https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 04:15:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/over-touched-by-the-kids#post-2915974 Thu, 28 May 2020 10:15:09 +0000 codeitall 2915974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: I told my 3 year old she couldn't come in the bathroom with me, she moved the stool, propped the door open and said "I just watch you, ok?" I died :silly: </p> <p>The bubble time concept is too much for my youngest I think, but using a timer for how long they can 'sit on me' has been successful! I've also done little tickle sessions (wrestling is too hard this pregnant haha) that are limited time only.</p> <p>I've also cheated and told them that the baby makes mom too hot so they need to periodically give me some room. Now 5yo DS will fan me with his arms to cool me down. Super sweet and no touching :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/over-touched-by-the-kids#post-2915862 Tue, 26 May 2020 12:06:10 +0000 MrsSRS 2915862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used a timer. "Mommy needs a few minutes of space. Until the timer goes off you are playing here and you are playing here and I am sitting in this chair." I'd start with five minutes then increase it. It was part of teaching independent play </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/over-touched-by-the-kids#post-2915856 Tue, 26 May 2020 08:53:21 +0000 josina 2915856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice, just commiseration! DH just does NOT get it that I need my own time at night once the kids are in bed. I get done with them needing me and then he needs me. Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/over-touched-by-the-kids#post-2915854 Tue, 26 May 2020 08:31:30 +0000 bhbee 2915854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hide in the bathroom? Just me? :silly: (Gotta lock the door though ... if I tell the toddler I’m going potty she just puts her hand out and says “come!”. My biggest cuddler used to love to sit in my lap while I went to the bathroom ... 😬)</p> <p>Stealing some of the ideas above! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/over-touched-by-the-kids#post-2915852 Tue, 26 May 2020 07:33:46 +0000 caitcat 2915852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@muffinsmuffins: My kids respond really well to time to wrestle like that, too. We’ve built in a few blocks for it in our day now, and it usually gets us a little peace afterward. </p> <p>My five year old has been in OT for some sensory stuff for a few years now and a lot of our tricks from OT are paying off to fill my younger one’s “touch” need through all of this now, too. We got her a cocoon swing like her big sister, and she told me it’s like getting a big hug...sometimes when she’s trying to get in my lap for the fortieth time while I’m working, I’ll put her in the swing as an alternative and she’ll (sort of) accept it for a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/over-touched-by-the-kids#post-2915851 Tue, 26 May 2020 06:37:21 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2915851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh yesssss both my boys and DW love languages are clearly physical touch. So we joke that we all need to occupy the same 2 feet of space at all times :meh: I know my older loves to sit on my lap when he wakes up to cuddle a watching tv so I will give him that. The little one is constantly climbing so I just take him off me. When they are getting annoying, I do get down on the floor and wrestle with them both for 10 minutes (not easy when pregnant for you though! Maybe hubby could do it?) and set a timer on my phone. After that, they are usually ok to go do their own thing for a bit. We also talk a lot about consent about touching bodies and encourage alone time in individual bedrooms if needed to get away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/over-touched-by-the-kids#post-2915850 Tue, 26 May 2020 06:17:55 +0000 meadow 2915850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you enact bubble time where everyone has personal space respected ..... and make sure other times of the day your bubble is popped and cuddles are ok?</p> <p>Make it clear that one can only pop their personal bubble so they can't pop yours?</p> <p>It could be fun for kids to enact it too ...... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/over-touched-by-the-kids#post-2915844 Mon, 25 May 2020 20:21:50 +0000 codeitall 2915844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Quarantine is driving me up a wall. I'm 34 weeks pregnant and my 3 and 5 year olds cannot stop touching me. I sit literally anywhere in the house and within minutes they're on either side of me to cuddle. Even sitting at my computer desk, they climb up into my nonexistent lap or pull up a chair next to me to lean on my arm. Obviously this doesn't count my poor husband, who inexplicably doesn't have kids on him all day, so he also wants to cuddle at night :meh: </p> <p>I know that when this baby comes, they're going to be even more needy and I'm going to be even more 'touched out' when they need reassurance, which apparently is through physical touch.</p> <p>Any ideas/thoughts on how to deal with this 'over touched' feeling? Or get my kids to glom on to DH? </p>