https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 15:05:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overreacting-to-in-laws#post-2436619 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 17:23:33 +0000 catomd00 2436619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I see why you'd be annoyed, but it sounds like you're still getting the desired outcome o the 28th so I'd drop it and move on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overreacting-to-in-laws#post-2436380 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 14:49:47 +0000 rachiecakes 2436380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alphagam84: We've only ever had kids play gym/Legoland/bowling birthday parties for DS (no home or family parties) and I think it's crazy to want to sing 'Happy Birthday' to an adult, bring him wrapped presents and ask my toddler/preschooler to share his kiddie party, lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overreacting-to-in-laws#post-2436323 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 14:26:36 +0000 Alivoo01 2436323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man! I'd be super annoyed too!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overreacting-to-in-laws#post-2436313 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 14:20:49 +0000 snowjewelz 2436313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be annoyed too.. And I get your viewpoint to want to combine the two... Def lesson learned for next time! Hopefully they don't give you any more attitude leading up or on the day of! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overreacting-to-in-laws#post-2436304 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 14:16:17 +0000 sooz 2436304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone -- it really helps to vent on this board! Yes, I definitely see my mistake with combining the two birthdays. </p> <p>Since it is family, best to just let it go! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overreacting-to-in-laws#post-2436265 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 14:00:18 +0000 runnerd 2436265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand the annoyance, but I think it would have all be avoided by just making it your son's celebration and not combining events "officially"; then just having a small side cake for MIL or something as a nod to her birthday.</p> <p>But I am of the mindset of preferring separate celebrations for birthdays. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overreacting-to-in-laws#post-2436238 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 13:47:43 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2436238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be annoyed too since they clearly missed the point- you were planning a family party just to celebrate your kid's bday. It sounds like your FIL was trying to nail down all bday plans for his grandkids. And then your SIL, who likely didn't read her husband's response was trying to be accommodating and celebrate every kid's birthday. At the end of the day, your day and time stick! Will you have a special cupcakes at least for your nephews since it sounds like the ILs or at least older SIL thinks this the all-all-inclusive family bday celebration?</p> <p>ETA: I totally missed the part about the MIL...no wonder SIL offered to host. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overreacting-to-in-laws#post-2436231 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 13:44:06 +0000 alphagam84 2436231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can see why they did it. If you were including MIL as part of the bday celebration, why wouldn't you include the other two family members? I would find it an odd request if it was just a party for your son. I would be really annoyed though at how their specific actions of how they went about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overreacting-to-in-laws#post-2436225 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 13:42:28 +0000 alphagam84 2436225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: My dad and I both have birthdays in the same month so growing up all of the family bday parties were joint (this was both sets of grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins on both sides of the family). I don't see why it would be a big deal for an adult and child to have their birthday's celebrated at the same time. Seems to make sense so people only need to find time in their schedule for one party vs. 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overreacting-to-in-laws#post-2436195 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 13:25:13 +0000 erinbaderin 2436195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd also be annoyed, but I think you have to let it go - ultimately you get what you wanted. But next year don't try to combine them, just have your own celebration your own way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overreacting-to-in-laws#post-2436163 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 13:11:55 +0000 rachiecakes 2436163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sooz: I'd be irritated. Like you said, the other two have parties with their friends already planned. This was just a 2-year old's celebration with family. </p> <p>Birthdays are stressful here as well. My son is 4 and his birthday is mid-December. Never mind the holidays, etc., but he was also born on my (adult) brother's birthday.<br /> My relatives, mostly my mother, always try to include my brother on the birthday. What?! He's a grown man. He's had many years of getting toys and cake. It's my son's turn, lol. Seriously, does my son have to share his birthday with my 33 year old brother? Ridiculous. </p> <p>Now that my son is older and in preschool, we're doing school parties. No more family parties. It will make this side of things easier! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overreacting-to-in-laws#post-2436162 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 13:11:00 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2436162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you're rightly annoyed but I would let it go. I think it's good you spoke up. Hopefully they're more aware I'm the future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overreacting-to-in-laws#post-2436131 Mon, 25 Jan 2016 12:56:24 +0000 sooz 2436131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry this is so long!</p> <p>For our son's 2nd birthday, my DH and I had decided to do a small family gathering and since DS birthday fell very close to my MIL's birthday, we decided that a joint celebration would be nice. So, my DH sent an email to his family and asked which weekend (choice of 2 weekends) would be better for everyone. Replies from both his older and younger brothers came in, and it was decided that 2/28 for an early dinner (5pm) would work for everyone.</p> <p>Within this email thread, my FIL replied, "Any thoughts about X &amp; X's birthdays which are in Feb, too?" These are my younger BIL's sons who's birthdays are 3 weeks before my son's birthday and who are significantly older and will be having a separate party with their friends. There was no response to his comment. So, we decided to move forward with dinner on 2/28 at 5pm. </p> <p>Next thing you know, my older SIL sends out an email with the title "February Birthday celebrations" and says that she will host the celebration (because she has a leftover ham that needs to be consumed before March) and since the 28th is not great for her kids' schedules since it's on a Sunday night, let's move it to another day. Younger SIL chimes in and says the 20th works for her and together they decide on the 20th and completely hijack the celebration.</p> <p>I'm sort of stunned and speechless because I had invited my family to this gathering since it's initial intent was to celebrate my son's 2nd birthday AND we're not even available on the 20th. So, I write a response back stating that exact thing...the initial intent was to celebrate DS's second birthday and we're not available on the 20th. </p> <p>There were two replies back with no apologies, just, "Well, I guess we should stick to the original plan for the 28th..." and "Can we have an early dinner on the 28th? We'll have to leave at 7:30." </p> <p>We WANT them to leave at 7:30. Our kids are in bed by 7:30! What really chaps my hide, though, is that had I done my older SIL, she'd be all up in arms. </p> <p>Just thinking about this gets me all hot and bothered again...Maybe I'm overreacting, but now, I don't even want to have a get together. Let them have their shin-dig with ham on the 20th and we'll have a nice quiet party with my side of the family on the 28th. </p> <p>Am I overreacting? Do I just let it go? </p>