https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 09:52:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-ttc#post-79703 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 09:45:44 +0000 MrsLilybugg 79703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugggg that is really frustrating, especially if circumstance doesn't really let you physically distance yourself from her. What if, when she brings up the topic of "TTC'ing the right way", you shut her down with "I don't even want to think about that..." and change the subject? Or even walk away? Maybe after enough times she'll get the hint. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-ttc#post-79689 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 09:26:12 +0000 kml636 79689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This kind of thing is so hard. Honestly, I never thought it would be this isolating... after I had a MC friends that were TTC or pregnant literally didn't want to be around me. I guess my only advice would be to do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself. If that means distancing yourself, do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-ttc#post-79679 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 09:10:20 +0000 heffalump 79679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just because her family hasn't had issues getting pregnant doesn't mean that she won't. Even if she's a "fertile myrtle" it takes two to tango and you never know what's going on with her husband. </p> <p>But I agree with the others. There's no need to be around someone who is just going to make you feel bad about yourself. Plus, just because you don't have the most expensive things doesn't mean you're doing something wrong. Babies don't need all of that crap! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-ttc#post-79621 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 01:16:24 +0000 googly-eyes 79621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would separate myself from her. Something similar happened to me, with people who were telling me when I got engaged, why do you want to be married, don't have kids, we're too young, etc, getting married and having kids before me...so I figured they were jealous, lol! But seriously, if she's in the mindset where she's thinking about having a baby, then she should know it's a sensitive topic and shouldn't talk like that, IMO.<br /> Ooooh nvm I just read the second post. Well, in that case, I would avoid her where possible and when not see if you can avoid the topic. Or, tell her straight up that it makes you uncomfortable to talk about it. I hope she wouldn't have the audacity to continue to brag... :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-ttc#post-79615 Wed, 22 Feb 2012 01:03:26 +0000 MsMini 79615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha! I come from a long line of fertile myrtles (my Mom got pregnant her first cycle off of BCP 3 times, ditto with both my grandmas - 4 times each!), and guess what, it took me 13 months to conceive, so she shouldn't be so cocky. You never know what situation you will be handed! I wouldn't worry about it too much, people assume a lot about their chances that they shouldn't! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-ttc#post-79581 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 23:12:17 +0000 cyneswith 79581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On the other hand, there's a chance she'll have a hard time TTC, in which case you can be GRACIOUSLY smug and self-satisfied. ;) </p> <p>On the other hand, you could come up with something to say that makes it clear that it is insulting, immature, and generally not socially accepted behavior to talk about another person's fertility unless specifically invited to do so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-ttc#post-79578 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 22:53:58 +0000 SugarplumsMom 79578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm also wondering why you're allowing someone like that take up your precious time?! She doesn't sound like a friend.</p> <p>EDIT: I just read about her living next door and your hubby's best friend's wife. Ouch. Sorry, I wish I had more advice to give you but people like that really annoy the hell out of me. I'd congratulate her and try to distance myself. Maybe she'll change when she gets pregnant? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-ttc#post-79565 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 22:30:53 +0000 cupcakemama 79565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She sounds like a pain in the you know what. Do people really announce that they are going off BC ? And that they are sure they will be a fertile myrtle? I wouldn't bother with supportive and kind, it doesn't sound like she is interested in being supportive and kind towards you. Pleasant would probably be my limit but I am mean! Main thing is to work out how to protect yourself and look out for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-ttc#post-79527 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 21:56:50 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 79527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Perhaps friend was the wrong word. She is DH's best friend's new wife. We're thrown together at church, youth group, and in everyday life. She also lives next door.<br /> Avoiding her only works occasionally.</p> <p>That being said, thanks for the input. I need to figure out how to be supportive and kind without letting her every move break my heart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-ttc#post-79517 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 21:45:55 +0000 chopsuey 79517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say you stop being her friend.<br /> jk. :P<br /> But seriously, do you need that type of negative energy in your life?<br /> I would just tell that you think it's great that she's TTC and leave it at that. I mean, if she's a good friend I would hope she'd be sensitive and not rub it in your face if she were to get pregnant before you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-ttc#post-79515 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 21:45:13 +0000 lilteacherbee 79515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I agree about the toxic friend. As close as I was to my friend, I haven't talked to her in 2 months because she hurt my feelings and really started to annoy me. I've noticed that I've been happier now that I don't have to hear her constant opinions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-ttc#post-79513 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 21:43:19 +0000 lilteacherbee 79513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is my first month off BC, so we just started TTC, but I just wanted to say that I understand how annoying that is. I have a high school classmate who is currently 4 months pregnant. She got married a month after me and we're both 22/23. One of my really good friends (friend since middle school/bridesmaid/college roommate, aka we were really close) is completely supportive of the other girl but she's against DH and I having kids yet because its "a different situation."</p> <p>So not completely the same as what you're going through, but I get it. Its hard to be around those people... I wish I had some good advice :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-ttc#post-79511 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 21:41:23 +0000 mrbee 79511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@redsmarties: I would never tell you (or anyone) to get over yourself!!</p> <p>But I'm wondering why you guys are friends? She sounds a little bit toxic from your description... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/other-peoples-ttc#post-79506 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 21:36:00 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 79506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Please, someone tell me to get over myself.</p> <p>A friend of mine who is ALWAYS competing with me (and who has an opinion/answer for everything) just announced tonight that she is going off of BC, and that since her family has a history of being 'fertile myrtles', she'll probably get knocked up rght away. She knows the struggles we have been having over the past year, and she has always said that she's going to wait to have kids.</p> <p>I know that I need to suck it up and just be happy for her. However, I know that if she gets pregnant before I do, she will make my life miserable, giving me tips and hints on how to get pregnant the 'right' way. She also has a TON of money, and will most likely buy all the best things for her kid...and make me feel inadequate for not doing the same.</p> <p>Right? I need to get over it? How have you dealt with similar situations? What should I do/say? </p>