https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 25 May 2026 11:25:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341611 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 14:58:09 +0000 daniellemybelle 341611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't pretend that I am anonymous on Hellobee. I am more open here than I would be on Facebook for example, but I still try not to say anything that would cause issues in my personal life or professionally. I'll admit I toe the line but I try to censor myself.</p> <p>On WB, I had a situation where I was too open and assumed I was anonymous, and it created a very uncomfortable and embarrassing situation for me. So I try to keep in mind that nothing online is truly anonymous. Having said that, I don't use my full name or photos on this site to keep it separate from my "real life" network. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341561 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 14:38:06 +0000 JennyLayneAZ 341561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well I keep myself pretty anonymous online in general. I don't have a Facebook account, I don't post anything that anyone in real life could trace back to me, including pictures. The most I've shared is that my name is Jennifer and I live in Arizona. Because obviously I am the ONLY Jennifer in Arizona, right? LOL</p> <p>There's just too many weirdo's out there for me to trust that they're not lurking around trying to scam me or stalk me or whatever. Yes I'm paranoid LOL and that's completely OK in my book. I also don't think there's anything wrong with sharing as much information as you feel comfortable with. There's a different set of personal rules for everybody. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341539 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 14:28:21 +0000 Cherrybee 341539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm clearly a very open person - I've posted clear pics of me on this site and I use my real name. But, the "open for everyone to read" thing really, really worries me. </p> <p>Firstly, I really appreciate Hellobee because I don't feel that I can talk about TTC with the 3D people in my life - certainly not in the way I do here! I'd be mortified if any of my IRL friends saw some of the things I've written here - I pour my heart and soul out. </p> <p>Secondly, I wouldn't want anyone from work to know I was TTC in case they overlooked me for promotion etc (while I know that this is illegal, it still happens). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341514 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 14:19:24 +0000 Mrs. Pen 341514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crash806: very good point!! I'll probably remain open with my son about anything I've posted about him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341492 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 14:10:30 +0000 sorrycharlie 341492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to be able to post tmi or vent without people I know reading! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341469 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:59:07 +0000 Andrea 341469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have anything to hide or be ashamed about but what you're writing is permanently out there so I am still careful. I haven't posted any new pictures because DD is older now and I want to respect her privacy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341457 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:55:30 +0000 SugarplumsMom 341457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: It was public. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341456 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:55:15 +0000 SugarplumsMom 341456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, there are discussions on HB that I'm not open to discuss IRL. I share them here because of the sense of community HB has to offer. As someone living abroad, away from my friends and family, HB has become my outlet, so my situation is probably a little different from the average user. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341454 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:54:30 +0000 mrbee 341454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crumbs: Was that expat board public or private? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341453 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:54:25 +0000 LazyLightning 341453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like others, I've been burned before. Also, when concerning pregnancy, if planning to hold out till the 2nd tri to tell family, I wouldn't want that info floating around on a forum where it could be found. Not that my mom and dad are on hellobee, but what if a cousin is, or a friend? Once it gets out... it gets OUT. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341446 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:51:57 +0000 SugarplumsMom 341446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually share a ton more about my life on HB than anywhere else. For me it's not about hiding anything, or regretting what I've said. <u>To me, it's about keeping certain discussions between "us" on HB and not some random passerby.</u> One may argue that that is impossible even if there was a private registered users only option, but for some reason, it just makes me feel better since it'd make things a little more difficult for ppl that aren't part of our community to gain access to certain private images, etc.</p> <p>I was part of a similar msg board once, for expats. Someone had actually took our discussions and made a separate website and translated them into the local language! It's not like anything we were saying was controversial in any way, so I'm not even sure why they did it - but it was still pretty disturbing. </p> <p>I now live in a country that's very open. Anyone can pretty much narrow down where you live and all of your info based on a name. I bet I'm the only American in my little town. So yeh, it's a whole other dimension. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341408 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:40:15 +0000 Modern Daisy 341408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The things I discuss on HB are topics that I'm not open about IRL which is why it's so important that I remain anonymous. It really helps to have someone to talk about these things with who doesn't know who I am and therefore can't spread it all over the place. </p> <p>As far as posting about other people, I've also been burned. I shared my frustrations once about a wedding registry that asked for all cash, not even checks were acceptable and another wedding guest found it, somehow realized who I was talking about and called me out. I still don't know if they shared my post with the bride and groom, but I was mortified and asked the site to take it down, but they ignored me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341390 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:31:38 +0000 Maysprout 341390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's things I share with friends and things I share with everybody. I want to be honest about frustrations and breastmilk and sex and I can't do that if I'm worried that LO or grandma or some future boss will find it. I'm most worried about the work situation since my experience so far has been that mothers of young children are treated like lepers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341368 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:21:18 +0000 Mrs. Bee 341368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>like you i learned my lesson very early on. i went to a concert with a friend (it was her coworker that was performing), and then i blogged that they weren't that good. well the singer googled herself and found my post which was a top result, so she asked my friend to ask me to take it down.</p> <p>since then i never post anything that i wouldn't feel comfortable with anyone knowing. but i'm like you -- i'm pretty open obviously.... otherwise i couldn't really do a site like hellobee! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341353 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:16:06 +0000 JoJoGirl 341353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelingbrit: this. you just never know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341351 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:15:24 +0000 wheres_c 341351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand that it's hard to be 100% secure online, but it would be nice to have some "registered-user" only forums.<br /> There's been a few things I've been dying to share or ask on here, but it's really a little TMI if someone from my professional life were to find it.</p> <p>I actually got denied a job, because the recruiter found an old online blog post where I mentioned that I would love to move out of state. Um, yes I did want to move - but I wouldnt have if I'd have gotten the job! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341343 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:12:50 +0000 cvbee 341343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm open. Here's my thing: I post on here almost like writing in a dynamic diary. I would write things in my diary that might hurt people who would read it, but I have written it without meaning for them to read it, so I don't feel bad. Everyone needs to vent.<br /> If any IRL people I know are following me and not telling me and I hurt them, well, I would say they should have told me that they found me on HB, otherwise they have to just realize that everyone has to vent and it is healthy.<br /> I am more open here than IRL but I honestly wouldn't mind if I found out one day that an IRL friend had been reading all the TMI stuff I wrote here. </p> <p>:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341342 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:12:18 +0000 tororojo 341342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On HB, I like having anonymity because I don't have to deal with people I know IRL being in my business/giving unwarranted advice. I don't post a whole lot on facebook these days, but I've noticed that when pregnant/new mom friends post comments/questions about kid stuff on fb, people are really preachy and bossy. Also, most of them don't do things the way I want to--I find a lot more like-minded people on here regarding baby stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341334 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:09:11 +0000 JoJoGirl 341334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tend to be very impulsive with what I post, I learned that the hard way with some stuff I posted on WB back in the day. Back then I was able to have it deleted, but it makes me much more careful about what I post since I can't go back and delete it myself. Especially considering some drama that took place around our wedding, I was VERY glad I never posted about it online and risked family members seeing. Since then I'm extremely private about what I share on a non-password-protected "community" - it's still the internet. On Facebook I'm an open book. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341313 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 13:02:20 +0000 ladyfingers 341313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everything I post here has been voiced to people in my life. I have no illusions about online privacy and know that where there's a will, there's a way! Of course, my avatar is my personal picture and I don't make any attempt to conceal my occupation or my place of residence. So I always act as if everything I say online can be attributed back to me. Makes it a lot less sweaty! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341278 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 12:53:48 +0000 Turd Ferguson 341278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty much right with y'all. I'm pretty conscious about what I post, I make sure to not post anything that I wouldn't want anyone in "real life" to see (personal TMI things, negative things, etc.). With that being said, I think I'm pretty "linked in" (blog, facebook, etc.) and don't mind if someone finds me on here.</p> <p>If there's anything "negative" to discuss (which, don't get me wrong, there often is!), I have a few close friends/family that I keep those conversations to, so they're not able to be tracked back through the interwebz! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341276 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 12:53:27 +0000 mediagirl 341276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty open about things and even have my full name on my blog. I do keep my husband's name and our town private just because he's not involved in my online life. </p> <p>As for sites like Hellobee, I prefer to stay somewhat anonymous so no one from my professional life can find me in my favorite personal place. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341275 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 12:52:54 +0000 Adira 341275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When it comes to social networks (like Facebook), I'm an open book. I tend not to post too much anyway, so I'm not ashamed of anything I have up, including pictures.</p> <p>When it comes to somewhere like Hellobee though, I prefer to be a little more anonymous, only for my husband's sake. My husband is a VERY private person and I know he wouldn't appreciate half of the things I say, like when we have sex or any relationship issues we might have. That's why on forums, I prefer to be anonymous, out of respect for him. I don't mind people knowing that kind of stuff, because I have no sense of privacy, but Hubs would mind, so I don't want my Adira-self associated with my real-self. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341271 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 12:51:34 +0000 lavender 341271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anonymity is important to me on HB because even though I would share everything with everyone, I need to respect my LO's life (and like @mamamoose said, they're a lot of creeps out there!). That's why I haven't posted pictures of here on here. What if one day she does a search and finds out all this stuff about her on sites? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341256 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 12:46:04 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 341256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coco bee and @artbee - I share the same sentiments. I'm a pretty open and trusting person in general, but just don't post anything I might later regret. I am pretty active on a lot of social networks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341253 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 12:45:42 +0000 MamaMoose 341253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Partly because sometimes I like to have this space to vent about things I maybe wouldn't say outloud in real life. But also because there are a lot of creeps out there. Once you post something online any one and everyone can see it. And that makes me uncomfortable so I prefer to stay somewhat anonymous for safety. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341252 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 12:44:01 +0000 heffalump 341252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty much on the same page as you are. I'm pretty open to the point that I would be IRL. I'm not going to say anything that I don't want people to know, I'm not going to talk bad about someone for fear that they're going to find this site, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/out-of-curiosity-why-is-anonymity-important-to-you-in-hb#post-341247 Mon, 15 Oct 2012 12:41:51 +0000 Mrs. Pen 341247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a very open person. I like that I never had to hide anything or have a fear of someone finding something out about me. I've lived a pretty good life and haven't done much to be ashamed of. I openly admit to anything. </p> <p>I did however learn the hard way about online communities when I posted something not so nice and the person it was about found it. I have learned since to just refrain from posting anything I would regret later. Even if I post about a problem Imor issue I'm sure to never speak badly and ask myself if I'd be comfortable sharing this to their face.</p> <p>So that being said I feel no need to anonymity and if I truly have an issue I need to share I would create a separate account,</p> <p>Why is anonymity important to you?? I am genuinely curious :) </p>