https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 11:01:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overthinking-how-and-when-do-i-follow-up-on-email#post-2914716 Wed, 29 Apr 2020 14:51:34 +0000 Corduroy 2914716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for the responses. I can normally handle basic tasks like emails myself but this week has been something. </p> <p>After signing documents to close on our refi Friday or mortgage company ghosted on us. My parents also needed to sign but their notary never showed up for their appointment. I spent the last five days trying to get someone from the mortgage company to even acknowledge our existence. Every attempt I made just seemed to make the situation worse as I was sent in different directions. It added a lot of fuel to my social anxiety fire. The mortgage company finally responded today so hopefully the refi and my anxiety can get back on track. Or at least the refi. Then childcare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overthinking-how-and-when-do-i-follow-up-on-email#post-2914714 Wed, 29 Apr 2020 14:35:21 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2914714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm an inbox zero kind of person and right now it's taking me days to respond to email so definitely don't read too much into it, it might just be hard to sit down and write a note (it is for me!). I think it's totally fine to ping her Thursday/Friday and just make sure she got the note, give her an easy out like @jennypenny mentioned and ask her to let you know when she's able. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overthinking-how-and-when-do-i-follow-up-on-email#post-2914712 Wed, 29 Apr 2020 13:22:14 +0000 ALV91711 2914712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely follow up. I know for me some days I get busy and think about responding to people and then totally forget. </p> <p>Hopefully she’ll reply to the second one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overthinking-how-and-when-do-i-follow-up-on-email#post-2914706 Wed, 29 Apr 2020 12:35:50 +0000 JennyPenny 2914706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it’s worth checking in and the 3-5 day range seems like a reasonable window. One piece of advice I remember from somewhere is to give them an easy out. So include something like “I totally understand if this isn’t something you’re comfortable with given the possible health concerns” </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overthinking-how-and-when-do-i-follow-up-on-email#post-2914703 Wed, 29 Apr 2020 11:51:49 +0000 Corduroy 2914703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a serious overthinking alert but SIP has ramped up my anxiety.</p> <p>I reached out to my kids' amazing outdoor school teacher asking if she'd be interested in taking on the kids while DH and I worked. She's overqualified as a babysitter so I felt bad asking but she has a kid of similar age, has a rapport with my kids, and I told her I was asking her first just in case it worked out. It was clear I would pay but I indicated we we're flexible on what the arrangement would look like (# of hours, # of days/week). I also explained my essential role and that I was allowed to seek childcare. I asked her to let me know if she was interested.</p> <p>I emailed her this on Sunday and haven't heard back. We had been corresponding by email last week on another topic. In the first 24 hours I thought no immediate response was a good thing, like she was considering it. After three days I'm guessing it won't be a yes.</p> <p>What's the best way to check in? Or by saying 'let me know if you're interested' does no response mean no? </p>