https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 03:14:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319616 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 17:14:07 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1319616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations! I hope your little one comes home soon. As previous posters have said, I would just have a chat with your family member. New babies are so exciting, and people just want to share their joy, but they may not think of privacy issues or anything. I know I had to talk to my sister and SIL about Instagram and Facebook with my baby. Hope she takes it well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319597 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 17:04:19 +0000 Ctran 1319597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First, congrats and hope your babe comes home soon. I went through a very similar situation with my first since she was born at 28 weeks. A family member posted right away on Facebook and while I understood her excitement, I felt uncomfortable as well. I would just talk to her and let her know how you feel. I'm sure once she hears it from your perspective, she will understand.<br /> I wish your family all the best. I know having a baby in the nicu can be very stressful and scary and should you need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319469 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 15:06:26 +0000 sorrycharlie 1319469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just kindly tell her - she may truly not know. When my BIL (DH's brother) and SIL had a baby, I was psyched and posted on my facebook, including photos. I truly had no idea that was looked down upon, and to be honest wouldn't have truly understood until I had a baby of my own. SIL never cared (she had a FB) but I would not have cared if she'd asked me not to post. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319446 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 14:51:37 +0000 Dandelion 1319446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats! I had a 32 weeker...they do really well at that age! Mine was in the NICU for 15 days. </p> <p>I agree with others that you need to just tell them to cool it. </p> <p>I've already told my parents and MIL ahead of time not to leak info out on FB because I prefer to release info on my own. They've all been good about it so far...but LO isn't here, yet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319434 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 14:47:16 +0000 LovelyPlum 1319434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You've gotten some great advice, so I'm just popping in to say CONGRATS on your new little one. I hope that he is out of the NICU soon! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319423 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 14:41:21 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 1319423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everyone's given the advice I would give. I'm posting to add that I don't think you're crazy &amp; that I understand what you mean about not thinking anything is going to happen but beig uncomfortable with so much sharing. My husband &amp; I feel the same way &amp; some family members have trouble understanding that. MIL in particular needed several stern conversations &amp; the threat of not being allowed to even TAKE pictures of our son to get the message. Hopefully she will understand where you're coming from, but be persistent if she doesn't. </p> <p>Congratulations on your new little bit. I hope he's home &amp; out of NICU soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319336 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 13:25:21 +0000 Mrs. Deer 1319336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations on your new baby!</p> <p>My SIL got rid of her Facebook and asked me to remove pictures of her and my niece. I totally respect it! I think is you put it nicely she will understand :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319332 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 13:15:46 +0000 Dagny 1319332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely speak with anyone who is posting things without permission. I had to ask certain family members a couple times to not post anything without my permission. It finally stuck. I'm sorry you have to deal with this, it sucks!<br /> Congrats on your LO!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319321 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 13:10:00 +0000 matador84 1319321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats! I have several friends who have had NICU babies and posted something like how they are waiting to post pics until their little one has put on some more weight, but appreciate the thoughts.</p> <p>I'd just confront the aunt about it. Her intentions are surely positive, but like pp, just say you aren't comfortable sharing yet and would like privacy respected. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319320 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 13:08:32 +0000 swedishfish 1319320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think everyone else gave some great advice so I will just say congratulations and I'm so glad everyone's doing well!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319313 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 13:04:34 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1319313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats mama! Just let her know you don't want pics and status updates about your child. When it comes to kids people have to take the lead from the parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319304 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 12:53:34 +0000 NurseMommy 1319304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations on your baby; so glad you're both doing well. I think you sound extremely reasonable and agree with pp that you should just be honest - you understand that she's excited but would appreciate her not posting photos/info about your LO without running it by you. </p> <p>I have a SIL who is not on Facebook and has told us that she doesn't want pictures of her children on it. We completely respect her decision and are not put off by it in the least. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319268 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 12:21:53 +0000 Foodnerd81 1319268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OH- and congratulations on your new baby! I'm glad he is doing well and I hope you can all go home soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319266 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 12:21:00 +0000 Foodnerd81 1319266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with people to just tell her you aren't comfortable. I know I have some people in my life who would say I was being a crazy over protective mother, but they would take it down and stop doing it, so whatever. Call me crazy if you want. In particular, they should realize that NICU photos are pretty sensitive and personal. </p> <p>My dad is a big oversharer on FB and my sister has had to ask him to take photos of my nephew down (like, she texted it to a couple of people and he took it upon himself to post to FB). He grumbles but complies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319217 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 11:44:19 +0000 wheres_c 1319217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yeah I've been fighting a constant battle with mommy's in my group posting pics of my LO. I don't, and I hate that they do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319204 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 11:37:41 +0000 katsupgirl 1319204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @HolisticMama: you already have the words. I had to lay down the law with my sisters. I don't have a Facebook. I'm not comfortable with people posting pictures of my baby either. NICU pictures I hadn't authorized would be really uncomfortable. </p> <p>I do try to give them pictures every now and then to post. </p> <p>Good luck with the talk! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319203 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 11:34:32 +0000 Bao 1319203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HolisticMama: I think exactly this words it very nicely! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319183 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 11:24:13 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1319183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You could also ask her to ask you for permission first before posting pictures of your LO. Hopefully she would respect that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319179 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 11:23:36 +0000 MrsH 1319179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you tell her you don't feel comfortable with her sharing medical information and pictures! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319168 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 11:14:27 +0000 HolisticMama 1319168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you have already answered your own question. I think your verbiage is already quite eloquent. I would say exactly that, "I want to respect the excitement and joy of the new Aunt - after all, this is a big deal for you. But I'm really not comfortable with all the publicity on facebook. Do you mind holding off?" </p> <p>You can also turn off the ability for people to post on your facebook page. Make sure everything is relatively private and untag yourself from her pictures. I've read that many ladies here have turned off people's ability to post on their wall. :)</p> <p>Does this link work?<br /> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/settings?tab=timeline&#038;section=posting&#038;view" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/settings?tab=timeline&#038;section=posting&#038;view</a></p> <p>You go to your settings- timeline- and ensure that only you can submit things to your timeline. You can also review posts first that people tag you in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/others-sharing-news-and-photos-what-do-to#post-1319165 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 11:10:48 +0000 math.nerd 1319165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hello Bees,</p> <p>I had my little one earlier this week. I had been on hospital bed rest from 28 weeks on and my kiddo was born at 31 +1 weeks. He's doing great and so am I. It's been stressful, but we're super grateful that things have been going so well considering.</p> <p>My question is this: How to deal with the Facebook madness?? I'm a pretty private person. I do have a Facebook account, my husband does not. I haven't posted ANYTHING about my pregnancy on Facebook. I prefer to share my big life events in person or over the phone - with my actual voice going into an actual person's ear. I guess I'm old fashioned that way.</p> <p>Anyhow, since the baby has been born (less than 48 hours ago), people have posted messages about my baby on their Facebook pages - without even a call to me or the new dad to say congratulations. It's totally tripping me out.</p> <p>The biggest issue I'm having is with a family member. She's so excited about the baby and she's a new Aunt, so I can't blame here for wanting to share. However, she's posted photos of my kid in the NICU on her Facebook page and commenting on the status of his health on her wall. I'm really not comfortable with this. I don't think that anything bad will happen, but I really don't like opening up my Facebook and see pictures of my child that I didn't necessarily want to be broadcast openly to complete strangers (i.e. friends of friends of friends.....etc.) It feels to me like she may as well be posting pictures on telephone polls on the street. Is this crazy to feel this way?</p> <p>How do I handle this situation? I want to respect the excitement and joy of the new Aunt - after all, this is a big deal for her. But how do I communicate that I'm really not comfortable with the broadcast of essentially my families personal life to people I don't know?</p> <p>Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated!!!!!! Thanks! </p>