of mother. It kind of boggles my mind that you're not supposed to hurt your kids feelings by removing them when they're throwing a tantrum. My kid isn't going to like me all the time, that's what their friends will be for! I will build their self esteem in other ways. However, they will have manners. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-28032 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 13:34:43 +0000 Rescuemom10 28032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Miss Adia- EXACTLY! Same with my parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-28030 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 13:30:42 +0000 Miss Adia 28030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rescuemom-exactly! I had friends growing up whose parents were friends more than parents. I had friends whose parents let us party at their houses because drinking underage was so much better in their house. My aunt (moms brother's wife) was like this. She always bought us wine coolers and let us smoke in the house.<br /> Psh...if my parents only knew what "I need $10 to chip in for pizza" really meant. I thought my parents were strict as heck and have said a few times that they were ruining my life. They did not budge. No meant no. I used the, "Well so and so's dad is letting her do it." and he would fire back, "I'm not so and so's dad and YOUR dad is telling you NO!"<br /> I'm glad they were like that because all of my friends that had parents as their best friends are not right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-28026 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 13:25:35 +0000 Rescuemom10 28026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awesome! Totally on board with what you did and so would have done the same thing. With SD who is 8 we have had sim issues. Its very frustrating. Especially if the slightest bit of the other childs behavior "rubs off". I dont like her hanging with children who are rude or have bad manors etc. Its hard to discipline when its "well so and so did it why cant I?" Ahhh tough love....because YOU KNOW BETTER. Good on you Miss Adia! I cant beleive that, thats pretty rude even for a 3 year old. Yikes what words! Woah! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-28020 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 13:09:56 +0000 Miss Adia 28020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Southpaw-At first I wasn't like that. I read so many things about how you should ignore the tantrum, even if it's in public. I've read things about how you shouldn't correct the behavior because it makes children think something is wrong with them and it hurts their feelings.<br /> I was like eff that! Kids aren't suppose to raise themselves. How will they know good manners if you allow them to be brats because saying something might hurt their feelings? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-28013 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 13:01:56 +0000 SouthPaw 28013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Miss Adia, it is very refreshing to have a mother who will not let her child throw a temper tantrum and make everyone else who is in range deal with it. When we have children I hope that I will be able to react the same way as I definitely share your beliefs! Keep it up =) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27918 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 11:34:10 +0000 Miss Adia 27918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Looch-Just wait until you have school age children who should know better than to tell an adult to shut up and call things stupid or not listen to anyone but her mother. I know for a fact that she is a straight arrow when she is at home. I don't know what got into her head to think she could run amok with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27733 Mon, 05 Dec 2011 03:35:50 +0000 looch 27733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is barely a year old, so this probably disqualifies me from posting, but here goes...</p> <p>Since becoming a parent, I've become much more tolerant of the actions of children. I've come to realize that you can try to do everything perfectly or by the book and your child can still do things that make your blood boil, both on purpose and by accident. I also realize that some kids have challenges, physical and mental, that we may not be able to see, so I don't judge outbursts because I realize that those parents might be trying to deal with ADHD without resorting to medications and staying in their house all day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27628 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 22:08:16 +0000 Mrs. D 27628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some people really hurt my head.<br /> I hope my kids never behave that way, here's hoping. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27620 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 21:53:52 +0000 sbjmorgan 27620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have been so angry and marched her straight home, too. I completely agree that people need to teach their children manners. It does their children no favors when they choose not to teach them important life lessons like that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27557 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 20:24:50 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 27557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Egh!!! It's sad because majority of the time it's the parents fault. The fact that the mother didn't think you should of cancelled the sleep over is an indication of that. Egh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27533 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 19:59:47 +0000 Nskillet 27533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>George Carlin said it bestablut this very thing. We all got in trouble when there stopped being losers and suddenly everyone was special and a winner. Children need to be taught that everyone has special qualities, but we all should have respect for others. Right on mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27531 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 19:51:57 +0000 heffalump 27531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh no. I haven't even thought of things like that happening, with my LO only being 4 months old. I pictured sleepovers being all make overs, Disney movies, and glitter. I have a lot to learn! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27520 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 18:54:39 +0000 cyndistar3 27520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We arent to the point of sleep overs yet but I can tell you if my child did that there would be consequences. And she would be made to apologize because thats not okay at all... Some people... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27517 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 18:39:27 +0000 MsMamaBear 27517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>baby Bear is only 3months, but this type of thing worries me. Who will her friends be? Yikes! Hopefully not like that brat! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27507 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 18:09:50 +0000 rachiecakes 27507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know of some kids like that, lol<br /> Their parents talk about playdates when my LO is born and I think, "probably not!" ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27480 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 16:23:06 +0000 tejbee 27480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh dear. I think you absolutely did the right thing with your daughter's friend by sending her home and not putting up with her attitude. You sound like you handle bad child behavior situations really well. And I love your daughter's response about what Christmas is about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27458 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 15:16:08 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 27458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would've cancelled the sleepover too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27457 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 15:13:40 +0000 Miss Adia 27457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Exactly Nycalimama...yet!<br /> My LO has a few special snowflake kids in her class. For Thanksgiving they had to pick from a hat if they were going to be Native Americans or Pilgrims. One child pulled Pilgrim and the next day the mother came in and said that they needed to change the play around because her son was so upset that he didn't draw Native American. O_O<br /> Can I do that in real life? I'm going to go buy a scratch off ticket and then tell the clerk he needs to trade me for the winning ticket because that's what I want. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27456 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 15:13:39 +0000 chopsuey 27456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I see misbehaved children I don't blame them.. I blame their parents! Little brat's parents need to get their ish together! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27455 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 15:08:43 +0000 SAHM0811 27455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD #1 is 3 and her closest friends are pretty well-behaved. We have one playmate who lives in our building and has trouble sharing a lot but she's a year younger and sharing is a battle for all kids 2-3 yo. Her mom and I always intervene when sharing issues arise and lately their playdates have been more and more pleasant. It's nice to see their friendship grow. Otherwise, we haven't really come across spoiled brats at her school or in our neighborhood ... Yet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27453 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 14:52:54 +0000 Miss Adia 27453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Zippy-I hate when parents don't handle their children in public. My daughter was BANNED from eating out until she got her act together. She thought we were joking up until she got her little butt dropped off at my moms house while we went out. At first I felt bad, but she had to learn. I use to be a server, so I hated kids with bad manners.<br /> One day we were at Olive Garden and my daughter screamed at the server who was at another table, "HEY! HEY! I NEED more APPLE JUICE!!! HEY!" OMG! I snatched her up so fast and told FH to have our stuff bagged up and the check to go. I noticed a few parents nodding their heads in agreement. She got a LONG talking to about how it's rude to say hey to an adult and to interrupt someone when they are doing something. So yeah, she was banned from eating out for a while. Now she is polite because she knows I will remove her from the situation in a heart beat.<br /> I don't play in public. I would leave a full cart of groceries in a store before I let her wail like some kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27447 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 14:42:32 +0000 loveisstrange 27447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG. What a horrible little brat. I really don't blame you for marching her straight home, I wouldn't have wanted to deal with her crap all night either.</p> <p>I have serious issues with the way some people raise their kids too. I have a friend who has a 2 year old daughter who is a massive brat. She will scream and cry any time they are in public and my friend just ignores it or is really passive about it. I don't think I have ever seen this girl behave in a public place unless she was asleep. She is spoiled out of her mind and allowed to do whatever she pleases.</p> <p>(I wanted to add that I LOVE your daughter's response to what Christmas is about.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-kids#post-27442 Sun, 04 Dec 2011 14:36:48 +0000 Miss Adia 27442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The best birth control is really watching someone else's children. We were supposed to have a sleepover last night and I wanted to make a doctor's appointment to get my tubes tied this morning.<br /> I'm not one of those parents who thinks my child can do no wrong and is such a special snowflake that it's not possible that people won't like her. My 5 year old has her moments, but she is nothing like my friends 3 year old daughter. She was nothing like that even when she was 3!<br /> Before we went home, we stopped at my mothers house so that I could get my hair twisted by my little sister. I asked both girls to sit down on the couch and watch Harry Potter. Twisting only takes about 10 minutes. My friends daughter said, "No. Why should I? I don't want to!" O_O<br /> I asked her again and she sat down but she still had something smart to say. Then when I went to the bathroom, I heard my sister telling the little girl to sit down and she screamed NO and I heard her running from the living room and then CRASH!<br /> Then I heard my mom scream and my daughter telling the little girl to sit down.<br /> I run out of the bathroom and I see that she has knocked over the printer and laptop from the desk. The laptop was okay, but the printer is broken. Ugh.<br /> So I told them that the sleepover was cancelled and she then told me that I was stupid and that I needed to shut up. O_O </p> <p>Anyway, long story short, I don't like other people's kids. No...let me rephrase that. I don't like other parents who think it's okay to let their children act like that and say things like that. She told me in the car that she doesn't have to be good for Santa because he would bring her all the toys she wanted anyway. My daughter then told her that Christmas is for drinking hot chocolate, seeing family, and praying for others (we are Buddhist) and being nice. She said, "That's stupid. My mommy told me that Christmas is because Jesus was born and we get presents. Your Christmas is stupid."<br /> Needless to say, she didn't even make it to my house. She cried and cried and so did my daughter, but I told her that maybe when she learns how to speak to an adult and acted better, we could have a sleepover. </p> <p>Her mother thinks I was being harsh and they could have still had a sleepover. I told her that when she taught her daughter how to speak to an adult, we could have one. I would expect her to do the same thing if my daughter spoke to her in that manner. </p> <p>Does your LO have friends that just make you want to scream? </p>